The Use Of “cheating” Is A Kink Element That Some Do And Some Don’t Want To Include In Their Energy/scenes.

The use of “cheating” is a kink element that some do and some don’t want to include in their energy/scenes. For my part, “cheating” isn’t accurate and I have difficulty with roleplays that aren’t reflective of what is true at least in one sense or another. For example my wife might be “pathetic” while she begs and pleads for permission to cum, she isn’t actually pathetic. It is just a part of how she is existing within a given scenario’s energy. Becoming pathetic is a desired result.

Cheating, however, isn’t something she is doing when she’s fucking other men and “cheating” isn’t a desired result. She isn’t cheating unless she is breaking our rules/boundaries. So, to me, using “cheating” would innately mean that she’s breaking the agreement and trust that we have.

To use this particular language within a kink scenario we would need to redefine the meaning behind the use of “cheating” as a rules/boundaries breach of trust and call it something else. Maybe just as simple as that, “a breach of trust.”

With that sort of shift in language we could then roleplay the fiction of her “cheating” when she’s fucking other men without me present. It is important not to have confusing language surrounding trust violations.

All in all any of this presupposes that being able to “cheat” is a roleplay we would choose to do. Some men definitely are attracted to the idea of a woman who is cheating. They are excited by the idea that an attractive woman wants to fuck him so much that she’ll betray the trust of her marriage over it. (These kinds of guys can become stalker-y, even dangerously, so be mindful of that.)

However, it might just be good to develop and use alternate language like trust breach or trust violation as a general practice given the ubiquity of “cheating” as kink language among those who practice this or an adjacent sort of sexual scenario.