This is a fascinating read that does not tell you what you should make of the author's observations:
Interactions with [charismatic people] come with the least number of strings attached. It feels like they are just having fun, lightly playing with possibilities. They are not holding love hostage when you don't act in accordance with their desires. They respect your autonomy and intuition. They approach your presence with gratitude, but don't demand you stay forever. There is no hint of scarcity. They live in the realm of what is possible and abundant. There is little tension in their attentional field. Because they are in a fluid and spacious yet highly receptive and responsive state, they can meet you exactly where you are and entertain whatever comes up. They can flirt, joke around, dream, and love without restraint. They are not afraid of what happens, because no matter what happens, they know it will be fundamentally okay. I've noticed they don't leave what feels like a sticky "trace" after they are gone. I certainly remember them more vividly and am more deeply touched by them than others, but it lacks the feeling of molasses. This impression of sticky traces is very personal so I should probably illustrate what I mean with examples: I get the sticky traces when people guilt me, are passive aggressive, pedestalize me, ask things of me I don't believe are what they truly want and if I gave it to them anyway it's like feeding a hungry ghost. Every interaction with them feels like they are saying, "please love me" or "please make me feel okay" or "please give me a chance" or "I need you." This makes engaging with them complicated, not because I don't care about them, but because engaging with them is a bit of a foolish game where it won't really get you what you want and will also hurt me in the process, and this keeps me from wanting to get close. I can tell they have a series of tough knots, and they are haunted by them, but I cannot unknot it for them. I can only watch compassionately and try to point them to how they can unknot themselves, and also be present to the stickiness, because it is there. The stickiness accumulates like gunk that I then have to meditate, journal about, or otherwise process. It solidifies and reifies experience, convincing us the set of infinite possibilities is anything but infinite and boundless. It suffocates. Charismatic people are like empty vessels. They receive and pass on sensations without resistance. They are usually the one with the most regulated nervous system in the room, which allows them to encounter other people's ego/attentional structures and dance with them no matter what the exact configuration is, which is why charismatic people are charismatic to a wide variety of people—they literally fit better together with people in general! Contrast this with someone who has very rigid expectations or ideas of what kind of experience they *should* be having and fighting off what is arising if it conflicts with what they want. If a person with a very particular and rigid structure encounters a wide swath of people, the percentage of people their shape "fits" well with is a lot slimmer.
Rafif, my 11-year-old sister, deprived of her childhood, miraculously survived the targeting of our displacement site, along with the rest of my family. Death follows us everywhere. We're in Rafah, bewildered about how to escape this nightmare. Rafif sustained a minor injury to her foot, and she's scared, wondering how we can evade death. Please help me get Rafif and my family out of harm's way. Help us achieve the basic necessities of life, including childhood for this girl. Share the link or contribute, even if it's just a little, to be the reason for our rescue.
Help Helles family
There was no beauty in what we did to each other. And now there is no beauty in me.
there is something horrifically grim to it, but illustrations for gaza and palestinians tend to catch more mass attention that actual photos of people. this made me feel incredibly helpless for a long while, seeing both how people would rather look at a neat drawing of red black green and white than look a human in the eyes, and how online platforms would rather push a viral drawing while suppressing those begging for help at the same time.
a way to cope with this feeling has been taking advantage of it to directly guide people to helping palestinians.
if art gets better traction, then there’s an incredible amount of good that can be done by creating art that immediately links to fundraisers. creating art of the many images of those who are asking for help.
within hours of posting my drawing, there has been jumps in the thousands for bashar from gaza’s fundraiser. it’s a small effort in the grand scheme of things. it’s not a fix it. but it’s something good. please take care of each other and do what you can. i think this could help a lot of people if a lot of people did it.
here is bashar. i’ve drawn him, spoken to him, and known him now for a few months. any shares help, any art helps. draw who you see, draw what you see. thanks all
I’ve been a half life fan since I was a kid in the 2000s and I have never once had any issue with skibidi toilet (never even watched it tbh). On the contrary, I am so excited for kids growing up with it to find Half Life, and have to grapple with feeling fear and intrigue over the skibidi toilet guy. Like I want to see it so badly. I want to see them wrestling with the cognitive dissonance of what the gman actually is compared to how they were introduced to him
its so weird to me that skibidi is like popular among young kids like. so much of watching it is in the particularities of the source engine for me its. holy shit is that OLD DIRTY CONCRETE TEXTURE from the hit video games Half Life 2 And Garys Mod. holy shit is that 'sound of metal scraping' from the hit video game Half Life 2 WOAH that's Corrugated Metal Physics Object from my friend Garret Modular. which makes me really wanna see the reverse right like... somebody who's been huge into skibidi toilet doing a blind playthrough of hl2 and being woah its the fucking post apocalyptic toilet like from skibidi
no you dont get it... shadow the hedgehog was literally used over and over by people he should be able to trust to further their own selfish desires but despite this he was made in the name of love and always manages to find himself and do whats right for both the sake of the people he cares about and the sake of himself...... hes literally the dark guardian angel of the world
Yeah I’ve heard that before but it never seems to stick. No matter how many times people put forward this more enlightened idea of privilege, the wider leftist movement fails to adopt it, and we’re left in the same place of people acting like the disheveled homeless guy on the side of the street rambling to no one about nothing with seemingly no knowledge that everyone can hear him because he’s just that broken is benefitting from oppression or part of a privileged class because he’s white.
Its been said a thousand times but the idea that "privileged groups" are uniformly benefited by the oppression of their complementary "oppressed groups" is both detached from reality and fundamentally anti-solidarity
White agricultural workers in the antebellum and sharecropper-era american south did not fucking benefit from a captive black workforce working for nothing or close to it. They very much the opposite of benefited from this arrangement, and anyone trying to tell them otherwise was trying to sucker them. Cannot feed yr kids with psychological wages! What could compel anyone to intervene 150yrs after the fact on the side of the slavery propagandists?
People when they call someone a shitty person and they don’t immediately throw out their old moral compass and repent: 🤯🤯🤯
"Scrooge only changed because he saw how nobody mourned him after his death" NO NO NO NO. You don't get it! The last spirit only worked because of the spirits that came before softening him up! If the spirits had shown him dead and ungrieved only it would not work. As the night goes on amid the visits Scrooge is already visibly changing. He's different after the first spirit and even more so after the second. And it's because of how much he's already changed that the final spirit is able to succeed
Any support to my family in Palestine
Guys this family has been raising funds since May 10th and they've only received €30 out of 40,000
Khalil and his wife Amal have 4 kids.
Mohammed, 10, who you can see lost weight due to the genocide, famine and displacements
Sara, 16 years old, Ibrahim, 14, Karim, 12
The family is currently trapped in Rafah and they need our help to rebuild their lives. Donate. Boost if you can't
Also, the other reason it feels weird to me when people do the whole leftist talking point thing about how something like punishment or prison is always bad but THEN clearly think some people deserve the book thrown at them is, like…
When I did social services type pf work, i found it really difficult to work with people I knew had abused kids. Especially the ones who said things like, “you’re only wincing at that because you’re white, it’s so cute” or even worse, the ones who said “Look. My son is DISABLED. I can’t reason with him. I have to hit him, because nothing else works. And I have to use my belt, because he doesn’t respond to less pain than that. The courts are just wrong.” (Yes, I’ve heard that one repeatedly.)
If I could I’d ask other people tp handle these cases. But I couldn’t always, and sometimes I felt like askin* would mean having to disclose my own history to the coworker I was asking t9 take this stuff on when I didn’t want to.
So in some cases, repeating to myself “she’s a person, all persons should be fed, therefore I will help her to apply for food stamps and then run to the bathroom to clean myself because I feel dirty” was the only thing that kept me from saying no.
Which… I shouldn’t be unfair to people who haven’t experienced this thing. But it still troubles me when People spout “human rights are universal!” but then are like “shoot abusers dead on sight.”
Because like… you’re conveniently defining “human” to not include people you hate, there.
people think they have to come swinging out of the gate with blockbuster AAA work to "matter" when all you really need to be able to do is successfully convey an idea to the audience. some ideas benefit from a lack of polish or professional touches. those tiny projects with small audience are the source of big waves