I Think About This Very Often To But To Be Alive Is Such A Privilege. You Can Smell Flowers, Eat Freshly

May Mantra:

I've returned to myself before. I can do it again.

SOMEONE FINALLY SAID IT

Not letting people experience the consequences of their own actions is a form of people pleasing because it comes from a desire to avoid conflict & keep their approval at the expense of your own boundaries and self respect.

How to make life less excruciatingly "meh"???

This is a great question, love!

Deep clean your room - I mean stripping the bed, sheets, comforter, pillows! Wash it all. Go through clothes, fold them like Marie Kondo says! Old trinkets and clutter that you don’t need, be harsh and get rid of what’s unnecessary, make room for new adventures. Sweeping and mopping the floors. Dusting surfaces. Move the furniture until it feels right, rearrange the shelves.

Delete old contacts - Do you really talk to all the contacts on your phone? Are they serving you well? Get rid of old ones, strangers, things that clutter. Likewise, think deeply about real-life relationships. Do they still serve you? If not all you have to do is walk away.

Go through your music library - Play all your songs and if you skip a song or seem bored of it delete it without hesitation. What if you miss it? You won’t notice it’s gone, and eventually, you may rediscover your love for it! Make playlists for moods, adventures, stories! Romanticize life!

Go through clothes - Dump everything on the floor, sort, fold, clean. What’s ripped and needs to be mended? What’s beyond repair? What do you love, what do you hate? Do you really wear it? If not bag it up and donate it to goodwill. This seriously helped me so much. Now everything in your wardrobe serves a purpose. Also, explore new styles, colors, everything! Have fun with it!

Journal/Do a brain dump - Write about everything. Write until there’s no more to say. Clear your head, let go of things you can’t solve. Read through it a week or two later, what do you notice? Were you stressed about a specific type of thing? Was there a way you phrased things? A common thread?

Don’t run away from your problems - A big stressor we often push to the back is work, school, or responsibility. If you’re stuck in a procrastination loop make a list of every unfinished task you can think of and do a speed run. Green = What can you do now? Yellow = What can you do soon/with help? Red = What do you need to wait on/handoff to someone else.

Freshen up your nutrition - I do not mean diet. Screw that, learn how to cook foods that are good for you, check to see what vitamins you need and find vegetables/fruits with them. Are you tired a lot? Iron. Nails weak? Calcium. Unusually melancholy? Vitamin D. Don’t settle for discomfort. Learn what foods you love! Explore!

Reassess your goals/habits - This part can suck. Sometimes we have goals w hold onto we just can’t let go of. But is that what you still want or are you telling yourself you should want it? Make new goals, start small, work up to big ones.

Explore! - Wherever you live I guarantee there is something really neat nearby if you look closer! Go to museums, galleries, parks, forests, restaurants, cafes. Learn about everything. Explore intellectually, listen to TED talks, classical music and literature, join a book club. Explore creatively, find what makes you burn with passion and excitement. Learn a new skill by investing an hour a day

This year I wish you…

abundance of health, abundance of love, and abundance of success.

clear skin, clear head and clear boundaries of what you no longer allow into your life.

blazing confidence and blazing strength to smash those goals.

and most importantly, may you be surrounded by loving and beautiful people who support you in every way.

Henry Cavil's Sherlock Holmes 100%, without a shadow of a doubt, is into dark skin black women. His arch nemesis? Plus the vibes he had with Edith? And then on top of that, the fact that Watson is a beautiful brown man?? I love to see it.

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Enola Holmes (2020) Dir: Harry Bradbeer

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