I came to this realization years ago but: Korea loves Kpop girls, but don't love the actual girl.
They love the persona: the aegyo, the sexy stage, the bubbly songs, the submissiveness of female idols.
However, when these girls; these women (because I feel like some of them aren't even seen as that) are vocal about feminism, inequality, self love, or take any control over their lives; they are demonized in an instant. If someone leaked pictures of them that were supposed to be private, they are slut shamed, attention whores, ugly, or not that talented to begin with.
And this isn't restricted to kpop. This isn't restricted to Korea itself. But this is a factor, one of many, that messes with someone's mental state. Which could lead to things like suicide.
This quick "shoot down idols for being slightly flawed or human" is prevalent to both genders. We've lost idols from both genders. But there will ALWAYS be a different standard for women because they are supposed to be the pure innocent person that fits the societal gaze.
At the end of the day, if we do not break that mentality thrusted at us that these female idols (and all idols too) are simply here to be Barbie dolls and not human beings, then we run the risk of losing another idol.
u kno when u see a really awful comment on some post and go to the blog and its always the same shit its like “im a 24 year old man. interests include libertarian politics and bdsm. i think poor people should die”
Trans Black girls who need love
Size 20 Black girls Scene/alternative/nerdy Black girls Black girls with acne or scarring Dark skinned Black girls who aren’t fuckable to u Monoracial Black girls with Black features Disabled Black girls Black girls who say “fuck respectability politics” Black girls with 4c natural hair Black girls who critique the Black community and the damage it has done to us.. Etc…
Like. Black girls matter whether you like us or not.
I love Star Wars to death but nothing broke my heart more than seeing a North African coded Muslim character bombing the Jedi temple ;-;
the torch has been past down 💛
This reminds me when book of life was rejected by Disney but as soon as it was successful they created Coco >:l
also :re that last post about white people at disney creating latin american movies. they literally steal the stories from latin american people. i wouldn’t be surprised if encanto was actually made by a colombian person but disney stole the rights to it.
something similar happened with coco. where coco was inspired off of a town and the story of an old woman, and disney didn’t give them a dime.
girls in STEM fields, reblog if you agree
Imagine all of the insufferable oscar bait quarantine movies that are gonna come out in a few years, about a husband and wife forced to stay home together, and slowly learn to actually love and appreciate their spouse.
Please shut your ass up. First of all,TERFS were never about love and acceptance (they don’t accept trans women as real women lol), so you can stop harping over there. A black trans women led a stonewall riot for the LGBT community.
Now do the rest of Tumblr a favor, and log off
To break down this whole situation on marshmallowfury, she did nothing truly wrong. What she did “wrong” was go against one of the most popular opinions in the LGBT+ community. Here, let me say it again. You’re all yelling about a popular OPINION. The LGBT+ community was built on love, acceptance and equality. So to see people who are a part of that community tell someone to die for their beliefs, but get mad when someone else does it? It really shows me that the community is tainted and toxic. “She’s making money off of the LGBT+ community and the people in it!” Ok, well. You can make money off of anything, really, your point? She’s not directly marketing for the LGBT+ community, so that accusation is incredibly stupid. Now while I don’t agree that letting every trans woman into the bathroom will result in rape, there is clear evidence it has occurred, but this is not putting all trans women on the spot. Let me repeat, THIS IS NOT PUTTING ALL TRANS WOMEN ON THE SPOT. Rape can occur regardless, and your identity has nothing to do with it, your overall character does. You have the right to be who you are and you have the right to express it in any way you want to, but that won’t stop someone from having their opinions about you, and or, what you stand for. It also won’t stop a law that keeps you out of said bathroom, and an expressed opinion over your identity won’t and CAN’T stop you from being who you are. To be very clear, I can see points from both sides of this argument. I don’t solely support either side, but I don’t believe in or support all of the hate that is getting shoved in Marsh’s face. There is saying a fact, that being that trans women were not born women, and then there is respecting what someone wants to be called, and or, known as. To which she has every right to not do that. She does not have to respect you if you’re not respecting her. If she went around to to a bunch of trans women’s blogs, or support blogs, and sent direct hate, then I could understand the argument, but she hasn’t. She has kept it to herself until you all went and graciously “exposed” her. For every attempt she’s tried at an apology, or to try and be genuine, she has received hate, so I don’t blame her for feeling frustrated. And to also add, one of my best friends is trans. He has also stated that there’s nothing wrong with pointing out that someone wasn’t born with the gender they identify as. It’s not hate to say that, it’s fact. And to also make something very clear, a lesbian not wanting to sleep with a trans woman is not transphobic. The person could be transphobic, but just because they don’t want to sleep with someone who isn’t a biological female does NOT, by ANY means, make them transphobic. Being a lesbian means exactly that. Liking girls. They have a term for what you’re accusing her and other lesbians for. It’s called being Pansexual which means you like all genders and everything far and in between. But to be lesbian means you like women that are biological females unless the person states otherwise. It would be a direct lie if someone asked you if you were male or female biologically speaking and you said the opposite of what you were born with. Much like what you’re also saying with how you’d had “trust” in Marsh, someone can also trust in you to tell them the truth about yourself before they proceed to do anything with you. I would feel deeply lied to if I had asked someone what their biological sex was and they had stated that they were female, and or, male, but clearly weren’t. You can tell someone, very clearly, “I am not biologically female, but I do identify as a woman.” It’s really that simple and it clears up a lot. The whole “Lesbians who don’t want to sleep with trans women is transphobic.” Is the same concept as dating someone who identifies as bisexual, or bi-curious, and the person realizes they are straight, and or, lesbian/gay. You feel as if it’s unfair because you love them and want them to accept you, but your identity won’t make up for their comfort. And if they aren’t comfortable with you and your identity, then it’s time to move on. Just because they don’t want to sleep with or date you, doesn’t mean they hate you. You don’t try to force your identity on people. It won’t work. You move on and find people who will accept you. And I’ll say this, just because you think someone is being an asshole, going OUT OF YOUR WAY to be an asshole back and bash them, doesn’t justify shit and it doesn’t make you a better person.