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A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.

“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”

Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.

My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.

“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”

Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.

“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.

What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.

Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.

And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?

just a reminder:

a black girl character growing her hair out long breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having short hair

a black girl character getting to be soft and fragile breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being strong all the time

a black girl character being protected and comforted by others breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character having no one to look out for her but herself

a black girl character being considered pretty or cute by other characters breaks more stereotypes than a black girl character being considered unattractive

not everything that is empowering for white girls is empowering for black girls

the sexism we face overlaps, but it is not the same

When u meet the egg quota but there's only one player left with less than 10 seconds left on the clock

when hayao miyazaki said that true love was two people inspiring each other to live…recognizing just how hard living is, putting one foot in front of the other every day, how easy it is to lose our passion for it…… that’s the real shit

Euphoria Spoilers!!

Jules was worried about rue cheating… just so she could cheat ???

Please shut your ass up. First of all,TERFS were never about love and acceptance (they don’t accept trans women as real women lol), so you can stop harping over there. A black trans women led a stonewall riot for the LGBT community.

Now do the rest of Tumblr a favor, and log off

Marshmallowfury

To break down this whole situation on marshmallowfury, she did nothing truly wrong. What she did “wrong” was go against one of the most popular opinions in the LGBT+ community. Here, let me say it again. You’re all yelling about a popular OPINION. The LGBT+ community was built on love, acceptance and equality. So to see people who are a part of that community tell someone to die for their beliefs, but get mad when someone else does it? It really shows me that the community is tainted and toxic. “She’s making money off of the LGBT+ community and the people in it!” Ok, well. You can make money off of anything, really, your point? She’s not directly marketing for the LGBT+ community, so that accusation is incredibly stupid. Now while I don’t agree that letting every trans woman into the bathroom will result in rape, there is clear evidence it has occurred, but this is not putting all trans women on the spot. Let me repeat, THIS IS NOT PUTTING ALL TRANS WOMEN ON THE SPOT. Rape can occur regardless, and your identity has nothing to do with it, your overall character does. You have the right to be who you are and you have the right to express it in any way you want to, but that won’t stop someone from having their opinions about you, and or, what you stand for. It also won’t stop a law that keeps you out of said bathroom, and an expressed opinion over your identity won’t and CAN’T stop you from being who you are. To be very clear, I can see points from both sides of this argument. I don’t solely support either side, but I don’t believe in or support all of the hate that is getting shoved in Marsh’s face. There is saying a fact, that being that trans women were not born women, and then there is respecting what someone wants to be called, and or, known as. To which she has every right to not do that. She does not have to respect you if you’re not respecting her. If she went around to to a bunch of trans women’s blogs, or support blogs, and sent direct hate, then I could understand the argument, but she hasn’t. She has kept it to herself until you all went and graciously “exposed” her. For every attempt she’s tried at an apology, or to try and be genuine, she has received hate, so I don’t blame her for feeling frustrated. And to also add, one of my best friends is trans. He has also stated that there’s nothing wrong with pointing out that someone wasn’t born with the gender they identify as. It’s not hate to say that, it’s fact. And to also make something very clear, a lesbian not wanting to sleep with a trans woman is not transphobic. The person could be transphobic, but just because they don’t want to sleep with someone who isn’t a biological female does NOT, by ANY means, make them transphobic. Being a lesbian means exactly that. Liking girls. They have a term for what you’re accusing her and other lesbians for. It’s called being Pansexual which means you like all genders and everything far and in between. But to be lesbian means you like women that are biological females unless the person states otherwise. It would be a direct lie if someone asked you if you were male or female biologically speaking and you said the opposite of what you were born with. Much like what you’re also saying with how you’d had “trust” in Marsh, someone can also trust in you to tell them the truth about yourself before they proceed to do anything with you. I would feel deeply lied to if I had asked someone what their biological sex was and they had stated that they were female, and or, male, but clearly weren’t. You can tell someone, very clearly, “I am not biologically female, but I do identify as a woman.” It’s really that simple and it clears up a lot. The whole “Lesbians who don’t want to sleep with trans women is transphobic.” Is the same concept as dating someone who identifies as bisexual, or bi-curious, and the person realizes they are straight, and or, lesbian/gay. You feel as if it’s unfair because you love them and want them to accept you, but your identity won’t make up for their comfort. And if they aren’t comfortable with you and your identity, then it’s time to move on. Just because they don’t want to sleep with or date you, doesn’t mean they hate you. You don’t try to force your identity on people. It won’t work. You move on and find people who will accept you. And I’ll say this, just because you think someone is being an asshole, going OUT OF YOUR WAY to be an asshole back and bash them, doesn’t justify shit and it doesn’t make you a better person.

well. this wasn't on my 2021 bingo card

fun fact if you refer to children as "things" and use "it" when referring to children and are happy to see children cry and get hurt im stealing something from your house