“A “conflict Model” Of Bisexuality (in Research Circles, In Researchers’ Minds) Assumes That

“Most of our lives are played out on the middle ground. To recognize this doesn’t mean that it is better or worse. This space in between gives us valuable information and, when recognized in relation to the absolute extremes, it helps communicate our various realities to each other. As those of us who don’t believe in the walls and fences join forces and speak out about our lives, the middle ground reminds everyone that we are part of the whole. And yes, this whole contains important extremes, but it is the vast expense of gray areas where most of us live.”

- Loraine Hutchins and Lani Ka’ahumanu, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

“I am married and monogamous. Not much of a bisexual you say. Yet my bisexuality influences my perception and my decisions. More than having sexual relations with both genders, bisexuality is a mind frame, a reference point from which to view the world. Being bisexual has more to do with potential than actuality.”

- Amanda Yoshizaki, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

thank you masochists for existing so that people like me can lovingly beat you up

I really, really want to ... take my time.

I want to strip him nude, and lay across his legs, and fondle him.

Stroke, squeeze, tease ... I want to take in the sight, sound, and smell of him as he becomes steadily more aroused. I want to praise, encourage, and coax.

Kiss the tender tip of his cock when it seeps precum. Press my lips on the underside of his cock with it twitches and rub my swollen lips over it, wetting it with my saliva until he's shiny. Lick the tip of his cock slowly, teasingly in circles until his legs buck underneath me. Palm his balls tenderly, and wet them with my tongue.

I want to make it last, because I crave it. I want to savor each sensation. And when his sweet whines and moans turn to sincere entreaty-

Please. Please stroke it. Suck. Let me come, please. Make me come-

When I can feel his need in my bones, I'll straddle his face amd show him what the game has done to me.

Then, maybe I might fulfill his wish. Or maybe, I might take him out to lunch, still half-hard and needy.

“This culture is not only heterosexist, homophobic, and biphobic, it is thunderously sex-phobic, and we women especially have borne the brunt of it. It seemed we could only choose between pristine purity - with attendant boredom - or infamy as sluts. Worse, if we showed any interest in sex at all, sexist men would take that as an invitation to walk all over us and abuse us. Even if we showed no interest, sexist males would take our mere femaleness as invitation. No wonder the radical-feminist line hardened around an anti-sex stance, and the whole realm of sex had become tainted by all that uninvited, often violent attention.

But, isn’t it about time to reconquer the realm of sex for ourselves? Isn’t it time for this woman to ask: “What do I want? What turns me on? Who turns me on if I’m not influenced by any attitudes whatsoever, neither from left nor right, neither from straight nor gay and lesbian? Isn’t it time to finally drop all labels of sick or sinful or politically incorrect? Is this not the most revolutionary act as a woman could perform today?””

- Ellen Terris, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

“(Bisexual) stereotypes result from the ambiguous position of bisexuals, poised as we are between what currently appear as two mutually exclusive sexual cultures, one with the power to exercise violence repression against the other.”

- Lisa Orlando, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

“Bisexuality… is a permanent state of flux, a liminal space where you can be either/or, but you can also be neither/nor…

You have chosen (or, if you prefer, been chosen by) an unfixed, untitled, and shape-shifting identity. One that by definition resists categorisation. Instead it commands flexibility, restlessness, the endless possibility of change.”

- Chitra Ramaswamy, The Bi-ble: an anthology of personal essays and narratives about bisexuality