THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It May Save A Life, It May Save Your Life.)
THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)
An Article from Neena Susan Thomas
“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”
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Ten years is insane (kintsugi kid and all). There was a part of me that thought we might never step on stage together again. So to get this chance to get in the studio and make this was a dream. Post hiatus we weren’t sure it would move the needle. So thank you for showing up. Thank you for going on this adventure with us (the second time is a charm). Listening to this one today and remembering the way it felt.
shay’s bandom link dump
basically heres a bunch of links to rare-ish bandom (mostly fob) shit ive collected over the years, or my favs, or just shit i didnt wanna lose so i bookmarked. yeah
youtube videos
acoustic performance of send my love to the dance floor by cobra starship
ryland x alex smh
back to school: cobra starship
this is basically patrick bitching about shitty movies with joe chiming in, circa 05
fob on trl 07
fob tour update 06
fob tour diary 08
fob ap mag shoot
fob china update 09
hct with joe
fob interview, 07
fob & blink tour update
joe troh’s pop trivia test 2013
rock star guide to fob
06 interview w andy, patrick, pete
pete doin some weird shit with a dummy
nintendo fusion tour update w patrick
fob & gch interviews, decaydance festival
fob stripped interview
fob on like. mtv mexico. circa 07
fob & their custom honda civic, circa 07
IM A LITTLE GIRL. ON A HILL.
joe & patrick kiss interview vid
patrick & andy interview in amsterdam, october 08
lullabye live + pete talking
original version of ms jackson
fob one year later vid
pete & patrick onstage banter from ‘07 (thats what she said)
charlie (the old security guy) interviewing patrick + patrick bein cute, circa 07
pete letting patrick smash a cake in his face on stage
patrick sayin “i’ve read the fanfic” !?!?
vimeo/mtv/fuse videos
jackass giving fob an mtv award, wee-man attacking patricks balls & then running off w him
fob + their monkey at the 06 vmas
only performance i’ve ever seen of panic at the 06 vmas that includes fob introducing them
fob boombox all access
patrick at his high school in 09
patrick live in tampa in 2011
fob interview from 2013, pete in shorts
bnd tour japan update 1
bnd tour japan update 2
bnd tour australia update 1
welcome to cat heaven
behind the scenes of open happiness w pstump
fuse from the vault with fob
patrick + t.i. on soundclash
patrick + andy performance from 2014
that vid where andy kisses patrick on the cheek
rare conan performance of my songs
fob documentary from 06 with rare footage (fav of mine.)
articles
patrick talking about food in 2011
illinois entertainer interview w patrick, march 07
rolling stone: on the tour bus gallery during honda civic tour
rolling stone: march 2006 interview with fob
pete talking about getting arrested
alex from cobra interviewing disashi from gch
spencer smith talking about patrick & bden’s mankini
patrick interview circa sr&r
pete interview from 2008
interview with andy, ‘07
fob interview, ‘05
gabe’s first interview with out magazine
gabe’s second interview with out magazine
butch walker & patrick interviewing each other
funny interview with patrick from 2007
pete talking about patrick in 2011
patrick talking about soul punk
livejournal
17 year old patrick commenting on a friend of the band’s lj
17 year old patrick at it again
fob’s old manager’s lj
fob’s old merch boy’s lj
huge bandom primer/picspam
joe x patrick primer
ryan x brendon primer
alicia way primer cuz im gay for her
the academy is primer
another tai primer
primer on girls in bands!!
my favorite bandom primer
bandom primer kinda
gabe saporta primer
gabe/cobra primer
ray toro pic spam
ryan ross pic spam
pstump pic spam
pstump pic spam 2
pstump pic spam 3
bandom in red pic spam
bandom & their clothes pic spam
sort of a hemingway / petexpatrick pic spam?
legit like every bandom pic spam ever (boo and yah)
fob website lesser known q&a
sixteen candles verse primer thing
snippets from rare fob interview
andy interview from 07
pete buzznet update from 08
fob+mcr/pete+mikey primer/picspam
pete ‘the pros and cons of breathing’ march 2002
’02 pete talking abt him and andy in 20 years (meaning 2022 - not too far away wow)
thousands of bandom fic recs
more recs
some more recs :’)
mikey x patrick recs
virtual honda civic tour merch booth
archived stuff (stuff that’s not on the internet anymore & is only accessible thru wayback machine)
fob’s website circa 03
fob’s website circa 07
photo gallery on fob’s old site
pete’s profile on foe, may 06
clan industries site, may 06
foe website, june 06
ock website, april 2010
pete’s interview with out magazine
‘04 interview with andy & pete
‘04 interview with andy, pete, & patrick
gabe’s take on the elisa drama (not patrick’s elisa, cobra’s old keytarist)
something about patrick bitching about this senator guy idk
interview with patrick circa folie
patrick’s fave albums from 2006
tumblr
soul punk masterpost
scans of fob’s photo book
patrick’s old blog posts
the jeanae white story
fob’s dirty doing some boxing thing
motion city soundtrack talking about fob
pete & patrick onstage banter from 2014
pete slapping patricks ass at a show from 2014
pre-futct version of sugar were goin down
patrick singing in ‘07 with lupe fiasco. pete stands on his chair to applaud
my favorite pete x patrick pictures
masterpost i put together of pstump bein gay
my bottom patrick/top pete picspam
full joetrick kiss video
misc.
more fic recs
even more fic recs
and some more
petes blogs: one, two, three, four, five, six
this is a playlist from an australian music channel in 2007. thought it was cool idk
patrick bts, dance dance vid
patrick talking about politics in 2011
tons of soul punk pics
transcript of sixteen year old patrick talking shit about eminem on cnn in 2001. hes ‘unidentified male’. (ive been trying to get the vid for years. can’t :/)
trippy bandom rp board from ‘06
supposedly an excerpt from pete & bill beckett’s never-published book
m&g pics from monumentour
downloadable mp4 of joe & patrick talking about kissing
downloadable, only good quality vid of patrick on law&order
audio interview from 2013
can you believe that 10 years ago today fall out boy did the unbelievable. they did what bands can normally never do, at least not successfully, and absolutely not as successfully as they did. 10 years ago today fall out boy came off of their break, they came off of their hiatus and came back together with an entirely new attitude, new music, a new spring in their step and even more heart and passion and determination for what they were doing- making music that They loved for the people that needed it. they were so unsure, they didn't know if people would show up, if people still cared about fall out boy. they didn't know if this new album, this comeback album, would really be their last one- what if they did this, and no one cared? but 10 years ago today they announced that they were back, and got to see Just how many people cared. So Many people cared So Much that fall out boy was back in an invigorated, modern, Happy form. their shot in the dark comeback album, full of every ounce of passion and care they could possibly infuse into it in it, hit number one. sold thousands in its first week. was certified platinum. in those ten years? they've had two more number one albums, countless successful tours, a grammy nomination. and what about exactly 10 years later? they're selling out stadiums. releasing a highly anticipated eighth studio album. making music still infused with every ounce of passion and care that they could possibly infuse in it. for themselves, for us. because they still care, and we have proved that we do too. like a phoenix they rose from the ashes and are still rising!! we don't know when to quit, and they don't either 🥺
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