some thoughts/reminders based on what i’ve seen on social media today:
this decision doesn’t just impact women! it impacts anyone who has a uterus! say what you mean and mean what you say, your words have weight and meaning! (glad we could clear that up)
grieving is normal. having big, messy, unwieldy feelings is normal. taking the time to recognize and sit in those emotions is important. wanting to protest is good. wanting to change things is great. being in touch enough with your emotions to recognize that you’re experiencing trauma is just as important.
everyone processes differently. my reaction may not look like your reaction, and yours might not look like the reactions of your friends/family members. many people have jobs/situations that preclude them from taking the sort of actions they’d like to in response to this/other social injustices they’ve seen recently. hold space for those people, the people sticking it out in places where they can’t speak their minds for the sake of creating a better place for those who come after them.
the people in the U.S. didn't ask for this. CNN polled americans after the draft opinion leaked in early may, and at the time 59% of respondents said that they'd support congressional legislation codifying nationwide abortion rights. I know it's easy to make fun of the U.S. by calling us a dumpster fire or saying you're glad your country didn't do this, but know that there are real people on the other side of the globe from you who are reeling from the whiplash of swiveling their gaze between children being gunned down in their schools and the supreme court attempting to delegitimize reproductive rights. it's not a joke for them, particularly not for those who fall into multiple minority communities and will now be facing the brunt of this ruling head-on in more ways than one.
for fucks sake. donate to abortion healthcare providers. not just PP (we love them too, but the smaller ones need the most help). learn how to support yourself/your friends in the event that you need to get an abortion and don’t live in a state where it’s protected. spend time/money investing in the protection of the rights of the groups that found out halfway through the morning that they have fewer rights than family members only one generation above them. grieve with them. care for them. act just as loudly as your words and posts.
Some helpful links re:putting your money where your mouth is below the cut
Links:
National Abortion Federation (the largest national, toll-free, multi-lingual Hotline for abortion referrals and financial assistance in the U.S. and Canada, providing callers with accurate information, confidential consultation, and referrals to providers of quality abortion care)
National Network of Abortion Funds (direct donation to over 90 local abortion providers, allows you to customize your donation amount + direction)
The Abortion Privacy Guide (how to safely search for abortion access from a device)
Abortion Finder (comprehensive directory of verified abortion service providers)
Repro Legal Helpline (help with specific, legal questions about an abortion experience)
Mayday Health’s Twitter Thread and Plan C (directions on how to request abortion pills for at-home abortion access)
Donations4Abortions (resource to help you find local funds to support from state to state)
Indigenous Women Rising (abortion fund for all indigenous people who are seeking abortion services)
The Brigid Alliance (national abortion fund that arranges/funds all aspects of the abortion process no matter where the person seeking the abortion is located)
I Need An A (provides personalized, up to date info on how to get an abortion)
MA Hotline (licensed healthcare providers to answer medical questions during an at home miscarriage/abortion)
Exhale Pro-Voice, Connect and Breathe (post-abortion counseling services)
Reprocare (emotional support during medical abortion process)
Hey btw, here's a piece of life advice:
If you know what you'd have to do to solve a problem, but you just don't want to do it, your main problem isn't the problem itself. Your problem is figuring out how to get yourself to do the solution.
If your problem is not eating enough vegetables, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make vegetables stop being yucky". If your problem is not getting enough exercise, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make exercise stop sucking ass". You're not supposed to just be doing things that are awful and suck all the time forever, you're supposed to figure out how to make it stop being so awful all the time.
I used to hate wearing sunscreen because it's sticky and slimy and disgusting and it feels bad and it smells bad, so I neglected to wear it even if I needed to. Then I found one that isn't like that, and doesn't smell and feel gross. Problem solved.
There is no correct way to live that's just supposed to suck and feel bad all the time. You're allowed to figure out how to make it not suck so bad.
42+ ways to fix a story in progress
(Also posted on: 42+ ways to fix a story)
Here is a list of (some) ways to fix a draft or story in progress. I started it in the observation journal when I was struggling with some story changes.
In summary, these can be reduced to intensify; focus/tighten; swap/invert. But in a tight spot, specifics are often more useful. And making the list was also important, because it reassured me I knew all these techniques, and had used them before, and should calm down.
List 10 terrible endings (adapted from a Helen Marshall exercise), or just 20 endings. Or 100…
Re-outline it
Map it onto another story (I like to quick-outline fairy tales until one resonates, and then identify the parts to strengthen)
Fill it out as a synopsis questionnaire (I used to use Sue Dennard’s 1-page synopsis to trap story ideas)
Ask — what is the story behind the story?
Change the place
Change the era
Genderflip main character
Genderflip everyone
Change the genre
Change the adjectives
Describe the story in one emotion, & align/adjust
Do the same for each scene/section (see also three moods)
Flip (main) character’s personality (quiet to loud, etc)
What happens after
What happens before
What’s happening at the same time
It’s a metaphor for: ___
Pick/change emotional note for end
Scene-map
Match to 3-act structure
Match to 5-act structure
Give characters a preoccupation or secret
Start it later
Start it earlier
End it earlier
End it later
Map it onto a song
Blow something up
Make everything worse
Change [define & intensify] the aesthetic
Explain the reasons
Invert
Make it/ the weak bits A Whole Thing
Make it/ the weak bits a Good/Bad Thing
Make it/ the weak bits The Shape of the World
Tell from a non-obvious point of view (see also: by whom and to whom, and some less common points of view)
Change the type of character in the role (think archetypes and stereotypes)
Change drama – pose (?)
Change motifs
Change sentence structure
Change form, shape (e.g. list, pastiche, non-fiction)
And to these I’d add:
change voice, and
change age.
I might add more as I go. But in the meantime: hey, my debut collection of short stories, KINDLING, is now out from Small Beer Press (in the USA, and coming soon to Australia). It includes the new story “Annie Coal”. And if you look closely at the journal page above, you’ll see that was the story I was editing when I made this list.
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Friendly reminder to not punish yourself for creating.
people think they shouldn't vote as a protest or whatever because they've been raised on boycotts. which do sometimes work.
boycotts deprive the target of money.
not voting does not deprive the government of money.
it does, however, deprive you of power.
it's not like a boycott.
And if that's too much, take it breath by breath.
the key to surviving grad school (also maybe life but definitely grad school) is to pick a side quest every few months or so. something that brings you joy and that you can get better at over time, independent of whether or not your research or classes are going well. put your need for academic validation to use in a non-academic setting and everything will feel less dire and you will learn you are more than your work
Ilia fucking Malinin’s world record breaking free skate
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