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Being honest may not get you a lot of friends, but it'll always get you the right ones.

“Because they knew each other’s thoughts, they even quarrelled without speaking.”

— Bruce Chatwin

Do you Suffer from Imposter Syndrome?

Impostor syndrome is a psychological condition where people are unable to believe in their successes. Thus, despite the evidence that points to the fact that they are skilled, capable and competent they write this off as temporary – or timing and good luck. Thus, they constantly struggle with feeling like a fraud.

So what are some ways that you can counteract this syndrome?

1. Admit this is something that you suffer from. When we know we’re not alone, and our symptoms have a name it can help disperse the feelings of anxiety and shame.

2. Distinguish between facts and feelings. Everyone feels stupid and inept at times. That doesn’t mean we’re stupid. Our feelings aren’t facts.

3. Don’t demand perfection. It is good to set goals and have high standards for yourself. However, it’s unhealthy to obsess over every little thing. You’ll simply waste a lot of time and never feel quite satisfied.

4. Take a look at the rules you have imposed upon yourself. Are you saying to yourself: “I have to always get it right”; or ”I should never ask for help”; or “It is bad to make mistakes”? These are misguided rules that undermine your self-esteem. They set you up for failure as they close the door to help.

5. Change the tapes in your head. Instead of constantly repeating faulty self-destructive thoughts (such as “Wait till they discover just how useless I am”) replace it with a thought that builds esteem and confidence.

6. Don’t look to others to affirm your success. Don’t look to other people to rate and judge your work. Set your own personal goals, and note the progress you have made.

7. Fake it till you make it. Almost every individual who succeeds in life has a time when they’re acting, as they don’t feel confident. It means that they’re still learning, and are not afraid to try.

After Kirkwall aims to show what happened to our ragtag crew after the events of DA2. Applications for writers and artists are open until March 8th. 

Please be sure to read through the requirements listed for each contributor type within the application. Can’t wait to see what you all bring to the table! 

Applicants will be notified of status after applications close, between March 8-10th. 

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All Negative Disharmonious Conditions

All negative disharmonious conditions are sublime siddhis, since negative conditions intensify the yogin’s experience, since one understands the true state of negative conditions without avoiding them, train in them, maintain that, and practise until coming to the conclusion of experience and realisation, just as a good horse is encouraged by a quirt.

— Mahasiddha Virupa

Friendships In Ancient India Through Subhashits

आतुरे व्यसने प्राप्ते दुर्भिक्षे शत्रु संकटे।

राजद्वारे श्वशाने च यस्तिष्ठति स वान्धवः।।

The real friend is the one who stays in the court and in the crematorium when he is sick, in trouble, in famine, when he is endangered by the enemy.

विवादो धनसम्बन्धो याचनं चातिभाषणम्।

आदानामग्रतः स्थानं मैत्रीभङ्गस्य हेतवः।।

Quarrels, financial relations, taking loans, incessant chatting and desire for unwanted competitions are the reasons for destroyed friendships.

आढ् यतो वापि दरिद्रो वा दुःखित सुखितोऽपिवा ।

निर्दोषश्च सदोषश्च व्यस्यः परमा गतिः ॥

Rich or poor, grieving or joyful, innocent or bastard; A friend is the biggest supporter of the man.

चन्दनं शीतलं लोके ,चन्दनादपि चन्द्रमाः |

चन्द्रचन्दनयोर्मध्ये शीतला साधुसंगतिः ||

Chandan (sandalwood) has the most cooling properties in this world; The moon, however, is more cooler than chandan. In actuality, it is the company of good friends that is the most soothing.

महाजनस्य संसर्गः कस्य नोन्नतिकारकः।

पद्मपत्रस्थितं वारि धत्ते मुक्ताफलश्रियम्॥

Just like a drop of water that falls on a lotus gains the status of a pearl, company of good friends elevates the value of a person.

आपत्काले तु संप्राप्ते यन्मित्रं मित्रमेव तत् |

वृद्धिकाले तु संप्राप्ते दुर्जनोSपि सुहृद्भवेत् ||

A friend in need is a friend indeed. Even an evil person can befriend anyone during prosperous times but it takes a real friend to honor the friendship during difficult times.

सर्वथा सुकरं मित्रं दुष्करं परिपालनम् l

अनित्यत्वात्तु चित्तानां मतिरल्पेऽपि भिद्यते ll

It's pretty easy to earn friendships but difficult to keep them. The human mind is transient and even some petty conflicts can be the reason to end the friendships.

न सुहृद्यो विपन्नार्था दिनमभ्युपपद्यते।

स बन्धुर्योअपनीतेषु सहाय्यायोपकल्पते॥

A good friend helps a friend in fatality and brings back the friend on the right path (if he has strayed away from the path of goodness).

गुणवान् व परजनः स्वजनो निर्गुणोऽपि वा।

निर्गुणः स्वजनः श्रेयान् यः परः पर एव सः॥

A loved one without merit is better than a stranger with merits.

The Best Articles in Psychology and Self Improvement

The Emotion Machine has 500+ articles on many topics related to psychology and self improvement. Here are the most popular articles we’ve published over the past 8 years.

Each section is separated into categories by: happiness, emotions, thinking, habits, goals, relationships, creativity, meditation, and society.

Check them out and get started on your self improvement journey!

Happiness

3 Sources of Happiness that Aren’t Tied to People or Stuff

Why It’s Worth It to Pay the Costs of Being Yourself

How Perfectionism Destroys Happiness

Reframing Your Dark Side: Embracing Your Shadow Is Key to Genuine Mental Health

5 Attitudes Wired in Happy and Successful Brains

Radical Acceptance of Life’s Never-Ending Bullshit

Happy With Less: Trying Living With One Less Desire

Unconscious Positivity: 5 Ways to Ingrain Happiness Into Your Way of Life

Emotions

The 4 Fundamental Pillars of Emotional Intelligence

How to Communicate Your Feelings Without Becoming an Emotional Manipulator

The Complete Guide to Stress

How to Create Psychological Distance Between You and Your Past

How to Completely Forgive Yourself

5 Signs You’re a Slave to Your Emotions

Question Your Feelings

7 Ways to Connect More With Your Emotional Self

How We Use Music to Manage Our Stress and Emotions

Thinking

Accepting Your Bias

How to Be a Skeptical Thinker About Facts and Statistics You Find on the Internet

Be Careful of What You Let Enter Your Mind

The Healthy Challenge of Explaining Your Beliefs

3 Types of Exaggerated Thinking That Create Unnecessary Drama

Rewriting the Story of Your Life: A Process of Self-Exploration Through Writing

Metaphors We Live By: How Metaphors Frame Our Experiences in Different Ways

The 20 Most Common Logical Fallacies We Fall Victim to Everyday

The Pragmatic Thinker: Keeping Our Beliefs Grounded in What Matters

The “Five Whys” Exercise: How to Recalibrate Yourself During Periods of Turbulence

Habits

Identify Your Habit Loops

The Power of Nudges: Insights on How to Influence Human Behavior

Creating Boundaries Between You and Your Bad Habits

The Power of a Checklist: How to Stay Disciplined and Avoid Stupid Mistakes

Organized Home, Organized Mind: Why a Tidying Marathon Can Change Your Life

Make a Complete List of Your Daily Routine

How to Maximize Your Willpower

Why You Should Believe in Hard Work Over Genes

The “Everything Counts” Mindset for Exercise

7 Simple Principles Behind a Good Night’s Sleep

Relationships

How to Become a Master of Nonverbal Communication

How to Defuse Heated Arguments Before They Spiral Out of Control

3 Reasons to Give People the Benefit of the Doubt

5 Improvisation Exercises for Improving Your Communication Skills

Good Manners in the 21st Century (And Why It’s So Hard to Be Nice in Today’s World)

9 Tips on How to Be Honest With Someone Without Being Negative

Body Language Is More Revealing Than Words: How to Read People More Clearly

How to Learn From Guilt and Improve Your Relationships

The “Over-Sharing” Epidemic: How the Internet Makes Us Devalue Our Private Lives

How to Build Thick Skin and Stop Being So Sensitive

Goals

Start Living More as Your Future Self

What Stands in the Way Becomes the Way

How to Overcome Your Fear of Success

How to Overcome Awkward Phases of Self Improvement

What Do You Live For? A 5 Minute Exercise to Discover Your Most Important Values

How to Stop Being Jealous of Other People’s Success

Systems vs. Goals: Why Sustainability Is More Important Than Temporary Success

Grit and the Need for Achievement

Creativity

How to Build a Creative Mind That Will Never Run Out of New Ideas

3 Paths Revolutionary Thinkers Take Before They Arrive at Insights

The Psychology Behind What Makes Ideas Popular

The 5 Key Stages of the Creative Process

How to Improve Your Intuition

Mnemonics: The Forgotten Art of Memory

Practice Improvisation to Become a Faster and More Creative Thinker

How to Develop Your Own Creativity in a World of Conformity

Curiosity and the Advantages of a Hungry Mind

Meditation

Breathing Meditation

3 Common Problems When First Starting Meditation

Urge Surfing: How to Overcome Addictive Behaviors

Open Mind Meditation

The Wisdom of Body Awareness

Beginner’s Mind: How to Look at Old Problems in New Ways

STOP Meditation: Daily Injections of Mindfulness

Naked Meditation

Society and Culture

How Culture Influences Our Minds in Profound Ways We Don’t Even Realize

Effective Altruism vs. Feel Good Altruism: How to Make a Bigger Difference in the World

The Origin of Us: Campfires As The Bedrock of Human Civilization

The “Taste Buds” That Shape Our Morality: Why We Have Different Beliefs in Politics, Religion, and Morality

Circles of Empathy: Why We Care About People To Different Degrees

What Great Apes Teach Us About Emotions, Morality, and Civilization

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Psychology Book Recommendations

Foundational Authors & Works

Carl Rogers, On Becoming a Person

B. F. Skinner,  Beyond Freedom and Dignity and About Behaviorism and Walden Two

Viktor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning

Sigmund Freud, Civilization and its Discontents

John Norcross (editor), Evidence-Based Practices in Mental Health

Psychopathology & Diagnosis 

David Barlow (editor), Clinical Handbook of Psychological Disorders

Oliver Saks, Hallucinations

Kelly Lambert, Clinical Neuroscience

Criticisms & Controversial Topics

Stephen Hinshaw, The ADHD Explosion

Robert Whitaker, Mad in America and Anatomy of an Epidemic

Ronald Miller, Not So Abnormal Psychology

Allen Frances, Saving Normal

Bruce Wampold, The Great Psychotherapy Debate

Therapy Theories 

Carl Rogers, Client-Centered Therapy

Irvin Yalom, The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy

Aaron Beck, Cognitive Therapy of Depression

Steven Hayes, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

Judith Beck, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Danny Wedding, Current Psychotherapies

William Miller, Motivational Interviewing

Jacqueline Person, Cognitive Therapy in Practice

Evidence-Based Therapy Manuals 

Marsha Linehan, DBT Skills Training Manual and Cognitive Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder

Michelle Craske, Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic

David Burns, Feeling Good

Richard Zinbarg, Mastery of Your Anxiety and Worry

Martha Davis, The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook

Lisa Najavitis, Seeking Safety

Expert Therapist Perspectives

Irvin Yalom, The Gift of Therapy and Love’s Executioner

First Person Perspectives

Kay Jamison, An Unquiet Mind

Elyn Saks, The Center Cannot Hold

William Styron, Darkness Visible

Carolyn Spiro and Pamela Spiro Wagner, Divided Minds

Research Design & Analysis

Alan Kazdin, Research Design in Clinical Psychology and Single-Case Research Designs

John Creswell, Qualitative Inquiry and Research Design

Culture & Diversity

Derald Wing Sue, Counseling the Culturally Diverse and Case Studies in Multicultural Counseling and Therapy

Stigma

Stephen Hinshaw, Breaking the Silence and  The Mark of Shame

Grad School and Careers in Psychology

Peggy Hawley, Being Bright is Not Enough

Adam Ruben, Surviving Your Stupid, Stupid Decision to Go to Grad School

Peter Feibelman, A PhD is Not Enough

Paul Silva, How to Write A Lot

Karen Kelsky, The Professor Is In