My Dad And I Once Had A Disagreement Over Him Using The Adage "What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger."

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

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I saw someone make a genuinely innocent mistake about this again, so please take note!

The number "88" is frequently used as neo-nazi flagging. It's a numerical code for "HH," which means "Heil Hitler." You may also see it in combination with the number 14, referencing the infamous "14 Words." If you ever see "1488" tacked onto someone's username, or posted as a comment, or in a tattoo, that person is a neo-nazi. Full stop.

If you were born in 1988, don't put "88" in your social media handle. People are going to think you are a nazi.

If you didn't know, now you know.

Source: https://www.adl.org/resources/hate-symbol/1488

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