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“unbinding” spell jar

sort of like an “unbinding” jar, i made a spell jar to release the hold my favorite person has on me.

a favorite person in the context of borderline personality disorder is a person who you have an unhealthily strong bond with. you base your self worth on how this person treats you.

INGREDIENTS:

a jar

a picture of the person you are unbinding

two scrolls of paper with your names on each one

string

red chili flakes (used for banishing negativity)

table salt (to cleanse and purify)

black candle (to banish bad energy)

white candle (to purify)

optional: an artifact that symbolizes your friendship

STEPS:

gather your ingrediants. write your name on one slip of paper, and the other person’s name on the other. connect the two pieces of paper with a piece of string.

light a black candle. with your intent in mind (severing the connection between the two of you), burn the string connecting the papers.

tear up the picture of the person. doing so carefully, burn the picture and the slips of paper.

add the ashes to your jar.

add red chili flakes and salt to your jar.

optional: in my jar, i added a ring that she handmade for me.

light the white candle. keeping your intent in mind (sealing off the jar and thereby banishing and severing your bond), seal the jar with the white candlewax.

intent is very important. your purpose for this jar is to channel that bond into it, cleansing your life and banishing that negative energy and unhealthy bond.

Anti anxiety.

my honest, best and most fulfilling advice for young girls and women is to not cater to what other men think, need or desire from you. in fact, if you don’t like a man for any reason, be honest with yourself and don’t spend time around him if he makes you uncomfortable in any way. if possible, set as many boundaries as you desire. block and do what you must. you’re not here to coddle a man’s feelings.

from a very early age i was taught to smile and be polished, make myself small (as small as i could) so a man would enjoy my presence. i didn’t listen to my intuition when a man showed red flags and i wish i did.

listen to you. to your voice and other girls’ voices. the male gaze is not at all important or defining of your worth, talents and accomplishments. if a man bothers you or harms you in any way, do not be silent! you are allowed to take up space. you are your own human being and not an extension of his judgment. 

(terfs/transphobes/creeps: do not interact)

Can you draw a tiny lizard dragon that secretly hoards pennies?

a cup of sunshine

Here is a recipe for liquid positivity to help you all through these days.

You’ll need: chamomile fresh ginger (just a little!) fresh lemon honey

optional: homemade cinnamon buns (will heal your heart with immediate effect)

Brew your tea with a bit of ginger and add a squeeze of lemon. Add the honey with a spoon and use it to stir clockwise while thinking of a happy memory. (I might have had a chant for this, but I forgot it already, and it was probably in multiple languages - pardon me, I’m a bit of mess after not leaving the house for two weeks. You can make your own chant if you’want.)

Put on a song that makes you feel good. I chose Here Comes the Sun by The Beatles.

Sit by a window and open it if possible. Breathe.

Drink up. You’re alright.

long-term nuclear waste warning messages + rich people's indoor swimming pools

True Love Tarot Combinations My Grandma Taught Me

Death + Ace of Cups

Love that lasts a day after forever

Six of Pentacles + Five of Pentacles

Love that asks for nothing in return

Knight of Wands + King of Wands

Love that makes a boy into a man

The Tower + Four of Wands

Love that can withstand any earthquake

Seven of Wands + Knight of Swords

Love that will fight and die for you

Six of Wands + The World

Love that puts you on a pedestal

The Moon + The Sun

Love that consumes you night and day

The Devil + Four of Pentacles

Flaming love that engulfs you

Ace of Cups + Ten of Cups

Love you never have to shed tears for

Two of Cups + The High Priestess

Love you recognize at first sight

Six of Cups + Two of Cups

Friendship that blooms into love

The Hermit + The Fool

Love that outlasts time itself

Death + The Wheel of Fortune

Love that can resurrect a dying soul

Ace of Wands + The Sun

Lust that matures into love

The Hermit + Strength

Love that grows stronger each passing day

Five of Pentacles + Ten of Pentacles

Love that makes lords out of beggars

The Hierophant + Four of Wands

Love no storm can conquer

Verdelite in Quartz, Chlorite Quartz, Aventurine and a Plum blossom

Over and over

deeper and deeper

layer by layer

life gets touched by healing

in abundance

knowing no scarcity of love

as it is present in all that lives

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