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The moon dressed as Saturn.
celestial scenery
The moon dressed as Saturn.
How do you use your pretty privilege to your advantage?
Honestly? The biggest advantage is just how life plays out on a day to day basis. The benefits I get by just existing that others aren’t awarded no matter how nice or hardworking they are. It sounds bad, but...we live in a society.
What would you say were the most important aspects to snag a good husband for yourself?
things in my control
I take good care of my looks and always make myself look nice on a daily basis. even if I'm just chilling at home, I'll do my skincare routine, brush my hair, and wear something that doesn't look sloppy
I stay in shape and keep my body nice. I'm a young lady in my twenties and looks matter. you have more options when you look good
I knew I wanted to get married so I was looking for a husband instead of any other dating arrangement. eyes on the prize, choose wisely
I carried myself in a way that said "I am a wife" and acted accordingly. the energy you put out there on the dating scene matters. I know what kind of marriage I want so I worked on becoming that wife early. it was just a matter of finding the husband that matches. stay ready so you don't have to get ready.
I know what I want, I know what the kind of men I like want, and I know how to win
I'm good at reading people and making judgements on those around me. I don't get involved in any capacity with men who are not viable options from the get go
things out of my control
location. NY/MA is ripe with options as far as well to do men are concerned. yes, living here was a choice but I'm sure it was easier for me to get someone like my husband here rather than if I lived in the middle of randomville USA. that doesn't mean it's impossible, there's just less options. but fret not. every city has rich areas. nice big houses in nice neighborhoods where the white collar men work. they need wives too!
things kinda sorta in my control
I take care of my looks, but my baseline is what it is. I am naturally pretty so even on my worst days, I'm not doing too bad
99% of my friends are married or on their way there which kept me in a circle of people where love flows and advice is worth taking. it's nice to have examples of what does and doesn't work right in front of you
september is here! school is back in session and fall is right around the corner, so of course this calls for a guide. i’ll be talking about everything from mindset to fashion to get you ready for the cozy season! 🍂☕
before we get into it, i highly recommend you read my dream girl guide and my study like bambi post if you haven’t already. it covers everything related to habits, self discipline, and studying tips from a straight A student that i won’t be too specific about in this post. if you did, you’ll notice that this is basically a reworked general version for school. nonetheless, enjoy this guide ♡
we will be focusing on:
new mindset. school work, reflection, friend groups, habits, how to cope with anxiety attacks…
framework. how to be at the top of your game. scheduling, organization tips…
physical: vibes, outfit, hair, nails, perfumes, and vibes inspo!
declutter. room, phone, friends, old habits…
important things to know aka a send off letter from me!
affirmations
𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐍𝐄𝐖 𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐒𝐄𝐓
what are your priorities? #1 should be you. prioritize your happiness, health, and safety. always! this part is important because if you know what’s right for you then you will naturally always lean towards goals and actions that are best for you! i talk more about this here.
once school is back in session it is SO EASY to fall back into bad habits and negative mindsets because of the people around you and the stress and pressure that surrounds having good grades all the while maintaining your physical & mental health.
now it’s time to let go of all and any limiting beliefs, negative self-talk, toxic habits and people and be the top student you are! anyone can level up.
habits to cultivate:
finding and setting up a system that works for you.
putting your needs first
getting your work done on time
paying attention in class.
don’t study until you get it right, study until you can’t get it wrong.
lessen phone usage.
self discipline. keeping up the momentum.
STEPPING UP FOR YOURSELF.
habits to let go of:
being rude to yourself. not knowing you’re always trying your best.
procrastinating
wanting to give up just because you “failed”
being on your phone more than doing what you enjoy. (hanging out with friends, staying to yourself, studying, getting coffee…)
letting others undermine your potential.
limiting beliefs and negative thoughts, knowing that they are not yours.
staying up all night for unnecessary reasons.
the rest is under the cut!
Keep reading
♡ channel your inner elle woods and dive into your studies with a “what, like it’s hard?“ mindset
studying will only be hard if you assume it to be. uplift yourself before starting your study session. go on a rampage on how you’re the best student at your school and that you’re successful at everything you do! the only person that will be with you from the beginning till the end is you. be your own cheerleader despite it all.
♡ romanticize your studies
life is better when you romanticize it and nothing beats playing some music to level your head, looking at photos & scenes of your favorite characters studying and acing their tests!
clean your desk, light some candles, buy cute stationary, pretend you’re being filmed, visualize how it would feel when you have straight A’s and see that perfect score on the corner of your test/exams.
make a playlist with a cute cover and choose a vibe. dark or light academia? classics? rnb? cafe jazz? make it fun. mix it all together or make multiple playlists for the different moods you’ll be in. don’t listen to lyrical music. i recommend brown noise! and going to a cafe or a library helps me focus a lot. the background chatter doesn’t ever get too much for me so it gets easy for me to tune it out.
bambi’s supplies:
kokuyo campus binder notebooks
papier planners
laohaster aesthetic highlighters - 1 & 2
tombow dual brush pen markers
0.35 pens + muji 0.38 pens
paper mate gel pens
aesthetic book tabs
kraft paper sticky notes
index card case
♡ finding a study place
i love to study at libraries and local cafes. i also use this time to go on adventures to explore my city and find hidden gems. make sure it’s a place where you like the vibe, there are no distractions. something about looking like that mysterious, studious girl who stays to herself >>>>
before you indulge in your studies, be aware of your surroundings. get familiar with the place by grazing your eyes over the area and begin :)
make a checklist of all the items you need. laptop, charger, pens, notebooks, textbooks, a book to read if you want to spend more time at the place you’re at, headphones, calculator, etc!
if you’d rather stay inside, make your area is clean of clutter and clear of distractions.
♡ time management
now that you’ve set out a place, let’s talk about time. what hours in the day work for you? morning, afternoons or at night? what weekdays work the best for you to keep up with this schedule?
be reasonable with yourself here. pick a time where your schedule is free and you won’t be distracted by obligations. tell your friends and family you’ll be busy during those hours on selected weekdays, not everyday will be the same. life can be hectic so this is where you take responsibility. work around your appointments. make use of your time and run flash cards while you wait to get called in or you’re in line, while you exercise, get creative!
setting time away to eat and make sure you drink enough water is not equally but more important than any other thing. take care of yourself.
utilize your time wisely. no one and nothing is going to achieve those goals. you are.
now, let’s actually get into how i study.
♡ scheduling & staying on track
create a system that works for you. keep a list of all of your assignments, finals, exams, tests, projects in an excel spreadsheet organized and ascended by the due dates and the progress of its completion. here are two very simple examples i made.
as you progress through the list, it’s always so good to see the growing checkmarks! like yes, you did that and you can continue doing so! i always advocate for keeping track of your accomplishments no matter what ♡
as for day to day classes and schedules, you can use notion or google calendar. there are plenty of cute and practical templates out there to use.
let me know if i should share mine or make some
♡ how i study, stay ahead, and be the best student i can be
the most important thing a student can do is put themselves first! find out what works for you. your strengths, your weaknesses, and obstacles you tend to come across and work around them to make the best out of it.
we’ve already covered the topics of time and place so great! now, that you’re all set, additional things i keep in mind to make sure i am all nice and comfortable are…
making sure i am comfortable. the temperature, clothes i am wearing, if i feel safe at the cafe/library/room i’m in.
i can’t focus or do anything on an empty stomach so get a small meal before you start and keep water and snacks with you!
the most important questions of all: are there any illnesses you have that affect your studying and focus? what is something you often find that gets in your way?
as hard as dealing with illnesses gets on a daily basis, it’s easy to forget that it can affect your studies just as much. you need to work with them. i used to think i was stupid, slow, and downright crazy for not understanding material right away or for how easily distracted i got because of my random bursts of energy. then it just dawned upon me one day and i said “oh… duh?”
so, what did i do? i found out what worked for me, monitored my studying techniques and personally modified them to work better with my attention deficit.
tackle the important tasks first. low maintenance assignments like reading and writing notes on a section, annotations, and worksheets can wait if they’re easy but this way might not be for everyone.
the reason why i advise this is because at the beginning of a study session, i have the most energy/brain power so i’d rather shift my energy towards the assignments that need more of my focus!
plan what tasks you intend on focusing on that day. look at your assignment spreadsheet. which ones are more important/urgent? due the soonest? write them out in order and follow the list.
immediately writing down my thoughts. i’m very forgetful so making this a habit has helped me so much for when i get any new ideas and remember to do something very important.
find out what learning style fits you. visual, auditory, reading and writing, kinesthetic. making powerpoints, study guides, drawing diagrams, color coding systems, interactive notes. cater your study methods to your needs. here is a pinterest board with examples!
take a self assessment quiz. if you want, check these quizzes out to figure out what kind of learner you are and what study habits you can improve! remember that you can always be more than one thing just because quizzes give you a single result. you know you!
active recall. it’s a study method to help with retention, memorization, and informational retrieval. it reduces forgetfulness all the while actively stimulating your brain rather than writing notes, highlighting text information.
separate the topics + subtopics and in the end, when you feel confident, jumble them together.
flashcards! i love them. you can use quizlet which has a spaced repetition system where it will bring back material you got wrong so you can focus on it extensively. physical flashcards and manually having to write them out is also a form of memorization!
practice testing (not multiple choice) online or finding them on a textbook, ask a friend to quiz you or ask questions to yourself and try to answer them accurately.
pretend to give a lecture. i love this one the most because if you know the subject very well, you can pretend to explain it to a peer and even a middle schooler so that it gives you a chance to simplify the material so it’s easy for them (and you) to retain.
while using flashcards and lecture techniques, it helps me when my adhd flares up and i really can’t seem to stay still or keep from making noise. i can walk around my room & talk aloud, walk on a treadmill, and move my body!
i study until it becomes natural for me to know the answer, not because i recognize the term.
check your work and understanding to make sure that all of the information you’re studying is correct! it won’t hurt to do a little review here and there. you never know when a mistake might’ve snuck it’s way in.
make your own study guide. (if that’s your method) for every unit and section, covering every topic. this can be on google docs and whenever you learn something new that you think is important to know, add it via docs app or write it on a notepad so that you can fill it in later.
on the go. you don’t have to do this ALL the time (or at all) but if you think you need more time to soak your mind with information but you’re on a bus, waiting in line, etc. pull out your flashcards or google docs app to quickly review. there’s no harm in that! (just make sure you’re aware of your surroundings please)
OFFICE HOURS! go to office hours even if you don’t have any specific questions or struggles! it’s always an extra learning opportunity because you can listen to teachers and teaching assistants answer questions you might have later on AND the more you attend office hours, you’ll build a connection and get to know the teachers. that is always important.
starting assignments ahead of time. don’t put off working on a project just because it’s due in 3 weeks or so. start ahead of time so you don’t stress yourself out and cram. stretch them out. plus, even if you don’t actually put yourself to work, get a feel of the materials you’ll need to know, the instructions, etc because if you have any questions, you’ll have more/easy access to teachers for help since not many people will be there at the beginning of when a project is assigned.
ADVANCE READING! this is so fun to do. you basically just read ahead on current/future topics the teacher will cover to grasp onto the information. write down any questions you have and personally ask the teacher for a more clear answer for your understanding.
i love doing this because when the time comes of the teacher covering the topic, light bulbs just keep going off in my head! it’s exciting. it gives me room for me to retain and write any additional information the teacher says.
do not multitask. remember, if multitasking has always worked for you, don’t stop! for me, it’s truly better to focus on the task at hand to strengthen skills and concentration rather than having to do 2 or 3 different things at once. efficiency is key and staying true to one task at a time is the best way to do so.
BUT when my adhd gets in the way, be consistently inconsistent. don’t unnecessarily guilt trip yourself when you suddenly feel like doing another task. go with the flow. follow whatever your brain feels like doing at the moment! MOVEMENT IS MOVEMENT.
additional tip: take breaks at certain times even if you don’t feel like it. like the advice above, it doesn’t necessarily have to be resting. it can be as simple as taking a trip to get a beverage, tidying up your area, something easy & light to keep your mind occupied and to avoid burn out.
breaking down the assignments into sections. this defeats procrastination. it can seem overwhelming when all the information is pieced together into one so divide the tasks into small sections.
ex. read one chapter in the textbook, start writing down terms to know, annotate. move onto the next.
study groups. it’s collaborative— a chance to ask and also help others on topics you don’t know and make connections! the smaller the better in my opinion.
don’t look at studying as something you “have" to do. it’s an activity. a choice. it can either be stressful or something you can easily get through— how you approach this will ;
participate! ask questions! don’t be afraid to ask questions and raise your hand to put your two cents in when it’s an open discussion! just do it.
focus on the now. don’t overwhelm yourself by looking at all the assignments you have due. the task you’re working on at the present moment is the one that needs the most attention and focus.
advice from others won’t always work for you. we are all different! what might work for others won’t always work for you. this is why it’s important to monitor your study sessions, habits, behaviors, and find out what works and what you like better through trial and error.
except for when i tell you to take care of yourself. if there’s anything you should take away from my posts, it is to put your needs first. always!
♡ keeping up momentum. motivation vs. self discipline.
“think of motivation as a power boost at the starting line and your foot pressing on the pedal of your car is discipline, it’s what keeps you going forward on your journey. motivation, as fleeting as it is won’t bring you far but self-discipline will.“
remind yourself of the life you want to live, the businesses you will own, the cases you’ll win, the people you’ll be able to help with your knowledge, the feelings you’ll have because of your amazing accomplishments if you just keep. on. going.
read the “continuing to strengthen self discipline” section in my dream girl guide post. i guarantee it will help in finding what really works best for you when it comes to identifying roadblocks and how to work around these struggles.
KEEP UP THE MOMENTUM. you’ve been on top of your game so when it comes to engaging in activities that don’t revolve around school work, make it worthwhile. stay off your phone, say no to silly distractions and do something you’ll thoroughly enjoy. paint, draw, write, read a book, go on a walk! this will keep you going in doing your very best every day and it doesn’t have to be a strenuous activity! stagnancy who?
DOING ANYTHING THAT BRINGS YOU JOY AND FULFILLMENT IS PRODUCTIVE.
♡ the most important tips of all
TAKE BREAKS. GO TO SLEEP. EAT WELL.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
DO NOT PUT THIS ON THE BACK BURNER. you want good grades and to do your very best, that can’t happen unless you TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.
if it’s past your usual bedtime and your eyes are drooping, struggling to stay open, how are you able to retain all the information from that moment on? go to bed because then you’ll get a good night’s sleep and you’ll be refreshed for your next day’s class! OR if you don’t have class, you’ll be able to bounce back into studying in amazing condition.
PAMPER YOURSELF.
good heavens, take a shower, wash your face, go for a walk, move your body, stretch, take time to just stay to yourself. enjoy the silence, play some calming music, watch a show, take a nap. your body is a temple, treat it with love.
if you’re constantly stressed out all the while continuously flooding your brain with so much information without resting:
it decreases concentration → you won’t be able to retain any new information (so studying is automatically deemed useless) → poor sleep → you attend class and your inability to focus and overall school performance has degraded→ you isolate yourself from social interactions → fall into depression → difficulty picking yourself back up and the list goes on…
in summary, you will not be able to continue and put in your best work.
always remember that pushing yourself past your limit does more harm than good.
you WILL crash and all that hard work will go to waste once you’re physically and mentally unable to show up for yourself.
and if it means you have to get anything lower than a 80, IT IS OKAY. nothing is worth more than your health. trust me.
♡ helpful resources
zlibrary + openlibrary - free online libraries
websites for research that is not google
weava highlighter - highlight text from pdfs and the web, add and organize notes and be able to access later! lifesaver.
99 legal sites to download literature
speechify - text to speech reader
not robotic. comes in many different voices and languages
aids in: easy reading, improve comprehension, multitaskers
adjustable reading speed
mercury reader - gets rid of clutter from articles for easy reading
grammarly - grammar and writing check
beeline reader - color gradient to help read easier
group your tabs for easy organization (for mac users: control + click)
piktochart - create infographics
spot misinformation - masterpost
desmos - free online graphing calculator
paper rater - essay scoring
pdf2go + cloudconvert - file converters
internet archive - free books, movies, software, music, websites…
slidesgo - google slides and powerpoint templates
pomodoro timers - tide w/ white noise + otto w/ a website blocker
remember to drink water
more very helpful resources
okay my love! that’s all for this post. i wish you the best! ₊˚⊹♡ as always, here is the google doc version
— kisses from straight a student, bambi ♡
SCHOOL IS BACK IN SESSION
INVEST IN YOURSELF: FALL + SCHOOL EDITION GUIDE HERE
𝐌𝐘 𝐃𝐀𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐇𝐘𝐆𝐈𝐄𝐍𝐄 𝐑𝐎𝐔𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐄
♡ morning:
cleanse
clean piercing
toner
essence
moisturizer
sunscreen
♡ night:
first: remove any makeup with micellar water and cotton pads
second: foam cleanse
i usually wear makeup consecutively for shoots + films so that’s when i use clay masks. for sheet masks, it’s mainly for relaxation
♡ my shower routine
shampoo, rinse
condition my hair & clip it up
wash my body with body scrub + body wash (with beads) & exfoliating gloves
clean every part of my body. (neck, ears, back, underarms, feet, back of your knees…)
rinse off the body wash and conditioner!
♡ after shower care
cocoa butter lotion and almond oil
perfume to uphold my signature scent
♡ skin & hair care:
it removes impurities & build up, and dandruff. with my naturally sensitive scalp and wavy/curly hair, i am constantly bleaching my roots and changing the color of my hair so this is a must.
♡ my skin care rules:
always, alwayssssss always sunscreen on my face, neck, and hands no matter the season and weather! so many forget the neck and hands too.
always enjoy this moment of pampering. say affirmations, play calming music, wear my silk robe bc i’m literally filming for vogue beauty secrets, complement myself in the mirror on how i’m the most beautiful person ever, i’m smart, kind, gentle, and resilient. i’m proud of myself and i will keep making history.
don’t rub your face roughly (or at all)
never touch your face. only after you’ve washed your hands! after i wash my face i refuse to touch anything besides my face towel (that’s kept out of the bathroom) don’t touch your phone, doorknobs, drawers… nothing.
if you’re applying moisturizer, massaging your face, or wiping off makeup with a cotton pad, always move upwards, never downwards.
be gentle with your face pls
always apply skincare on my neck and chest
♡ bi-weekly + monthly
root touch ups + color change
mani + pedi
facial
wax
shape eyebrows
scalp treatment
spa getaways
♡ list of products i use:
cleansers: nature republic - jeju mud sparkling cleanser, garnier - skinactive micellar water
toner + essence: son & park - beauty water, rovectin activating treatment lotion
serum + moisturizers: tatcha - the dewy & the water cream, peach & lily - glass skin refining serum, sk-II - serum facial treatment, fresh - rose deep hydration skin cream, oat so simple - water cream
sunscreen: abib - quick sunscreen bar, la roche posay - anthelios mineral tinted sunscreen, tatcha - the silk sunscreen, beauty of joseon - relief sun spf 50
sheet masks: innisfree, dassai
here is a post with my skin care recommendations. note that i obvi don’t use all of these products at once. i usually rotate or use specific products depending on the season & weathers, and how i’m feeling.
this all isn’t really necessary for me because of my beauty manifestations but pampering is always a lovely routine i enjoy ♡ and i figured why not make a routine for those who want to know!
~become ‘that girl’ at school~
schoolwork:
study hard
take cute notes
get good grades
stay out of drama
be respectful and kind to everyone
work hard and stay motivated
appearance:
keep a neat appearance
put effort into your outfits
have healthy hair
make sure your nails are always manicured
try a teeth-whitening toothpaste (highly recommend!)
find a signature scent to keep in your bag
simple makeup also works- just curl your lashes and wear mascara
overall:
have a good school/life balance
try new things
stay positive
be yourself!
the lowest grade I've ever gotten at university is a B, and that was on my most severely procrastination-brained, low effort given, under prepared assignment. I have never once gotten lower than a B on any single assignment/exam/class and I don't plan on it happening anytime soon. I mentioned before that I treat academia like a sport. It's something that I literally train for and give it the effort that an athlete would. B's are F's in my mind bc I know that I am capable of getting A's if I put forth A-student effort and training. I have a lot of school related asks to go through when I get some time for them and I'm gonna help y'all out with a nice long 'study like 2pretty' masterpost. we do beauty AND brains around here, I can't have y'all falling behind!
Here is my "Get It Together Plan." I use this whenever I feel myself reverting to victim behaviors or my life feels it's falling apart.
A sunset will color your dreams
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Don't self-isolate because you feel too awkward, anxious or afraid that you will bother others. You deserve to have friends and to be loved. Don't give up on being social, no matter how nerve wrecking it might get, with practice it will get easier to socialize.
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how to become a neat-freak
I’ll be the first to admit i have not always been a tidy person. In the past i said things like “it’s an organized mess, i know where everything is!” As an excuse for not keeping my space neat.
Now i love having a clean space! It gives me peace knowing i have one less thing to worry about - cleaning my room
- start to view having a clean space as a sign of respect for yourself, and your space. There are many important things you need to do on a day to day basis, and that list can be cut significantly by setting a standard of cleanliness for yourself. Im sure you have many beautiful things in your room, and if you’re like me you care about maintaining them. Respect them accordingly.
- as cliche as it is, your bed is the best place to start. It takes up the majority of your room, so having it made daily allows the smaller tasks of putting things back in drawers, taking water bottles downstairs, feel much smaller in comparison. Doing this first thing in the morning is a great momentum tool as well - your brain will view it as a big task checked off your list and continuing your tasks for the day will appear easier.
- know where everything is. Workout leggings and tops in one drawer, pjs in one drawer, dresses on hangers, etc. Being consistent with where you put your things saves you time and energy. No need to hunt for 30 minutes trying to find your favorite top when you can just put it in a specific drawer and remember where it is whenever you need it. Giving everything a place also helps prevent losing small items like airpods, earrings, and house keys
- organize your closet conveniently. For me, this means hanging my clothes in rainbow order. Ive done it for years and i love how it looks. I don’t have to rake through my closet for the black dress i want, i just go to that section and pick it out. I also organize by shade (which comes in handy when you’re me and have 50 shades of pink to choose from😄)
- create a routine. I vacuum my room, wipe my mirrors, and wipe down my desk every week. I typically do my laundry twice a week. I wash my sheets weekly, and my comforter biweekly. Having a routine that you don’t have to write down makes cleaning feel more natural and less forced.
- clean when you aren’t busy. I don’t do laundry on days when my schedule is packed because i know my clothes will end up sitting in that laundry basket and getting wrinkled. Tasks like washing my sheets or cleaning out my closet require dedicated time, so i do my best to plan accordingly.
- blur the line. You are not someone who is messy and wishes to be tidy, you are a tidy person that is human and slips up. The more consistent you are with cleaning your room, your car, your backpack, the more natural it will feel. When people come over they always compliment my room and i take pride in that! I can’t just appear to have my stuff together in every aspect, and then neglect my room. Hypocrite alert.
Morning routine ideas
Creating a proper morning routine can be so much fun, especially now that so many people are starting summer break; it's the perfect time to get used to a new routine! <3
Open your curtains + Window. Fresh air and sunshine are always good for you.
Read something, waking up the brain, haha.
Say good morning to your pets and/or plants. It's something cute.
Wash your face and brush your teeth. Best feeling in the morning.
Drink a glass of water and take your vitamins. I like taking my vitamins on an empty stomach, so a bit before breakfast.
Make yourself breakfast; I never understood how people can go without breakfast. I would be dead by noon, lol.
Try eating breakfast outside; literally so relaxing.
Exercise, go for a walk, try some yoga or pilates.
Journal, Paint, blog. Do something creative that makes you feel good and inspired; I obviously write blog posts, hahah.
Brew a fresh cup of coffee or tea. Slay.
Connect with your friends or family. A simple good morning text is enough and might make their day a bit better :)
Choose an outfit. Whatever you feel comfortable with, your clothes should always empower you!
Put on your favorite perfume; I like 'Thank U Next' by Ariana grande, 'Black Opium' by YSL, or Victoria's Secret body spray.
Make your bed and maybe tidy up your room a bit.
List three things you want to do today. You can also write down more but don't push yourself too much.
Do your makeup and/or hair, I'm currently trying more simple makeup for summer, and I'm loving it!!
Listen to your favorite song, my fav atm is Cry Baby by The Neighbourhood, lol.
Please feel free to add more suggestions in the comments! <3
✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩
HIII OK OK SO HERE ARE MY THOUGHTS ON THE BOOK FIRST — i liked it ! keep in mind it was the book that got me back into reading + into romance books <333
I BELIEVE THAT IT WOULDVE BEEN BETTER .. IF WE GOT AARONS POV. bc i’mma be honest lina being the narrator 100% of the time made me REAL bored during some moments — that AND it took so damn long to get to the wedding AND the reason for aaron not liking lina at first had me like 🤨🤨🤨 but overall it was a fun read ! i loved the soccer game lmao
some of my fave books / books that i’ve read are …
- the spanish love deception
- terms and conditions
- the mindf*ck series
- the deal
- birthday girl
- archer’s voice
- the brown sisters trilogy
- addicted to you
- the sweetest oblivion (kinda dnf’d it ngl, but i wanna see what christian’s n gianna’s book is all abt BC …)
my tbr is actually chaos manifested into a list ??? BUT YEAH lmk what u’ve read n ur fave books bambi ! ♡ UR SO SWEET UDSGHEGD
OMFG I KNOW!! u should see my annotations, i was literally begging for a dual pov the whole time. BUT DID U KNOW WE’RE GETTING SNIPPETS OF AARONS POV?? LOOK IM CRYING
YESSS the soccer game 😭😭😭 he’s the man istgg. a man of his word, smart, athletic, a grump…. HES PERFECT. the sweetest oblivion was my first ever book that got me into romance books LOL this is so funny. AND THE DEAL OMFG. it was my first physical copy 😫
I HAVE OVER 300 BOOKS IN MY TBR. send help
i loveeee!! the sweetest oblivion, the maddest obsession (you’ll love it, i’m inlove with everyone), hook, line, and sinker, off campus series, and more 😫 UR SO LOVELY BARBIE IM SO GLAD UR HERE ( ˃̣̣̣̣o˂̣̣̣̣ )♡♡
hi bambi! your time to SHINEEEEEE <3
ok so please give me some scenarios where i will meet my dream boyfriend because i want it to be as special as i cann
MY ANGEL HI <33 omfg i love how u said that, u are SOO CUTE
i need more info if that’s okay so i can help you out better!! like what type of person are you like? and what’s your dream boyfriend like? is he an introvert, extrovert? is he outgoing or nonchalant? or you don’t have the perfect vision? you don’t have to answer all LOL i’ll try to put a few things together with what you give me.
if he’s:
an introvert/nonchalant: he’ll gain courage to talk to you and ask a polite question like if he can sit next to you or shyly give you a compliment
scene 2: he can be introduced to you by a friend while you’re hanging out with your circle and he’ll just be enchanted with you from first sight; always looking at you while he’s talking, holds eye contact longer, a gentleman holding doors, pulling out chairs, makes sure you’re safe and not alone, walks on the outside of the sidewalk, slows down when y’all are walking so he’s beside you, it very careful and cautious around you because he doesn’t want to make a wrong move and scare you off, compliments, has nickname set, etc. but JUST YOUU.
outgoing and confident: he’ll come up to you and give you a nickname on the spot depending on what you look like. (something cute that corresponds to ur fit, if ur dressed all cute, he’ll call u angel or something u like. friends that i’ve met in the city have called me red/rockstar (my red hair lmao)
if you’re a big city person, you can manifest meeting him out and about with your friend, you see him and notice he was already looking at you first 😫😫😫😫
either way y’all will have the best convo of your LIFEEE and instantly click with how genuine he is.
this next one is something that’s going to happen to me later in the summer so wink wink, steal this if you like it.
you can be at a family/invited event at a 5 star hotel, wearing ur BEST fit, you both catch each other’s eyes, a string of events happen that make u both walk up to eachother, start a convo, ask him if he knew ur family or something and he says no i’m the owner 😫😫🫶 LMFAO
or if you tend to stay to yourself, you can be sitting at a cafe reading a book, he can buy u a coffee, sit at your table. ??? do u like these ideas 😫
what are some of your favourite books?
more book talk, i love it here <33
fiction:
hook, line, and sinker
the silent patient
the sweetest oblivion
frankenstein
off campus series
normal people
red mercedes (ff)
peaches*
my year of rest and relaxation
scream for us
when heroes fall
lilah*
gaslight*
over my dead body*
priest
the saints devil*
top floor*
deviance*
ace de luca + aria de luca
birthday girl 🫣
love unexpected
* = wattpad / soon to be published
non-fiction:
digital minimalism !!
deep work !!
48 laws of power
rites of lucifer ♡
lilith dark feminine archetype ♡
101 essays that will change the way you think
the girls’ book of glamour + the girls’ book: how to be the best at everything + the daring book for girls
ten arguments for deleting your social media accounts right now
atomic habits
the modern lady’s guide to elegance and charm
your brain on porn: internet pornography and the emerging science of addiction
talking back to facebook: the commons sense guide to raising kids in the digital age
the simple parenting guide to technology: practical advice on smartphones, gaming and social media in just 40 pages
the tech diet for your child & teen: the 7-step plan to unplug & reclaim your kid’s childhood (and your family’s sanity)
reset your child’s brain: a four week plan to end meltdowns, raise grades, and boost social skills by reversing the effects of electronic screen time
pls tell me ur favs as well! ♡
pls describe ur bf😭i am such a bookworm and also want him to be exactly like all my book bfs
ODJFISBOMGG OKAYY
okay okay LISTENNN, this man was made up 😭 he has the same first, last and NICKNAME of my favorite book bf. he doesn’t need to know this but maybe i’ll gift him an annotated version of the book and be like “oh my god what a coincadink… 😦😮🫣🤪” our subconscious really has our back with the perfect details ????
he’s 6’3, his build is chefs kiss. he’s really sweet, confident, overprotective, cocky ew jk in a good way yk i’m gonna stop now, he wasn’t looking for anyone/interested in a relationship because of his past and he recently just moved to the state from his home country a few months ago but he approached me first. HE WAS IN A SUIT. A SUIT…… i’m gonna faint. i looked really good that day too so that day was beyond perfect. he ofc, has his own group of friends that are protective yet goofy mfs. they’re all different which makes it fun to see them interact and banter like little kids lol. he’s really romantic too. i’ve never been in a relationship before so he took it really slow and easy, making sure i felt comfortable bc i may or may not have said “i hate men 👹👹” infront of him on the day we met. BUT TO BE FAIR I WAS HAVING A CONVO WITH MY FRIEND LMAOO
he’s really understanding, we’re two different people but we have troubled pasts that makes us connect. when i’m with him, i feel safe and seen. no one has ever had my back my whole life like he does. because of our different interests, my favorite thing about us is that we enthusiastically talk about it with each other and teach each other different things all the time. i swear, it will never get old. he’s a business man so he automatically has that dominate/upper hand aura to him.
o and he has an audi.
I. LOVE. AUDIS.
in your post about how you changed your life, you said you just affirmed and persisted. but from your other posts it seems like you read neville goddard books. so did you just affirm or did you do imaginal acts too? i get confused when people say "just affirm and persist" casue neville never said that
yes, i read his books and sometimes i would do imaginal acts but i would only do that bc it helped me get by my circumstances, yk? like if i was overwhelmed i would just daydream lol. its like how i read books to escape to another world. but i would say, affirming and persisting was what i focused more on.
i just used what worked for me and used his quotes as a reminder of the power of man. i didn't want to bound myself to one's teaching constantly worrying if im doing it "right" or not so instead, i went back to his quotes that consisted of telling me to persist, look inwards, finding confirmation in my imagination, etc whenever i needed a pick me up.
but correct me if i'm wrong, i'm pretty sure many of the success stories he shared consisted of people simply decreeing their desires and feeling the wish fulfilled simply by repetition and acceptance of their assumption.
"Now with your memory restored DECREE the unseen to appear and it SHALL appear, for all things are compelled to respond to the Voice of God,"
"Can man decree a thing and have it come to pass? Most decidedly he can! Man has always decreed that which has appeared in his world and is today decreeing that which is appearing in his world and shall continue to do so as long as man is conscious of being man."
getting ready for dream girl summer 🌸🫧
a post on getting through the summer flawlessly as a dream girl <3
getting through summer looks like… basking & glowing in the beautiful sun, traveling, going out with ease, having fun, being messy and more. so let’s begin.
♡ categories:
what does your ideal summer for this year look like? ideas, moodboards
physical: summer essentials, what to wear, makeup looks, luxuries, summer reads and bucket lists.
mental: mindset, wellness, reads and bucket list ideas
♡ what’s your ideal summer? ♡
you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so decide what your mind and body needs. is this a time for healing? or is this a time to be adventurous?
do you see yourself in nature, enjoying the silence after a chaotic winter and spring? or going to parties, hanging out with friends, meeting new people and trying so many new things?
or why not both? 💋
some bucket list ideas:
spend more time outside than on your phone
have a morning routine. don’t lose structure in the day. switch it up for summer and make it fun.
make a list of nice restaurants in the city to try out
plan out picnic dates
buy disposable cameras and have them developed at the end of summer!
go skydiving
go to a fancy hotel bar and leave the place with someone’s number (or many)
go on late night drives!
explore a random city
try out new foods
most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.
physical
♡ summer essentials
sunscreen duhh, is a must no matter the season, especially for summer.
⤷ apply sunscreen before you go out and reapply ever 2 hours. look for products that are: lightweight & nonsticky, don’t leave a white cast, spf 50++
anything from sol de janeiro ugh <3
waterproof jewelry
sunglasses
sea salt spray
shimmer body oil
after sun care
your signature scent for summer (scent recommendations below)
pack light and smart with makeup if you’re one to touch up: lipstick (can be used for your eyes and cheeks also), eyeliner, etc.
hair clips/ties
qtips for makeup smudges
mini fan to cool down
small wallet
have fun and unplug but if it’s a must, carry a portable charger if you didn’t charge it in the car or before you left the house.
tissues (for sweat, blotches)
♡ outfit essentials
sundresses
mini !! skirts !!
mules
bikini tops as regular tops
gold hoop earrings
silk scarves
flowy bottoms, skirts, dresses
a cute cover up
patterns
mini bag
backless tops
beauty
♡ warmer weather calls for natural, glowy looks
the sun is out so it’s only natural for me to want to glow when the sun is hitting my face and body ♡ i love to really highlight my highest points.
applying subtle gold shimmer on your eyelids
lipgloss!
preferably one that is hydrating, slightly pigmented to bring out the colors in your lips & glowy. not sticky. my recommendation is the dior lip glow stick.
highlighter
my favorite is mac’s strobe highlighter in peachlite. it honestly gives my skin such a beautiful and subtle pink glow to my face!! i love applying it before my makeup.
⤷ don’t forget your collarbones and shoulders.
there is nothing else that makes me feel like a radiating goddess walking down the street when i put highlighter on my body.
⤷ also, layering powder products on top of wet/creamy products make them more pigmented! this is why you see some people wet their eyeshadow brushes before dipping them into the product ♡
blushed & flushed or nothing!
who doesn’t love a good blushed face during the summer? just because your blush is visible doesnt mean you’re wearing too much!!!! own it!!
have fun with subtle pops of color 💋
it doesn’t have to be too crazy. keep it simple.
ideas can be:
- two toned eyeshadows
- colorful winged eyeliners
- a bold lip
nails ♡
- fun & bright colors like orange & blue
- if you want to keep it simple: french tips, nudes!
♡ summer scent recommendations
marc jacobs perfect
delina - de marly
le labo thé noir 29
chanel chance
replica beachwalk & bubble bath
tom ford soleil blanc, lost cherry, neroli portofino, bitter peach
good chemistry coco blush
victoria secret bombshell beach
ariana grande - sweet like candy
solinotes cherry blossom
for the mind & soul
♡ summer reads
nothing better than a good summer read. here are some recommendations!
my year of rest and relaxation - ottessa moshfegh
it happened one summer - tessa bailey
hook, line, and sinker - tessa bailey
beach read by emily henry
people we meet on vacation by emily henry
book lovers by emily henry
one hot italian summer - karina halle
malibu rising - taylor jenkins reid
every summer after by carley fortune
the wedding crasher by mia sosa
twisted series - ana huang (twisted love, twisted games, twisted hate, twisted lies)
birthday girl - penelope douglas
love & gelato - jenna evans welch
one italian summer - rebecca serle
hands down - mariana zapata
better than the movies - lynn painter
- have fun. kisses from blushydior ♡
hihii can you recommend me some psychological horror books? that have a twist plot at the end or something near that? thanks! (also we can be friends if you want to) <3
hi omgg, yay a book lover <33 ive only read a handful so here they are:
the silent patient - alex michaelides (def for a plot twist)
i’m thinking of ending things - iain reid
sharp objects - gillian flynn
the woman in the window - a.j finn
if there are some things to take into 2022, let it be these ♡
be unapologetically yourself.
those who stick with you, are meant for you. the only person you need validation from is you. don’t change for others. doing so will only distance yourself from your true, authentic self. listen to music you like, no matter how sporadic the genres are! wear the clothes you find cute, different and cool even if it’s not “trending”. trends die but you and your amazing taste is forever!! change for YOU. do what makes YOU happy. <3
learn how to respect your own boundaries.
learn how to say no. learn how to say yes. change is uncomfortable but so is growth. how do you expect to be successful and get farther into your journey if you don’t say yes to amazing opportunities because fear stops you? how do you expect to be strong and unapologetically yourself if you don’t say no to the people who keep stepping all over you? maintain a balance. set boundaries— with others and yourself. if i can do it, so can you. you deserve to set yourself free.
self discipline is the strongest form of self love.
discipline is the key. stop waiting for *countless* motivation. slumps happen. it’s normal. feel your emotions but you know what? you will always get back up on your feet. no matter how long it takes. you’ll get there. this goes for everything. people, old habits, etc. don’t let your negative thoughts ruin you when you come across a slump. feel them but don’t give them power.
motivation can only take you so far. it’s pleating. one slump after another, i soon realized that motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. you simply just have to start and not rely on anything but you and the discipline you enforce to achieve your goals. you see one amazing manifestation success story? great. now stop looking for even more validation. you know it’s possible. so go and apply the law, angel. THAT is the discipline I’m talking about.
it doesn’t matter how “small” the step is, you are still moving! find yourself struggling with intrusive thoughts and old limiting beliefs? discipline! tell yourself it’s okay it happens then move on knowing you have all the power.
what you seek is seeking you.
you are capable of living your dream life. you know what’s stopping you though? you. only you. your fear of change because it seems uncomfortable, your refusal to see how much power you hold over your life, the guilt from telling yourself that you don’t deserve it. open and allow yourself to see that everything you’ve ever wanted is NOT impossible. you can do this. if others can have it, why not you? what you desire is meant for you. it’s out there.
this is all: self love.
treat yourself with care. do it out of love for you. manifest that dream lifestyle, your dream career, dream house, dream appearance because you deserve it! cut those toxic people off so you’re no longer surrounded by their energies and mindsets. take yourself out on a solo date, get a nice meal, take yourself out shopping because you deserve to have time for yourself. read a new book, go on adventures, try new things because you deserve to live your life to it’s FULLEST! do EVERYTHING for YOU. you have gone through every battle, success, cry, celebration and all of the above since the very beginning with yourself so why not do things for you? give yourself more credit. remember: your choices, your dreams, your life.
love you. have the best year. im always here for you. x.
christmas getaways with your lover ☃️🤍
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daily living
manifest using the law of assumption
quick fix meals - 30 minutes or less!
easy meals for when there’s “nothing” to eat
how to use a charcoal grill
what to do when you can’t afford therapy
things to keep in your car incase of emergencies + tips for driving in the winter
where the fuck should i go for drinks? an app to find places near you.
birth control info
book recommendations for
100 organization tips (slideshow style! dont worry about endless scrolling.)
the ultimate laundry fabric care cheat sheet
step by step guide to laundry + laundry symbols
ideas for closet organization
know your rights and what to do when the cops pull you over
how to send a letter
a sweet message from dad how do i?
book recommendations (free)
master your emotions: a practical guide to overcome negativity and better manage your feelings
big panda and tiny dragon - amazon link, i couldn’t find a pdf for this one :(
atomic habits: tiny changes, remarkable results
the 7 habits of highly effective people: powerful lessons in personal change
how to win friends and influence people
the 4-hour workweek: escape 9-5, live anywhere, and join the new rich
the 48 laws of power
power of now
recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)
affirmations
30 self concept affirmations
+ more will come soon!
finances
financial managment app - free
money management 101 + how to manage your money
how to open up a bank account
what’s a mortgage? loan basics for beginners
how to write a check
things to know when you have trouble paying your bills
how to do your taxes
resume workshop
car
how to jumpstart your car
how to change a flat tire
how to check your car’s fluids
how to check the air pressure in your tires
how to check and change you car oil - a complete guide video
health
things to know before you pick a health insurance plan
your first gynecologist appointment
taking care of yourself when you’re sick
note: please don’t overwhelm yourself with this post. you’re doing amazing. these things are just good to know, us humans are not built for remembering ALL of these things!!! when you’re having trouble or need some tips, this post is to be your go to reference!!
**if any links no longer work, send me an ask and i’ll fix it right away.
reminder to always cross reference if you don’t understand the linked posts. these are just things to piggy back on to get you started.
+ i’ll add more things such as daily tips and advice as time goes on and when i make tumblr posts.
this post was inspired by this user! so shout out to them. most of it was missing so i decided why not make one myself while adding things of my touch. i hope this helps!
@jungk0oksthighs
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a thank you gift for writing so many fics about jk
so this is for you~~~ enjoy~~~ ;)
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