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generalizations, feminism, criminology, and statistical fallacies (tw: mentions of violence, SA, abuse, misogyny)

every day I see people say that we can’t generalize by saying “men do *insert violent thing here*” but the issue is, you literally can. Most of it boils down to a lack of statistical literacy. You can certainly say that “men are more likely to commit homicide,” but that doesn’t mean you’re saying “every man is a murderer.” This is called an ecological fallacy, which is when you apply statistical conclusions that are generalizable to a population to a single individual. We know this because homicide is the most reported crime.

Likewise, I could say "higher testosterone is correlated with increased aggression." However, I could not conclude that "testosterone causes men to be violent," even though cis men on average produce more testosterone, because everyone produces testosterone, regardless of their sex. Additionally, we know there are other contributing factors when committing acts of violence like age, intellectual ability, and socioeconomic status. This is called a reductionist fallacy, which is when you attribute a multifactorial issue to a singular cause. (could also be a causal fallacy)

Finally, I could say that "I was abused by a woman," but that does not mean I could then say that "all women are abusers" because that is not backed by statistical evidence. This is a hasty generalization, which is when you apply individual experiences or a small sample to a broader population.

Men are more likely to be perpetrators and victims of every violent crime, except for SA (though there is a “dark figure” as it’s called in the field for SA statistics due to underreporting). Women are more likely to be SAd generally, and trans individuals are the most disproportionately likely to be s*xually ab*sed. I would cite more sources (linked below), but this is a consistent fact of crime in every single criminology class I've ever taken as a current forensic psychology graduate student. Most resources you look at will mention this in some way.

I truly hate when men say “we experience this too!” but like, yes, y’all do actually, and y’all do it to each other. When you break down the statistics, men are consistently more likely to harm other men than a woman is to harm them. No matter how you twist it, patriarchy is the root of the problem. There is evidence that this gender gap is decreasing in some countries, however.

you might need to look some of these articles up by name if you don't have access:

Sex, Race, Age, and Violent Offending - Criminology Collection - ProQuest

Understanding the persistence of the victimization -offending relationship: Modeling causal mechanisms across place and time - Criminology Collection - ProQuest

Victimization as a predictor of offending behavior in youth - Criminology Collection - ProQuest

National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS) | Bureau of Justice Statistics

Crime/Law Enforcement Stats (UCR Program) — FBI

Transgender people over four times more likely than cisgender people to be victims of violent crime - Williams Institute

I’m watching Splash (1984) which is a romcom about a guy who falls in love with a mermaid, and when she chooses a human name she chooses Madison and guy says “that’s not a real name, but alright” which seems to imply that Madison was not a name until at least the 80’s and all girls named Madison are actually named after the mermaid. thought you should know

need a vanilla milkshake now

So funny to me that the same guy who immediately senses something is off with Dean after he gets the Mark of Cain

Literally never notices that he forgot Sam’s soul in hell, nor can he determine what’s wrong with Sam after spending considerable time with him

And I won’t even mention the selective hearing for prayers. They really had a profound ass bond huh?

Dean geeking out whenever he calls cas

So we all know by now that Dean canonically makes Cas watch cowboy movies with him.

Now consider that because Dean is so out of touch with pop culture and stuff that one day they’re looking for a new movie together and they see Brokeback Mountain and Dean is like “oh yeah didn’t Claire compare our Halloween costumes last year to that movie? Maybe we should watch it”

So they watch it and they both just sort of like stiffen up in their chairs and death stare the tv. And then when the movies over they just sit in silence not looking at each other for like twenty minutes before they both get up to leave at the same time and bump into each other and they do that weird little fancy thing you do when you run into someone and then they each retreat into their rooms and don’t talk or make eye contact for the next three days

DUDE?!

dean is not a man of faith, never has been, not after everything he’s lost. but somehow, a late night drive after a violent nightmare takes him to an empty church; it looks abandoned or otherwise vacant and he’s just… compelled to go in. he doesn’t really know why, something just pulls him in and for once he doesn’t go kicking and screaming.

he is not a man of faith and he hesitates as he looks over the rows of empty pews. he feels like a stain on a white cloth, a parasite to a host, like he doesn’t belong here and the thought of being here makes his skin crawl. he doesn’t know why he’s here in the first place and his heart is pounding with leftover anxiety. he’s not here for chuck though. maybe he’s here for jack. maybe for sam. but neither is really true.

he is not a man of faith but dean walks to the pews stiff and uncertain. he’s only ever stepped into a church willingly once and that was for his mothers funeral. the church is empty but dean feels eyes heavy on him, like if he doesn’t get this right he’ll burst into flames. he is walking sin, he feels like filth in a holy house, but he kneels anyway. he kneels and goes willingly and he feels a knot in his gut that’s telling him that whatever he says or does he is not deserving, he doesn’t deserve any blessings he asks for, any help he needs, any guidance he seeks.

he doesn’t ask for anything, though. he folds his hands and he closes his eyes. he is not a man of faith, and deans certain this will all lead to no-one, but he prays.

he doesn’t pray to anyone in particular, and it’s not necessarily that he meant to pray to cas specifically, but it just happens. the decision was more unconscious, like it was easy as breathing; of course he’d pray to cas. and maybe it’s the fact hes in a church that the prayer he sends is so loud, so holy, that the newly reformed angel of thursday stills in the bunker when dean winchester, man of little faith, the righteous man, kneels and bows his head in prayer in the house of god and prays, not to god himself, but to him.

to dean, it’s all nonsense. it’s a prayer filled with fear, regret; it’s a poem, a memoir, a to-do list, a grocery list, a love letter, an apology. it’s nothing, and it’s everything.

but to castiel, it’s not nonsenses. his prayers are filled with love. it’s full with faith for him. the one who believes himself so undeserving is so filled with love and cas is shaking. no creature on earth has come as close as dean winchester has to undoing him. his thoughts are filled with a buzzing energy like an electrical wire that simmers in his sternum, warm and human. he clutches at his chest to keep them safe and castiel aches with a shared longing that almost brings him to his knees. dean winchester prays and castiel listens.

when dean comes home, he doesn’t mention where he went. but cas knows. and something in his face tells dean that he knows. cas watches dean descend down the stairs like nothing monumental just happened. dean offers him a small smile, warm and gentle to make up for him leaving so abruptly just a few hours ago. it’s not the command of god that has castiel reaching for him like he did years ago. he just does it because he can. because he wants to. he's allowed to. castiel meets dean halfway, grips him tight, and holds him.

he whispers something holy and intimate that only dean can hear. an angel prays to man. he is a ball of celestial yarn, unravelling at the feet of a man who believes, years ago, he didn't deserve to be saved, that he is nothing but a killer. but he loves. dean winchesters love is not so easily earned, and he loves castiel. he chooses to. so castiel closes his eyes, bows his head, and like amen, he seals his own silent prayer with a kiss. it's a thank you, it's an apology, it's a promise. it’s nothing, and it’s everything.

dean winchester is not a man of faith, but he has faith in cas. always.

Jensen Ackles really said "no Dean can't say I love you, it's too gay" just to turn around and say "I need you". Yeah sure king, that's definitely not a very queer thing to say. Very heterosexual.

there is no "i love you in every universe" for destiel because there really was just one.

saying “i want him” about the character but not in a romantic or sexual way . i just Require him i need to Obtain him

Finally started S8 of supernatural and Cas being universally known in fucking purgatory as Dean’s Angel PURELY BY DEANS ACTIONS HAS ME FUCKING GNAWING AT THE BARS OF THIS QUEERBAIT ENCLOSURE LET ME OUT

Your friends watching something for the first time and getting to that scene VS you, the knower.

crazy that the spn writers were like okay we're gonna do destiel but only halfway, which one should confess their love and which one should we try to imply 'can't reciprocate' and they chose cas to confess and dean 'kills himself when cas dies' winchester supposedly 'can't reciprocate' lmao what were they smoking in the writers' room

“I’m going to be the one to watch you murder the world” is an insane line

the way cas says he’s still gonna be there with dean even when he becomes a monster and everyone else is long gone is absolutely wild.

Especially since dean has insane abandonment issues and was convinced that everyone’s gonna leave him eventually

And it’s the way he didn’t say he’d have to kill him, he just said he’d watch

*supernatural finale voice* family DO end in blood. maybe the whole point WASNT the friends we made along the way. NEVER keep fighting

fuck infantilized cas, there needs to be more weird castiel content. castiel who’s a little fucked up and unintentionally unsettling. who doesn’t blink or break eye contact. who just stares at roadkill and dead bodies they come across on hunts. give me castiel with repressed sexuality that starts expressing itself in strange ways. give me perverts by ethel cain. give me pulldrone.

he’s viewing the human experience from an unbiased standpoint. he’s a 4 dimensional being stuffed into a 3 dimensional body. he is older than humanity as a whole. Why don’t you guys make him weird?

me yesterday: omg i'm so excited for jibcon this weekend. i know misha is just chomping at the bit to Say Something™

misha the second he steps on stage: kripke and jensen want destiel full penetration in s16

me: aaaaand there he goes, we're so fuckin back

i need jackles to release the tapes…

I need to see EVERY MICRO EXPRESSION JENSEN MADE IN THAT SCENE THAT WAS SO RUDELY LEFT ON THE CUTTING ROOM FLOOR LIKE THIS ONE

please…

everything is right in the world (misha collins said something deeply, deeply insane)

Sobbing??? Aggressively??? And I'm only 1 pm???

i’ve also loved the headcanon that when cas pulled dean out of hell and was rebuilding his soul and body, that part of cas’ grace got intertwined with dean’s soul (possibly why he can take some of the hits he does) and that part of dean’s soul got intertwined with cas’ grace (possibly why he’s so empathetic towards humans)

however, it makes every time cas dies, especially the ending death, twenty times sadder. because now when cas dies a literal part of dean dies inside of him as well. the grace that dean was unknowing relying on disappears, making him weak.

opening tumblr and seeing destiel trending is like russian roulette either its undeniably canon or world war 3 has started only one way to find out

Prolly not Johnny.. prolly not..

thinking about the time castiel became god and decided one of the first orders of business was to kill homophobic religious leaders... that was essentially his coming out scene to me

a teaser being released today would've been perfect what a missed opportunity 😭😭

Lucy Gray should be proud to know she haunted that evil man every damn day of his fucking miserable life

"Full of fresh food, shaded by the trees, Lucy Gray singing softly beside him, he began to appreciate nature. It really was beautiful out here. The crystal clean air. The lush colors. He felt so relaxed and free. What if this was his life: rising whenever, catching his food for the day, and hanging out with Lucy Gray by the lake?

Who needed wealth and success and power when they had love? Didn’t it conquer all?"

--Suzanne Collins, The Ballad of Songbirds and Snakes page 441

In the end, love did conquer all.

If your friend is struggling, the signs might not be obvious. A cry for help can take many different forms. Try checking in on them if you hear them express any of the following sentiments:

I miss Supernatural

I should rewatch Supernatural

Supernatural was such a good show

I hope they make more Supernatural

every post that’s like deans serving cunt is a beautiful delusion. that man has never served a cunt in his life

Thinking about post empty Cas and Dean. Dean FINALLY gets Cas back and immediately assumes the boyfriend role without saying anything. He’s constantly touching Cas wondering why Cas won’t touch him back. Meanwhile Cas is wishing Dean would stop touching him because he’s in love with him and convinced Dean doesn’t feel the same.