Happy Lesbian Visibility Week

You Attract Who You Are!

● Getting Rid of the Idea: 'Good Men Are Hard to Find'

● Good men are not hard to find; they just know what they want. They look for more than just looks. If you want their attention, show who you really are instead of just how you look.

● Good men see these things but aren't impressed by:

○ Showy outfits

○ Flirty poses

○ Over-the-top social media posts

Instead, they appreciate:

☆ Your personality

☆ Your smarts

☆ Your beliefs

● To get a good man’s attention, be more about who you are than how you look. Be smart, not just pretty.

● Remember, true beauty comes from inside!

she walks her fingers along my spine

with the almighty power of fire and rain

a noteworthy performance that reduces me to puddles

i bring her with me

soaking in these currents

What Women Wish You Knew about Dating:

A Single Guy'S Guide To Romantic Relationships

If the difference between guys and men is still unclear.

Here are a few examples that apply to dating:

○ A guy uses women to build his self-esteem.

● A man already has it.

○ A guy likes to "hang out" with a woman he's interested in.

● A man asks her out.

○ A guy doesn't make a move until he's sure there's no risk.

● A man is bold and clear with his intentions.

○ A guy plays games with a woman.

● A man has no time for games because they keep him from getting to know the woman.

○ A guy will become bitter and angry with a woman when she denies him.

● A man accepts that dating involves risk.

○ A guy fears and worships women.

● A man respects and adores them but fears and worships only God.

☆ Guys are cool and indifferent

BUT

● Men are hot and passionate.

How do I give in to my husband's wife sharing fantasy?

My husband wanted to share me with his best friend. I was very much against it on moral grounds. He was nice enough and treated me well when he was over at our house. He had flirted with me a few times but always restrained and subtle, more like pleasant flattery about my hair or how I was dressed than anything sexual. My husband asked me once if I thought I would hate having sex with his friend. I told that I most likely wouldn’t hate it actually doing it but I would hate how I felt about myself for doing it.

I’m not a religious girl but I am spiritual and having sex outside my marriage didn’t sit well with me spiritually. He told me several times that I had his permission to cheat and therefore it wouldn’t be cheating, perhaps that’s true, but for me it would still feel like cheating. Sometime after that, he asked me if there was anything I wanted to do that I hadn’t been doing where his friend could accompany me.

I knew he was trying to find something that I’d find acceptable to go somewhere or do something that would have me spending time with his friend in hopes it would lead to something. I really did miss cultural activities like art museums, theater, symphony concerts, it was really a long list. He’d never refused to got with me but over the 8 years of our marriage, his lack of interest and enthusiasm meant I went less often with him. I did do those kinds of things by myself or with a girlfriend but gradually went less and less often.

So I told him that yes, if his friend wanted to go to an art museum with me, I would go. His friend wasn’t all that knowledgeable about art but he was curious and most importantly, he listened to me. He was genuinely attentive to my thoughts and feelings. That’s how it began and we did things like that more often and before too long, we were dating. What I mean my dating is that he took me places, we talked and laughed and I let him kiss me.

After a few dates where he kissed me, I found myself getting sexually aroused when we kissed and at some point I came to the realization that I wanted him to seduce me. I wanted to get myself into a compromising situation and just let things proceed gently but inevitably into letting him take complete advantage of me. I didn’t want to have to take responsibility for actually making a decision to allow him to have sex with me.

He must have known what it would take. He took me to an opera performance out of town. The only part of it I really planned was I bought a new nightgown, tastefully but alluring. That’s how I gave in to my husband’s wife sharing fantasy. One small step at a time. I feel something like that might work for you, assuming it’s something you really want to do.

Tips for writing plot twists

1. Start with a false sense of security

• The best plot twists work because the audience feels confident they know what’s coming.

• How? Lay down a trail of clues that mislead without outright lying. Create a sense of inevitability.

• Example: A detective follows all the evidence to one suspect, only for the real criminal to be someone they completely overlooked.

2. Plant the seeds early

• A plot twist is most satisfying when it feels inevitable in hindsight. Subtly sprinkle clues throughout the narrative.

• How? Use small, seemingly insignificant details that take on new meaning after the reveal.

• Example: A side character is always conveniently absent during key events—later revealed to be orchestrating everything.

3. Subvert expectations without betraying logic

• A twist should surprise readers, but it must feel plausible within the story’s framework.

• How? Flip assumptions in a way that feels earned. Avoid twists that rely on coincidences or break the rules of your world.

• Example: A character who appears harmless and incompetent is revealed as the mastermind, with subtle foreshadowing tying everything together.

4. Exploit emotional investment

• Twists land harder when they involve characters the audience deeply cares about. Use relationships and personal stakes to heighten the impact.

• How? Create twists that change how readers perceive the characters they thought they knew.

• Example: The protagonist’s mentor is revealed to be the antagonist, making the betrayal personal and devastating.

5. Use red herrings strategically

• Mislead readers by planting false clues that draw attention away from the real twist.

• How? Make the red herrings believable but not overly obvious. They should enhance, not distract from, the story.

• Example: A mysterious object everyone believes is cursed turns out to be completely irrelevant, shifting focus from the true danger.

6. Timing is everything

• Reveal the twist at the moment it has the most dramatic or emotional weight. Too early, and it loses impact. Too late, and it feels rushed.

• How? Build tension to a breaking point before the twist shatters expectations.

• Example: A twist that flips the climax—when the hero thinks they’ve won, they realize they’ve fallen into the villain’s trap.

7. Allow for multiple interpretations

• A great twist makes readers rethink the entire story, encouraging them to revisit earlier scenes with new understanding.

• How? Design the twist so that the story works both before and after the reveal.

• Example: A character’s cryptic dialogue is recontextualized after the twist, revealing their hidden motives.

8. Pair the twist with consequences

• A twist shouldn’t just shock—it should change the trajectory of the story. Make it matter.

• How? Show how the twist raises the stakes or deepens the conflict, forcing the characters to adapt.

• Example: After discovering the villain is their ally, the protagonist must choose between loyalty and justice.

9. Keep the reader guessing

• A single twist is good, but layered twists create an unforgettable story. Just don’t overdo it.

• How? Build twists that complement each other rather than competing for attention.

• Example: A twist reveals the villain’s plan, followed by a second twist that the hero anticipated it and set a counter-trap.

10. Test the twist

• Before finalizing your twist, ensure it holds up under scrutiny. Does it fit the story’s logic? Does it enhance the narrative?

• How? Ask yourself if the twist creates a moment of genuine surprise while respecting your audience’s intelligence.

• Example: A shocking but clever reveal that leaves readers satisfied rather than feeling tricked.

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13 BEST WAYS TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU

1. PREPARE HER

Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER

Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS

If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER

If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES

If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING

If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER

Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE

Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER

Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side

10. DON'T CHEAT ON HER

Just because she is not in the mood today, doesn't mean you cheat. She might come around tomorrow depending on how you two treat each other, but if you cheat on her you might lose her for good

11. BE PATIENT WITH HER

Life is fluid, with ups and downs. Sometimes she may not be in the mood just as you are also sometimes not in the mood. Understand her

12. PUT HER ABOVE YOUR PENIS

Show her that she is more important to you than sexual pleasure. There is more to marriage than an orgasm. Once you make her a priority, intimacy will be richer

13. GENTLY ASK HER WHAT IS WRONG

Don't assume or get furious that she is denying you sex. Simply ask her if she is OK, she will open up and you two will grow closer

Remember: Sex is the gift of marriage from our Creator. So, these are the best tips to all marriages to eliminate misunderstanding on the sex issues for a healthy and happy relationship.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

God bless us all.