Another Blush And White Wedding

“I never had the opportunity to Thank you. To thank you, for teaching me the true meaning behind unconditional love. To love passionatley and whole-heartedly. For teaching me to see love in the smallest things. To see the love in soft smiles and gentle touches. In sleepy conversations, over morning coffees and laughing untill your stomach hurts, during late-night dinners. And seeing the smallest changes in yourself; like waking up and never wanting to stay in bed (unless he’s in it.) and looking at each day as an opportunity to love more. Learning to love the smallest parts of someone; like the way he says your name or how your heart dances to the rhythm of his laugh. Putting that love over anger - even when you can feel your blood boiling under your skin. Understanding that ‘love’ doesn’t mean no problems, rather problems that always come with talked-out solutions. Giving your time, to the thing that means the most and always showing that you are forever grateful; for the home you’ve found in two eyes and a soft heartbeat. Making sacrifices that that no longer feel like loses; for the one that matters most. For teaching me to love without expectations, but most importantly - without resentment. Understanding, that the one you love most….doesn’t always love you too. And how you cannot let your heart be filled with anger because of the things he can’t change. That your heartbeats in ways you cannot explain; for the people you did not choose to love. How if you truley love someone, it doesn’t always matter if they love you back. Because his happiness means the most and if happiness is her, then you were happy enough for him. And for teaching me to learn to love again, even after all your love has been drained away. To know how it’s supposed to feel, when you see everything you’ve ever wanted - become the only thing you’ll ever need.”

— Hard learned lessons - excerpt from the book I’ll never write

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How to Develop Self-Compassion

1. Acknowledge to yourself that you’re having a hard time.

2. Don’t beat yourself up for struggling.

3. Let go of any tendencies towards perfectionism.

4. Ask for support from those who truly care.

5. Make sure you enforce healthy boundaries with others.

6. Drop some commitments, and give yourself more space.

7. Take time to relax, and to do things you enjoy.

8. Learn to appreciate and value solitude.

When the one you've been looking for was looking for you too

(part one)

- Romy Reverie

so, what now?

“It is better to be unhappy and know the worst, than to be happy in a fool’s paradise.”

— Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Idiot