Hi! I’m An Mtf Girl And I’ve Been Searching Around For Good Hairstyles To Have, But I’m Having

Hi! I’m an mtf girl and I’ve been searching around for good hairstyles to have, but I’m having a lot of trouble finding anything that wouldn’t be too suspicious to ask my hairdresser to do. She doesn’t know I’m trans and I’m unsure of how she’ll react if I told her. Do you have any advice or good hairstyles that would work in this situation?

Devon says:

Firstly, check out this post from our transfeminine resources!

Depending on how often you get your hair cut/styled, and how soon you want a more feminine hairstyle, you could try gauging how supportive she is the next time you see her. This would give you the opportunity to figure out if she is supportive while you get your “usual” hair cut/style, and then you can make the decision about whether to come out to her before the next time you get your hair cut/styled.

If she then seems unsupportive of trans folks, or you don’t want to wait so long for a new hairstyle, then you could try some of these things:

Go to a new hairdresser, who you know is supportive of trans folks

This website looks helpful (under “What Do You Need?” with the category “Personal Care & Services”)

Try searching elsewhere online for supportive businesses in your area

Ask LGBT+ friends of yours about their hairdressers. If you don’t have any LGBT+ friends, you could contact local LGBT+ organizations and ask them where they get their hair cut/styled

Ask on facebook! You might have accepting acquaintances who are into hairstyling and willing to help you out, that you don’t know about

Search for reference photos online, or using links from the first post that I linked

Try a search term like “feminine men hair” or “unisex men hair” on search engine like Google

Google image results for these search terms are all white folks, so you can add “feminine Black men hair” if you’re Black, for example

This will give you a photo of a man with the more feminine hair style, which your hairdresser may be more accepting of than a reference photo of a woman with the hair style that you want

Style/cut your own hair! Use tips from the first post that I linked

I hope this helps! Followers, reblog this post with more tips for anon.

What Am I?

“I feel [thoughts, feelings]. What am I?”

We can’t answer that. The only person who can…is you. However, we are able to suggest terms you may identify with and encourage you at every turn.

genders / more genders / neurogenders / questioning / sexualities / non-binary sexualities / mlm, wlw, nblnb, etc

Here’s a few mod’s answers on what gender feels like for them. This is a free Virtual Gender Identity Support Group you could join! And this link has some resources: I Think I Might Be Trans: 8 Important Notes On Questioning

We also have tags for different genders (such as /tagged/bigender) if you want more info. Go to your browser like Chrome or Safari and type https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com/tagged/insertidenity if you can’t search the blog on your mobile app! If you have any further questions, feel free to ask us!

“I didn’t suspect I am trans until I was [x age], so am I still valid?

Yes! Not everyone realizes they’re trans in childhood, and that’s totally okay. Some people realize as children, some people realize during puberty, some people realize in high school, some people realize as adults, and it’s all valid. Even our mods had different ages of discovery (When did you know you were trans?) and that’s totally normal!

Here are a few basic steps to get you started on your journey:

Daydreaming. Think of the future; maybe you have the perfect occupation, or children, or life partner(s), or all three? Or perhaps you’re supreme dictator of Earth? No matter where you are, what do you look like? A man, a woman, someone in between, both, neither, etc.? The image you have in mind could be indicative of who you feel you are, or who you want to be.

Stating your gender. Look in the mirror. State, “I am a boy/girl/etc.,” or, “I am not [assigned gender].” Does it feel right? Does it feel comfortable? This could be indicative of who you feel you are, or who you want to be!

Being called your chosen name/pronouns. (Please note that you do not have to change your name or pronouns to be transgender.) Think of a close friend who you trust and feel would support and respect you during this time. Say to them, “I am questioning my gender and I would like you to call me (insert name here) and use (insert pronouns here) for me when other people aren’t around.” A good friend will agree. If it feels right for them to call you your chosen name, that could be an indicator. It will feel weird at first to have your friend call you your chosen name, but you’ll get comfortable with it if it is right. The same goes for your gender pronouns!

These three websites will help you practice pronouns!

http://www.practicewithpronouns.com (TW for some disturbing sentences, they’re modeled after the Welcome to Nightvale podcast)

https://minus18.org.au/pronouns-app/

http://www.pronouns.failedslacker.com/

Experiment. For people or beings who think they may be transmasculine, you could pack with a sock, purchase a chest binder, dress in “masculine” clothing, or talk to masc-identified people or beings! For people or beings who think they may be transfeminine, you can try on makeup, dress in “feminine” clothing, or talk to femme-identified people or beings!

Research. If you don’t know much about being transgender, look here. Look into surgeries and hormones, if this is something that interests you! (Please note that you do not have to get surgery or go on hormones to be transgender.) Check out videos on YouTube, talk to people who are on hormones or have had the surgeries, or check out our trans-masculine resources or our trans-feminine resources

Still confused? Try this.

Good luck!

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