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Happy Pride Month

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You tried to compensate your outer male identity by lifting weights, growing a beard, drinking like no tomorrow, working at a “man’s” job, and even getting married to a hot girl and becoming a breadwinner, all before you turned 30. But you weren’t happy; your inner identity didn’t match to what you were trying to be. Now, you’re trying to learn how to be a woman and catch up with women your age. Secretly, you like how women envy your younger looks while gaining interest in the guys paying attention to you. Sure, you may have lost all of your previous accomplishments, relationships, and interests, and struggle to perfect even the basic womanly things, but you are happier than ever being as the woman you always were inside.

You Can be a Boy and be Girlish

If you’ve followed my little tumblr long enough, you have probably noticed the theme of being “girly” and not so much with becoming a girl, hormones, operations, etc.  There is a reason for this.  I’m an advocate for girliness among men.  I do, in fact, make captions about becoming girls, but those are not as frequent and done to add some diversity. 

Listen to me on this: It’s perfectly fine for a boy to remain a boy and also want to be girly; and all without becoming female.  I see that it is often portrayed that it has to be an either/or.  For example, you’re either a boy or a girl; you either want to be a boy or you want to be a girl.  And I ask, “Why must it be an either/or?  Why can’t it be both/and?“  Why can’t I, or anybody enjoy being boys with girly instincts, passions, and desires?  Why can’t I be both boy and girlish?  Just because I love panties, cute shoes, and bras doesn’t mean that i have to hate being a boy or that I must undergo treatments to become a girl.  It also does not mean that I’m a pervert or a sexual deviant. 

I relate with sissies, but that doesn’t mean that I crave to be sexually assaulted and humiliated either.  I also have the utmost respect for people who transform their gender either partially or completely.  But that’s not me, that’s probably not most of you, and that’s probably not a majority of men who have girlish desires.  One size does not fit all.  We are all so much more than any “either/or”.

At this moment, I’ve got the man look going on.  Put me in flanel and I’d look like a lumberjack.  And chances are that if you saw me out and about, unless you noticed my women’s shoes or a VPL, then you’d think I was the typical man’s man–a stereotypical alpha male.  To know me, however, is different.  I am male with passions for girliness.  Being a girly boy suits me just fine.  I am both/and, not an either/or.  I deserve the space to feel that way–and you do too.  Respect me that I am a human being who is open to exploring a softer side of who I am.

I feel like this has become more of a rant than anything.  I don’t mean for it to be.  I mean for this to be an encouragement to all of you boys out there who enjoy girliness, even if, and especially if, this pretty part of you is a secret.  Don’t let anybody fool you into believing that you are lost or a coward because you are both a boy and a girlish person.  And if anything else, you’ve got my support and friendship.  I appreciate you for being you.

Much love to you all!

CandieHart

PS–Happy ThanksGIRLing Day!

Happy pride month to those who are scared

Happy pride month to those who are proud

Happy pride month to those who are out

Happy pride month to those who are closeted

Happy pride month if you’re trying to figure yourself out

Happy pride month if you’ve known for years

Happy pride month to those who it’s their first

Happy pride month to those who have celebrated for years

Happy pride month to those who are afraid to celebrate

Happy pride month to those who will scream it from the rooftops

Happy pride month to you.