Lauracal78 - Slice Of Freedom

I Don’t Care…I am Proud of You!

I cannot say it enough, because I have doubts about how often you might hear it: I’m proud of you for being a girly boy. 

I don’t care that I don’t know you.  I don’t care if you’re white, black, bronze, skinny, chubby, short or tall.  I don’t care if this girly nature of yours is in the closet or blatantly in the open.  I don’t care if your sense of girliness is more fetish and fantasy than passion and reality.  I don’t care if you plan to transition or if you’re happy to be a male.  I don’t care if you like feminine things that I don’t.  I don’t care if you’re straight, gay, bi, or a wanna-be lesbian.  I don’t care if you’re a weekend crossdresser or a weekday panty wearer.  I don’t care if you look like a hefty lumberjack in a dress or a Greek athlete in a unitard.  I really don’t care. 

What I do care about is that you are a special human being with emotions and character; that you believe that there is something phenomenally wonderful and unique about being a girly boy; that there is a deeply rooted passion for the girliness you keep stored away. What I care about is for you to know that I am so very proud of you for being feminine.  That might not mean much coming from a total stranger, yet I have to say it.  And whatever you do, don’t ever give up.  Especially, don’t give up on you.

Spread the love from your sweet, loving, proud, girly friend.

CandieHart 

What are some semi-harsh truths you have for people who are new to transitioning?

I don’t mean sharing depressing statistics that they’re likely already aware of. I mean things that might be difficult to internalize but are important to know for the most stable experience possible.

 Your transition will cause disappointment. Not of yourself, but of people you had hoped were better. Those are ‘them’ problems, not ‘you’ problems. You will most likely have to outgrow people.

Hormones helped with the emotional aspects of depression and anxiety, but you still have all the bad habits and thought patterns that are associated. It takes work to fully heal

Dysphoria does lessen overall but that can make some sources of it feel worse

You don't know what all your dysphorias are, or how strong they are. Dysphoria is a type of pain, and the brain is only able to perceive so much pain at a time. When you clear out the biggest problem, you'll be able to see the next. It may come as a hell of a surprise.

If you require a medical transition, SERIOUSLY DO YOUR RESEARCH ON SURGEONS. While there are some great surgeons out there, there are DEFINITELY bad ones too. There are extremely dangerous "medical providers" who falsely advertise their expertise. THOROUGHLY read the wiki page in /Transgender_Surgeries

There are a whole bunch of places you can't really go to anymore. And I don't just mean Russia or Saudi, I mean many suburbs, rural areas, or any neighborhoods that aren't already quite progressive.

Just because someone's trans doesn't mean they aren't transphobic, get to know people before you come out to them 

You will lose friends, some might be openly against it others might just drift away just be prepared to lose some of your friends not all but some.

Transition is not a cure-all for all your problems, it might help with something like depression and certainly dysphoria. But there are some problems that will still be there

Take lots of pictures even if you feel ugly. You'll want those later just as a boost to see how far you have come. 

For my trans-women friends, it is dangerous to be alone with a man who you don't know, even in public.

Carry pepper spray, carry a firearm, learn how to throw a punch, stay with your group, and never go home with a stranger.

Throwing other trans people under the bus, especially less "acceptable" or "palatable" trans people, in order to make cis people respect you is bullshit.

Do not be afraid to switch therapists and doctors if one doesn't feel right.

Most people don't know shit about being trans or how transitioning works. Get ready for the most disgustingly intrusive questions you can imagine.

Never read the comments. There's no point in getting into battles, I know you want to, but LGBT education is EXHAUSTING, people are hostile for no reason. They are scared of you and hate you because they don't know you. Remember: it doesn't have to be your job to educate people.

Trans people are a really easy target for hate politics because we strongly depend on other people (doctors who prescribe our meds, surgeons, government for name change stuff) and it's very easy to take them away from you. 

Cis people will tell you that you'll "regret transitioning" or that you're making a mistake because they cannot even comprehend something like dysphoria, their greatest fear is having their sex permanently altered, which would be dysphoric for them, and they think everyone else is like that.

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In matching lingerie, you see ! 🥰💗🥰

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For my children and all the children I support through my work.

For all adults.

For all the families, friends and professionals that love and support them.

•ACCEPTANCE NOT AWARENESS

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Love Kitty