If you are a late diagnosed autistic and/or ADHDer, you may discover a very odd comment being thrown your way that will have you questioning everything:
You'll stop, look at your actions and wonder "fuck... Am I faking all this because I've been diagnosed?"
No. No you are not.
What you are experiencing (and what they are seeing) is known as unmasking.
Diagnosis (for many late diagnosed adults) is a long sought after answer. Before diagnosis we often suppress all our needs, including stimming, hyperactivity, difficulties concentrating, force ourselves to go out, socialise etc.
Diagnosis is the first time we feel we have permission to not kill ourselves for the sake of a 2 hour dinner party. And we say "no, thank you" or we stim more to concentrate or cope instead of holding it all in.
And NT people see that and say "this is different. People don't change unless something is wrong with them. So, something is wrong with what they're doing."
But there is nothing wrong with unmasking. It's scary, sometimes necessary... But it's never wrong.
we’ve had our fair share of tumblr sexymen on this site, but i think it’s time to usher in a new era
new reblog game actually put in the tags what the blog you reblogged from tastes like
put in the tags something that happened to you that restored your faith in humanity, even if it was only just for that moment
I hate when people say that autism doesn’t have a look. Yes, I understand that many low support needs/high masking/level 1s constantly get fakeclaimed because people say they don’t “look” autistic. However, they(low support needs/high masking individuals) usually follow this up by saying “autism doesn’t have a look. Stop saying that”
I want people to understand that to a lot of higher support needs people, we DO look autistic. We do stim publicly. We do grunt, laugh, make noises/vocal stim loudly. We do carry AAC devices. We do look autistic. People can point us out. People can know just from looking at us for a few seconds. That’s the issue I have.
Many of us look developmentally disabled. We look different. It’s frustrating to see time and time again that autism doesn’t have a look when I get singled out in public just for simply existing. It’s just exhausting.
Please in the future rephrase your posts. We are on the internet. We are reading your posts. We’re on tumblr. We’re on Reddit. We’re on Facebook and more. And even if we aren’t, you’re still disregarding those of us who are visibly autistic.
A prompt list.
Doing things for the loved one.
Body language and showing love with touch.
One on one time spend with the loved one.
Receiving thoughtful gifts from the loved one.
Encouraging words.
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Maybe it's just the late-night sads, but I wanna say something to all the young artists on here-
Don't give up.
Even if you think your art sucks, there are plenty of people out there who will look at it and appreciate it. Keep going. Keep improving. You can do it.
Don't give up.
-someone who gave up on art and highly regrets it
Alright, another poll for my indecisiveness-
the mspec to aspec pipeline is real and it happened to me
[ID: a collection of m-spec flags (including bi, pan, poly, omni, and multisexual) at one end of a pipeline with a collection of a-spec flags (including aro, ace, greyace, greyaro, demi, demiro, and aroace) at the other end. end ID]
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