Don’t Keep Tabs On Them, Don’t Speak On Them, Don’t Interact With Them & Sincerely Let Them Go

Your self concept creates you. Your self concept creates your life. Your self concept determines the quality of your reality. The dominant beliefs about yourself and your life are the foundation of your reality. The external reality is the reflection of what’s going on in your internal world. It’s a mirror. 

If you want to change something in your reality, you don't change a reflection. You change yourself, your inner world, the world of your thoughts and emotions. When you put on a new self concept, a new state of being, your reality responds. It has no other option. It has to mirror your new internal state. You are capable of manifesting anything you want. You can live the life of your dreams. But to do this, you need to put on an identity of a person you want to become and then start showing up as this person every single day.

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I can behave normally around books

“The one thing you can change is how you treat yourself. And that one thing can change everything.”

— Unknown

How to figure out the lesson in situations:

1. Identity the pattern. Think about the situations and people who have made you feel this way or brought you a specific outcome.

Are these relationships leaving you feeling the same way (undervalued, overwhelmed, or hurt)?

What character traits are you seeing (unavailability, neediness, or dishonesty)? Are you choosing people because of specific character traits (they don’t have to feel inherently negative to you)?

2. Think about your reactions to all of those things. Do you tolerate bad behavior hoping it will change? Do you avoid confrontation or fail to set boundaries? Do you feel like a victim or powerless?

3. Figure out what you are avoiding. Typically the lessons come from the things we resist. Are you avoiding self respect by settling for less? Are you ignoring red flags for fear of being alone?

4. Think about how your choices or beliefs contribute to these outcomes.

For example:

Do you over-give to earn approval?

Do you ignore your intuition to avoid conflict?

5. Ask yourself:

What can this situation teach me about self worth, boundaries, or communication?

How can I grow emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?

6. Practice the lesson actively:

If the lesson is about self worth, say no to people who devalue you.

If it’s about boundaries, start expressing your needs clearly.

You’ll know you’ve learned the lesson when similar situations arise and you respond differently, breaking the cycle.

*There is always a lesson to be learned (aside from the fact that the other person is probably a horrible human being) 😚 Don’t be stubborn about it and think you’re a perfect person. It doesn’t make you less perfect, or dumb, or deserving of how people treated you. The point is for you to grow, evolve and make sure it never happens again.

i’d do anything for me. i love me.

Yep. Some people are so miserable, they wanna see others down bad just like them

Complaining is ugly, lazy, and pathetic.

Here’s the thing: complaining doesn’t get results. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t change anything. If something isn’t working, you fix it. If you want something, you go after it. That’s how I live my life, and honestly? It’s why I’m thriving.

I don’t waste time blaming other people or circumstances for where I am. The truth is, no one’s coming to save you. No one is going to hand you the life you dream of. You have to wake up every day and decide to be better, to work harder, and to keep pushing—even when it feels impossible.

Yes, I’ve made sacrifices. Yes, I’ve had to shut out the noise and put in hours when everyone else was out partying or complaining about how unfair life is. But that’s why my life looks the way it does now. While other people were finding excuses, I was finding solutions.

I’ve learned that the universe rewards effort. It rewards discipline. It rewards consistency. If you want to live an extraordinary life, you have to put in extraordinary work. And no, it’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

So while people are out here complaining, I’ll keep showing up, doing the work, and watching my life transform. The results speak for themselves, and the best part? I’m just getting started.

at some point I wanted this right

I wanted to be a doctor

right?

'God's Idea' by Da Loria Norman, 1931.

EKG Tattoos

Can we all just agree that if you work in medicine and you’re going to get a tattoo with a heart rhythm, you should ensure you know the rhythm you’re putting on your body?

I will 100% judge you if you tell me that V-fib on your wrist signifies life.