i have had to put great work into not trying to be bob the builder for a man that doesn’t even realize he’s the problem. it’s one thing for them to acknowledge they’re fucked up. after that they need to realize that they don’t have to be a reflection of the pain that was caused to them. i can deal with cold and standoffish, i can’t deal with lashing out at the slightest threat to their strong-face.
“I can fix him” I couldn’t fix him and I don’t want to. I think he grew prone to biting and scratching in order to get by in a harsh world, and to me his resilience is part of what makes him so beautifully himself. I could be kind to him, though. I could show him gentleness. I could, slowly but surely, in the same way one earns the trust of a skittish stray cat, convince him that my touch will never come accompanied by pain. That, around me, he can allow himself to be soft. To relax. I could be the one he associates with warmth and safety, the one he longs to be held by after a hard day. I could be his home.
Hymenopus coronatus (Olivier, 1792)
the walking flower mantis / orchid-blossom mantis / (pink) orchid mantis
Found in SE Asia rainforests (Cambodia, Indonesia, Laos, Malaysia, Myanmar, Thailand, Vietnam, Philippines, Singapore and Western Ghats of India).
These organisms can switch between brown and pink depending on the color of the background.
They have significantly pronounced sexual dimorphism relative to other mantis species. That is- the males can be less than half the size of the female.
This camouflage is considered to be potentially a self defense mechanism and/or a form of mimicry that helps it blend with the orchid to capture insect prey.
source: the species wikipedia page
i broke a nail at work on tuesday, then got nausea and hot flashes and peeled the skin off my hand sliding down the wall, and the next day cut another finger. i am she. she is me. we are one.
I hurt my back pretty reasonably at work today and unfortunately I couldn’t stop laughing because my first thought was “workplace injury barbie”
my professor always watched me write when doing research and he’d be like “yknow you’re supposed to be smart like me! left handed people are smart!” like he forgets every single time.
today he said “yknow that’s why you are brilliant, left-handed!”
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siri, play i will get there by boyz ii men
this looks like that one COD map a little bit