I Can Convince Myself Anyone Deserves To Be Mistreated. I Am Also Unshakable In My Belief That I'm Pure

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

I'm making a new account.

(Nothing serious. Honestly, I've done this before because I want to keep my socials organized, and I feel I've messed it up a bit.)

I like my username, but I feel like I should change it somehow? So I'm consulting here just in case it might be helpful or if anyone would be interested in this poll.

Thought about making a separate blog as well titled Niviriuus, after my gaming user. I'd probably want to separate them, but who knows.

‏I am mohammed Ayyad, I am 17 years old, high school student, I have 7 brothers, including 4 girls and 3 boys and my mother.

‏Since the beginning of the war, my family and I have been displaced 4 times, each time more severe than the other.

‏The first is from Gaza City to Khan Yunis, and the second is from Khan Yunis to the shores of Bahr Khan Yunis, then to the city of Rafah, and then to an area called Al Qarara .

‏My house was completely destroyed , everything is under the rubble my childhood, my memories, my books, and my ambition and Many relatives and friends were killed and life was completely destroyed.

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I am Mohammed Ayyad from Gaza Al-Shuja'iyya

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I have sought refuge with you because of the devastating war that caused me to lose my home and my mother and we were displaced from one place to another and lost my children's future and there is a severe shortage of basic materials,

I have sought refuge with you so that I can provide a decent and safe life for me and my family consisting of my wife and my children Yasser, Omar, Maryam, Jana and Sarah, each of them has dreams but unfortunately they have lost hope and despair is controlling them,

I hope that you will stand by us either by donating if possible or sharing widely,

Thank you very much

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noting that my son Omar has a Tumblr account under the name @m430235341 and it was checked and I had an account under the name @mohammadayyad and it was also checked but I was surprised today that it was banned so today I created a new account under the name @mohammadyaser1980, please check it and thank you 5, @mohammadayyad’s fundraiser. As of posting they’ve been able to raise €12,143 of their €35,000 goal.This fundraiser has been vetted by @/inthefaceofada

https://gofund.me/e7c7528a

Hello my friends,

https://gofund.me/e7c7528a

🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸❤🤍💚🖤

I am Mohammed Ayyad from Gaza Al-Shuja'iyya

,

I have sought refuge with you because of the devastating war that caused me to lose my home and my mother and we were displaced from one place to another and lost my children's future and there is a severe shortage of basic materials,

I have sought refuge with you so that I can provide a decent and safe life for me and my family consisting of my wife and my children Yasser, Omar, Maryam, Jana and Sarah, each of them has dreams but unfortunately they have lost hope and despair is controlling them,

I hope that you will stand by us either by donating if possible or sharing widely,

Thank you very much

🇵🇸🇵🇸🇵🇸❤🤍💚🖤

noting that my son Omar has a Tumblr account under the name @m430235341 and it was checked and I had an account under the name @mohammadayyad and it was also checked but I was surprised today that it was banned so today I created a new account under the name @mohammadyaser1980, please check it and thank you 5, @mohammadayyad’s fundraiser. As of posting they’ve been able to raise €12,143 of their €35,000 goal.This fundraiser has been vetted by @/inthefaceofada

https://gofund.me/e7c7528a

Hello my friend, I am a hadiah from Gaza.

Can you help my children and donate even a little

I was working as a lawyer to bring justice, and now you are the ones who will bring justice to me...

I have children. In the name of humanity and not participating in genocide.

I ask you to re-share my story and help my children if possible. Ten dollars is enough to save my children.

Please do what you can.

I want my children to live in safety and peace. Please don't neglect to do what you can to participate or donate

Link in bio

My campaing vetted by @90-ghost

@moayesh

Please help my family and save my children 😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭😭

#gazahelp #FreePalestin

https://gofund.me/3d43240d

Hello my friend, I am a hadiah from Gaza.

Can you help my children and donate even a little

I was working as a lawyer to bring justice, and now you are the ones who will bring justice to me...

I have children. In the name of humanity and not participating in genocide.

I ask you to re-share my story and help my children if possible. Ten dollars is enough to save my children.

Please do what you can.

I want my children to live in safety and peace. Please don't neglect to do what you can to participate or donate

Link in bio

My campaing vetted by @90-ghost

@moayesh

Please help my family and save my children 😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭😭

#gazahelp #FreePalestin

Hello my friend, I am a hadiah from Gaza.

Can you help my children and donate even a little

I was working as a lawyer to bring justice, and now you are the ones who will bring justice to me...

I have children. In the name of humanity and not participating in genocide.

I ask you to re-share my story and help my children if possible. Ten dollars is enough to save my children.

Please do what you can.

I want my children to live in safety and peace. Please don't neglect to do what you can to participate or donate

Link in bio

My campaing vetted by @90-ghost

@moayesh

Please help my family and save my children 😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭😭

#gazahelp #FreePalestin

Hello my friend, I am a hadiah from Gaza.

Can you help my children and donate even a little

I was working as a lawyer to bring justice, and now you are the ones who will bring justice to me...

I have children. In the name of humanity and not participating in genocide.

I ask you to re-share my story and help my children if possible. Ten dollars is enough to save my children.

Please do what you can.

I want my children to live in safety and peace. Please don't neglect to do what you can to participate or donate

Link in bio

My campaing vetted by @90-ghost

@moayesh

Please help my family and save my children 😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😭😭😭😭

#gazahelp #FreePalestin

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Merry Christmas! Our dreams may be simple, but they are filled with hope and love. With your support, we can keep these warm moments alive and continue our story.

Merry Christmas, and together, we make a difference.

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Thanks, Cere. I got really excited when I saw this.

it rly is weird how theres this culture in progressive spaces where like you can be as mean, as CRUEL even, as you want as long as youre not being explicitly bigoted towards any marginalized group of people and still be seen as a really good person with good morals who nobody is allowed to have beef with bc theyve never done anything racist or homophobic

Hey so fun new scam just dropped! I got a call earlier today from someone spoofing the local police department's desk number, asking me if there was a reason I'd missed my jury summons this morning.

Friends, I had not received a jury summons for this month. Which I told him, at which point his previously clear diction suddenly turned into a rapid mumble, only becoming clear for scary words like 'federal' and then asking to confirm my address, at which point I hung up and decided to call the police department later.

When I called the police department the desk officer sounded so tired y'all. All I had to say was "Hey I got a call earlier saying I missed jury duty this morning?" and she immediately sighed and told me that yes it was a scam that was going around and thanked me for calling to confirm.

So this is your periodic reminder that law enforcement agencies will not call you to tell you that you're in trouble. If you need to pay a fine of some sort they will mail you a physical invoice. Anyone calling you saying they're from the police or any other law enforcement organization (up to the CIA and yes I have heard of scammers attempting to impersonate CIA agents over the phone) who then tries to get financial information from you over the phone is a scammer.

I know I actually bang on about this a weird amount, but it is my fervent hope that the information will stick in peoples' brains if they get randomly selected for the adrenaline spike lottery. Scammers use scary words to get you to panic in order to shut down your critical thinking, and if even one person's brain spits out "Tumblr user waterhobbit said the cops/CIA/federal marshalls don't call about this shit" before their bank account routing number is in the hands of assholes I will consider it a job well done.