Onionisemotional - ON I ON

Talking about no contact and estrangement is becoming a serious thing online, so I want to put this out there. You do not have to try to fix things with your parents before you're allowed to cut off or reduce contact. You do not have to try and convince them to treat you right before you take care of yourself and do what you have to for your safety and wellbeing.

I didn't sit my parents down and explain to them that they'd been abusing me and try to convince them to stop. The likelihood that they would have received this well felt minuscule. Once I got the courage to do what I needed to do, I sent an email telling them that I was ending all contact between us.

Because ultimately it wasn't about them. It was about me, and the fact that I was unable to break out of old survival modes and stop putting on a false self to please them. I needed the space to grow. I needed to be away from them to heal. Period.

If you want to try setting boundaries with your parents before going no contact, go for it. But you're not bad or undeserving of peace because you didn't run that gauntlet. It's optional. There are no rules, no hoops you must jump through before you deserve what you need.

s/o to this skeleton babe from 1936

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Quick what are you doing RIGHT now (besides scrolling Tumblr)

I'm finally done sketching (though to be fair, i like my sketches to be as perfect as possible, and i usually dont have to change much later on. and my jouints bad)!! I'll be able to move onto coloring soon! btw, if you were wanting to learn how to draw like the canon style (not entirely sure if thats what you were implying, im not great at picking up things sometimes) i recommend looking into proportion and line thickness!

I know the feeling! And thank you! Don't forget to take care of your hands, Anon!

It may say this is for people who knit, but these are good exercises for crafters and artists alike! They help me a lot! I highly recommend!

if you have a popular post on this site inevitably people will tag it with something like “croggles to bringles when they lost the ploogie in ep 10” and it rules. i have no idea what you’re talking about but you’re right this IS so croggles to bringles when they lost the ploogie in episode 10.

Reblog this to ease the back pain of the person you reblogged it from

50K€ alcohol budget for the government wasn't on my 2025 bingo card but perhaphs it should have been

modern sansa stark has a tiktok account where she does mid song covers and outfit checks and a bunch of other generic young teen stuff. cersei occasionally comments to give her somewhat overcritical fashion pointers except as cersei's own world starts falling apart she ends up giving sansa increasingly questionable and cynical life advice until she's full on sitting on her luxury duvet three glasses of wine in venting through tiktok comments to this thirteen year old child who is just sitting there like. ok. and then sansa starts matching names to faces and realizes that this lady is actually the mother of her terrible jerk middle school ex-bf and blocks her so cersei retaliates by reporting sansa's account for terrorism.