I know this is an odd post to make, but in case someone needs to hear it, rad fems have been in your shoes, and still chose to align with radical feminism.
I started wearing makeup and push up bras in middle school. I discovered bdsm in 9th grade and loved it, I based my identity in it. I've dated/slept with 8 different trans women, and my longest relationship was with a trans woman just a few years back. I identified as a trans man from 16 to 21, and started medically transitioning when I was 19. I used to look at porn every day because I didn't understand the harm it did, and I actually used to post sexual videos of myself online for praise and approval. I was so vehemently pro "sex work" that I would've pursued it as an income had I not been so aware of how it'd affect my future career.
I was radicalized when I realized how much all of these things were based on who I was trained to become by the patriarchy, or in reaction to trauma it had caused me. I slept with so many TIMs for the validation and to feel like a good person, I was into kink because I had been sexually assaulted since infancy and it felt like an escape from normal sex while still fulfilling the male fantasy, I was transitioning to escape all of the expectations put on me as a female who just couldn't be "woman" enough. My life has been ruled by the patriarchy, and opening my eyes to the amount of brain washing I went through, from Christianity as a kid all the way through being a queer teen on the internet made me a rad fem. We were just like you, and we still became radical feminists.
‘the majority of men are good’
‘It’s only a few bad ones’
Then why have women be oppressed for centuries?
I want women who enjoy their rights rn oblivious to history and to everything going around them to see this. You can not take a backseat that you're safe now forever. You have to stay active, or this happens. Men will choose to oppress women instead of addressing their complaints. Out of all the proposed solutions like maternity leave, shorter work days, egalitarian house chores, etc, they choose to reduce women back to incubators.
Things I support:
dysphoric people (trans or not)
getting dysphoric people access to better healthcare
getting transitioning people access to better healthcare
getting trans people healthcare which presents treatment for dysphoria and transition as options and does not pressure anyone to do anything
scientific research into the health risks and long-term effects of various aspects of transitioning (binding, hormone therapy, psychological patterns, etc.)
safety and autonomy of trans people
detransitioned people
Things I do not support:
males in female spaces
female spaces being compromised into free-for-all “gender neutral” spaces (while male spaces are left untouched)
medically transitioning children
lesbians & gay men have to be “open to” dating transwomen/transmen respectively or they’re transphobic
lesbians & gay men should “re-examine” their “genital fetishes” (i.e. DIY conversion therapy)
presenting medical transition as the only route for dysphoric people
pressuring dysphoric and/or gender-nonconforming people to identify as trans
erasing gender-nonconforming women like joan of arc from women’s history by claiming they were transmen
erasing gay figures like marsha p. johnson from gay rights history by claiming they were trans
rapists, murderers and predators who hold (or held) positions of influence in the trans movement (biko, rivers, alok, etc etc)
“centering” males in female reproductive rights
silencing female issues to cater to transwomen’s feelings
silencing victims of male trans people in the interest of “not making transwomen look bad”
violent and/or intimidating protests, no-platforming, other intimidation tactics, as an attempt to ban women’s writing, silence women’s dissenting voices, and erase women’s achievements
people identifying as trans based on gender stereotypes, outdated notions of “brain sex,” or nebulous feelings rather than sex dysphoria
transwomen being allowed to pretend they were not socialized male
transwomen being allowed to pretend they do not, and have never held male privilege
transmen’s experiences with female socialization and sex-based oppression being silenced and transmen being thrown under the bus in order to make the previous two points appear legitimate
pushing false statistics, lies, and strawman arguments to demonize anyone who questions trans theory
“TERF”
subsequent TERF witch-hunts, block lists, demanding that no one so much as hear what radical feminists have to say and instead blindly accept a strawman version of what we believe
ostracizing and bullying of anyone who expresses curiosity about radical feminist ideas, reveals that they’ve read radical feminist blogs, or so much as reblogs memes from radical feminists
denial of basic biology
denial of basic sociology
denial of sex-based oppression
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If you Google "India rape news" these are the top articles that show up (they're all from today btw). And these are just the reported cases.
According to a report, 99% of sexual assault cases against Indian women go unreported.
Indian women are subjected to the worst kind of abuse by men. Misogyny is so deeply rooted here that honestly, I don’t think there’s any hope for us.
And the truth is, nothing we do matters. I could read all the feminist literature in the world, I could make endless lists of everything that’s wrong with this country, I could create space for women online and offline - but men would still continue to hurt us.
And my main issue is with men. Especially with the ones who understand exactly what’s wrong and still choose silence. The ones who laugh off their friends' remarks towards women, ignore how their fathers treat their mothers, and think they’re somehow better just because they’ve “never abused a woman.”
Their silence is our abuse. Their refusal to speak is our abuse.
And then there are women who’ve internalised misogyny so deeply, they defend and uphold the very systems that destroy us. That’s our abuse too.
And as a woman who doesn’t have the privilege to leave this country, I will continue to bear this abuse because I have no choice.
redeeming moment for crazy white women everywhere
"A man just killed himself, he was lonely because no woman wanted to have sex with him and be his slave"
Carrie is fat in the book. Learning that completely blew me.
The use of pigs blood makes so much more sense. The reason she was bullied so relentlesly, even though she does nothing to nobody, makes so much more sense. The relationship with her mother makes so much more sense.
I know they aren't going to, but I wish they would cast someone fat in this new Carrie adaptation. From the articles I've seen, they are already speculating which skinny actress it's going to be.
How many times can they tell the story the same exact way? The answer: endlessly.
I don't know what's worse the total erasure of fat people in movies or the only story we get to see ourselves in are the love yourself fatty movies.
85% of survivors of prostitution report being victims of incest as children, 90% were physically abused, and 98% were emotionally abused.
“Incest is boot camp. Incest is where you send the girl to learn how to do it. So you don't, obviously, have to send her anywhere, she's already there and she's got nowhere else to go. She's trained. And the training is specific and it is important: not to have any real boundaries to her own body; to know that she's valued only for sex; to learn about men what the offender, the sex offender, is teaching her. But even that is not enough, because then she runs away and she is out on the streets and homeless. For most women, some version of all these kinds of destitution needs to occur,
I have thought a lot in the last couple of years about the meaning of homelessness for women. I think that it is, in a literal sense, a pre- condition, along with incest and poverty in the United States, to create a population of women who can be prostituted. But it has a wider meaning, too. Think about where any woman really has a home.
No child is safe in a society in which one out of three girls is going to be sexually abused before she is eighteen. No wife is safe in a society in which recent figures appear to say that one out of two married women has been or is being beaten. We are the homemakers; we make these homes but we have no right to them.”
Andrea Dworkin, Prostitution and Male Supremacy
Sources;
https://repository.law.umich.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=&httpsredir=1&article=1197&context=mjgl
https://repository.law.umich.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1191&context=mjgl
some QRTs from the original thread which is of course also worth a read. the Chinese movement 6B4T is frequently subject to censorship online.