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I know there's already an NPD flag, but I'll be honest...some of its color symbology and language feel both stigmatizing and yet also too lax. If you'll hear me out, I'll explain my version's changes.

I like that some of the colors on the original are picked off of the narcissus (daffodil), so I reincorporated that and added the green of the leaves for growth and recovery instead.

Something about the black strip being support for people with NPD felt...dark, sad, and generally like it added to this idea that were are a dark mark on the population. Instead, I made the white strip for this as a way to say...I want to wipe the slate clean on how others see us so we can be really supported. Additionally, the black, red, orange gradient kinda looked like raw meat. Just felt too violent. We aren't inherently violent.

Finally, I changed the verbiage of "normalization of symptoms" to "destigmatization of symptoms" as I feel the distinction is a healthier way for us to view our of symptoms.

We are struggling with bad coping mechanisms that DO need to be correct, but are misunderstood and need to be destigmatized.

Lastly, the overall more childlike palette as a whole represents trauma stemming from childhood and how suffering from this PD often feels like being thrown back that childhood pain and never learning safe coping mechanisms.

Thank you for reading!

I also previously made a comic about the comorbidity of personality disorders with autism. Though it only briefly mentions my NPD/NPD traits, I still think it's important to add here:

Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.

CW: mentions of "narc abuse" and ableism against pwNPD

There is no NPD awareness day but there is "narcissistic abuse awareness day" on June 1st.

My proposal: we take over the whole first week of June and make it NPD awareness week. We use that week to raise awareness of what NPD is and the fact that the concept of narcissistic abuse is DEEPLY ableist and it doesn't exist.

They might claim we're being narcissistic by making a day "about abuse victims" about us, as if most of us aren't abuse victims ourselves, but they already made it about us when they made a day about "narcissistic abuse" instead of calling it what it is: emotional abuse. It's not our fault they're so obsessed with us that they blame us for the actions of a completely unrelated group of people (abusers) /hj

But in all seriousness, I do think making June cluster B awareness month, with NPD the first week, ASPD the second, HPD the third, and BPD the fourth (May is BPD awareness month, but almost no one knows this, so including it in June makes sense), would be a good idea.

(If there already is an awareness time, lmk, google only showing me the ableist bullshit)

this is some things i have to deal with, and i’m guessing i’m not the only one, so:

- even when you feel like a bad person, you’re probably not.

- putting yourself first is not selfish.

- having lower empathy doesn’t make you bad.

- not noticing when you hurt people until they tell you isn’t your fault, what matters is your actions after you’ve been told.

- not recognising yourself during episodes/crashes is normal, and even though it might be scary it’s okay.

- anger is a good emotion, it’s there for a reason. once again, your actions while angry are what matters.

- self-isolation can be good sometimes, mostly to avoid conflict or to avoid ruining relationships (for me).

- you deserve people in your life that understand you.

Ok yes "more male characters with big naturals" but are you normal about trans men/transmasc folks who have tits? Are you normal about them not binding? About them not wanting top surgery or not wanting to bind?

Are you normal about cis men with gynecomastia? Are you normal about gynecomastic men not binding, or not wanting top surgery?

ARE YOU NORMAL ABOUT REAL LIFE MEN WITH BIG NATURALS?

I love it when narc abuse truthers start traumadumping about their experiences with narcs in their "all narcs are bad" posts. whatever, power to you talking abt your trauma, but how the fuck is that backing up your point on how every single narcissist is an abuser?

possible npd and bpd culture is getting tired of being nice for everyone else's sake and just wanting to be yourself fully.

i want to be mean to be mean, but i don't like the idea of upsetting my friends. (idrc in the moment but afterwards i feel bad.)

it might entail me a dick and harming people on purpose but i'm just so exhausted by everything.

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i think my most narcissistic trait is the fact that i would be uncomfortable being friend with another person with NPD because i have to be The One And Only Narcissist™️

hey maybe, when people with npd tell you not to call abusers and rapists and the like narcissistic just because they're horrible people, view it not as us defending abusers or trying to control how victims talk about their trauma, and more like i as a survivor don't wanna be fucking put in the same category as an abuser or rapist for no fucking reason because you can't bring it upon yourself to spell the word egotistical

reblog if you have narcissistic eyes and dark energy