While I'm At This Rage Train, Disabled Is Not An Identity. At All. In No Circumstance.

my biggest bone to pick with pro-endos is that the majority of what i’ve seen them say when it comes to issues that they face pretty much all revolve around (mostly internet) invalidation and exclusion, to the point where i’ve seen some endos say that at least we (DIDOSDD anti-endos) are recognized as “the real ones” or like “well fakedisordercringe is laughing at all of us anyways you don’t look any better in their eyes” (the latter was a post semi recently in the syscourse tag and the former was an ask on the syscourse confessions blog). not trying to call out any particular person with this, just that it very clearly shows how unaligned the goals of pro-endos vs anti-endos are. and it blows my mind that they seem to think that not only being recognized as a DIDOSDD system is a GOOD thing, both online and offline, but that it means you’re immune from getting fakeclaimed harassed etc, or that it’s a good thing that FDC laughs at us too in the end. like, i don’t want to be “validated,” and being fakeclaimed over the internet is an annoyance to me at worst, and i don’t want to be unconditionally and radically accepted and included for everything because that leaves no room for me to potentially be wrong or grow as a person. and tbh this is why i think there’s no broader “plural” community because there’s a complete misalignment between the endo community vs the DIDOSDD community, and we as anti-endos know this by now because so many DIDOSDD systems have come out about how endo bullshit harmed them. sorry to dump a novel in your inbox lol it’s just been on my mind

Yep. they're also ignoring the fact that a lot of people who wind up on FDC are minors, who probably aren't safe being recognized as having DID/OSDD/UDD in their household, even if they have a therapist or have been professionally recognized. It doesn't make us feel valid, it just sucks. I've also had friends/mutuals from other platforms wind up on there, and the harassment they face is fucking horrific on a level you wouldn't believe, not to mention winding up on cringe comps just for being mentally ill on the internet. They don't see that people don't believe us. They don't believe that we exist, or they believe that we're too rare to be real. It's an uphill battle to get people to even listen to us, and it's exhausting.

Adding onto that, though, you're absolutely right. They want internet validation and inclusion, even if it excludes others. They can't seem to wrap their minds around the fact that being a system is so much more than just alters, so they build a community around one facet of the experience and push themselves into this anti-recovery mindset of "I don't need therapy, because my system isn't traumatic" even though having a system in of itself is only born out of trauma. Hell, a lot of them act like every psychiatrist/psychologist/therapist in the world is evil, so they surround themselves with the anti-psych community and ignore actual scientific facts about things that do, in fact, matter and need scientific backing.

I'm not saying the psych system is good. It's not. It sucks and needs major reform, and my personal experiences with it have been less than stellar. But that's no excuse to act like every professional who knows their shit is out to get you. There are good doctors out there. There are good, helpful people in this field who want nothing more than to see people thrive.

I also absolutely get your point. Blind inclusion and acceptance leaves no room to grow. It's not a foundation for lasting changes, and it actually behaves in quite the opposite manner. It makes it difficult for people to change when they realize what they're doing is wrong, because they've become comfortable just being accepted without any sort of questioning, or being asked to think about their stances. Not to mention, when all your friends are part of that situation, it makes it so much harder to leave.

Also, being diagnosed can lead you to getting more medical stigma in the future. I have BPD. I was not diagnosed by a former therapists choice, because if it was on my chart, that would make so many medical professionals treat me differently. It would make my life harder in the long run. But that doesn't mean that I think people shouldn't get diagnosed, quite the opposite. I just think that people need to be able to get the help that they need.

This is a tangent turning completely incomprehensible, but that's my thoughts. Thanks for the ask!!

being a system is a disorder. your brain is not SUPPOSED to have alters. alters exist as a SURVIVAL MECHANISM. you can’t have alters and claim to be non disordered. did/osdd can’t form after childhood. you can’t have alters and claim that trauma didn’t cause it.

think this is gatekeeping? good. it’s a fucking mental illness, people. not a god damn xenogender.

Just realized my bipolar is showing

I identify as having the flu ^^

Love it.

Endophobic flag!

Red for the hatred of endos

Peach for did/osdd systems who have been wronged and hurt by endos

White for did/osdd spaces without endos/lack of need for endo safe spaces

Blue for solidarity between did and osdd systems who are endophobic

I gotta stop looking at pro-consang tags for BS

It's so triggering

All traumagenic and disordered systems deserve more credit. You endos don't deserve shit.

You also think the term "sysmed" is fitting. Plurality isn't inherently medical, but only because of spirituality. Being a system is medical. It's a disorder caused by dissociation which is caused by trauma. Guess what? I'm also trans and have been harassed by transmeds, and it's not the same. Don't compare being trans, a thing anyone can experience, to people with trauma that happened before we had a fully developed fucking brain. Our trauma isn't comparable to gender, a fucking social construct that isn't real. Of course being trans isn't medical, because gender isn't technically real. Trauma and being a system isn't a social construct. We were abused.

Get your head out of your ass. 🥰

Friendly reminder that DID/OSDD does not equal sysmed. There are so many amazing DID and OSDD systems out there that are wonderful and supportive of all origins and they deserve more credit!!!

Woah, you want trauma survivors to suffer and think we're monsters? You're so cool, man.

Sarcasm, obviously.

Might aswell make an intro post since the old host is gone.

Hi, I’m Sunny. I use nya/nyas, he/him, meow/meows, mew/mews, purr/purrs and a bunch of other cat related neos. I’m a prosecutor, perpetrator, avenger and whatever other thing can describe me being fucking PISSED at what people did to us, and now i hurt people soooo.. If you dont like me, cool, i don’t fucking care. im mean. ill be making my own blog soon. oh but im nice to pro-endos and pro-tulpas! so hehe. other than that im mean to sysmeds and i want them to suffer. so yeah thats me, will be making a new blog of my own soon sooo if you like me then feel free to check it out when its done

On the topic of transableism, there's also many people who are transabled when it comes to mental/neurological conditions. I don't believe that has anything to do with BIID. It's just ableism trying to hide behind the "Well, someone on the internet says it can be considered a mental condition so you're the ableist one!" wall. You can't be transautistic, dumbass.

(Yes, I'm autistic myself. I saw you furiously typing, trans scarlet fever people [/j].)

Just saw a post by a completely endogenic "system" saying that they don't really know what a system is but still identify as one. 😀

Fucking pardon?

I won't mention who they are but seriously, this is stupid.