I Know I Sound Like Your Mom But You Kids Need To Stop Fucking Vaping

Kind of tired of seeing this trend, "Adrien will try to make the wish if he loses Marinette" this or "Marinette could handle immortality without him better than he could without her" that (a more recent flavor), as if the situation isn't:

One of them grew up in a stable and loving home, with doting and supportive parents who (presumably) taught them fundamental life and social skills, never had to doubt their parents' love or otherwise be worried for their own wellbeing/emotional security, and on top of all that they currently have a giant support system willing and waiting to come running at the drop of a hat.

On the other hand, the other grew up severely isolated from the outside world, with extremely limited (if any) opportunity for healthy and vital socialization with others their age, slowly watching their primary caregiver (and number one source of love and social interaction) deteriorate until finally "dissappearing" one day, whilst being neglected by their other 'caregiver' to the point of questioning whether said parent loves them. And this doesn't even touch upon the abuse or dwindling support network (that's being largely co-opted by the other person).

(Now, if we stopped there, it might be tempting to conclude that the first individual is likely to be the more well-adjusted of the two, able to bounce back from life's hits thanks to the advantage their secure childhood gave them. But. It's not over!)

Of these two, one is demonstrably an anxious wreck, paralyzed by their every mistake, and requires others to provide routine pep-talks assuring them they are "the best in the world, ever" to be able to even nominally function. All around reliant on others' emotional support at every turn.

The other already has experience with loss, having lost the literal, actual *most important* person in their life, who was *also* their only consistent source of love and affection, and was able to come to terms with losing them, within *one year*, to the point of deciding not to use a magical wish to bring them back to life (the option/temptation was quite literally in the palm of their hand)???

So...who sounds more well-adjusted now?

To me, Marinette stans give her waaaay too much credit. Girl has had every advantage between the two of them, and yet *still* can't function without constant support. She has demonstrated little to no resilence through her own merit, nor proven to have effective coping skills beyond 'let my partner/boyfriend/best-friend/ex-boyfriend/insert character here lift me up'. Which, it's fine to rely on others at times, but let's not pretend Marinette's "coping skills" are anything beyond a complete and total reliance on external validation.

On the other hand, Adrien is remarkably well-adjusted and resilient for someone with his background and lived experience. More than he should be, realistically. But the point is, he has on screen turned down/explained why he wouldn't use the wish, *twice*. Furthermore, he's moved on from the first love of his life, Ladybug (even if he doesn't know this isn't exactly true, he still experienced the very real emotional journey of accepting she didn't love him back, so the grieving process was *true for him*; tell me that Marinette has ever had to do the equivalent; more on this below*).

Point is, there's precedent, multiple times, that *this boy knows how to deal with loss*, even with almost no outside support in developing coping skills (seriously, who did he learn them from. Nathalie?? Press X to doubt). Also, when have we ever seen this boy receive support from others regarding his mother outside the episode *Felix*? Despite what the Paris Special might try to tell us, what we see...is that he's done very well for himself with very little.

*Despite her thinking she *should* at various points, Marinette has notably never truly been forced to move on from Adrien. Hell, girl even got the boy with zero effort or stakes, seeing as he confessed first. You can't convince me this girl, who in season 6 alone has been demonstrably jealous, self-preoccupied, and execessively anxious, bordering on straight-up neurotic, when worrying about losing him (as a boyfriend! We're not even talking death like in the original question!), would fair *better* than he would.

Tl;dr she'd be on the verge of absolutely floundering without her support network; he has survived despite the severe lack of a sufficient one.

I'm not trying to argue either one would be *at all* fine with losing the other, but all-around...Yeah, miss me with that. 🙄

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A truly masterful takedown of this asinine argument (asinine in that it’s even considered an argument by Marinette stans), Anon. I think you’ve managed to cover most if not all things that make this a stupid thing to argue about. For once the mouthy amphibian has nothing to add, other than "this is bvery expected behavior for Maripologists.

I've discussed it before on this blog that Maripologists have a habit of accusing Adrien of Marinette's faults, of managing to find accusations that would suit Marinette better or things Marinette has actually done in canon, and then claim Adrien is doing the same things to make Marinette look less guilty. Maripologists love to claim anyone criticizing Marinette should be aiming the same or worse scrutiny towards Adrien every single time someone points out something they can't refute.

I can't remember all the examples right now, but I remember some. Marinette steals often, well, Adrien dine and dased on accident that one time so they're both thieves and criminals (this one is done more tongue-in-cheek). Marinette is gaslighting Adrien about his dad, well, Adrien told Marinette that it was mean to throw a party about Chloé leaving school that one time which is totally the same as gaslighting. Marinette repeatedly manipulates Cat Noir to get him to do something he wouldn't want to, well, Adrien gave Marinette bad advice about Lila which is the same as manipulating her.

In this kind of discourse space, of course Maripologists will see how possessive and obsessive Marinette is about Adrien, how entitled she is to him, how much she treats him like her property and how similar she is to Gabriel, and will try to turn all of this to point at Adrien instead. They're used to doing it, so they'll claim Adrien is the one more like his dad between him and Marinette, despite the canon never making that comparison but making the opposite ones repeatedly. Of course they'll claim Adrien is so weak and so reliant on Marinette that he couldn't function without her, when almost all of Marinette's dysfunctional behavior ties back to her inability to be normal about Adrien when Adrien gets so much better along without her that he's actually less happy as her boyfriend than he was as "just" her friend. They'll accuse Adrien to shield Marinette, because it's always all about Marinette.

For all those who complain about explicit “smutty” books or smut in fic in general:

Just be aware that a bill has been introduced in Oklahoma’s state senate (SB 593) that would make writing/publishing/owning an explicit romance book a felony.

So, when you come on here to espouse your “anti pro-ship” nonsense, or moan about how hard it is to find fics/art/books that aren’t “smutty” — know that this is the effect. You are being used as mouthpieces to help feed and perpetuate censorship. There is no room for censorship in fiction because it will never stop at what you deem morally “right”. It is about control and the restriction of speech. Your discomfort with sex in media does not make it wrong, and it certainly doesn’t mean you get to advocate for its restriction.

Do not be pawns in the far-right’s game. Do not call yourselves allys of any kind if you are willingly feeding into a pillar of far right extremism. It will not stop where you think it “should.”

Do we know of any plans for a sequel to the movie? 'Cause the last scene felt a little like a setup.

it’s 2028. trump is dead. elon is dead. zuckerberg is dead bezos is dead they’re all dead

https://www.sfgate.com/california-parks/article/judge-says-park-service-reinstate-fired-employees-20220040.php

Public outcry works. Protest works.

Keep raising hell!

I loved the movie, but I have something bigger on my mind.

So, we know that Monty destroyed Glamrock Bonnie (it is confirmed or at least strongly implied, right?) But do we have any idea what might have happened to Foxy and how Roxanne replaced him? Did I miss something in Ruin? (I admit, I can't really play games myself atm so I watch letsplayers)

These are human beings. In bags.

Israel is a threat to humanity.

Perhaps it's just because I'm a short woman who happens to enjoy both frilly dresses and sex, but I get so mad when people say Ariana grande or Sabrina carpenter are encouraging pedos by uh .... being short, enjoying cute things, and enjoying sex. I'm sorry some adult women are very cute and hot and like sex. And it literally has nothing to do with children. The people accusing them of being creeps are the ones inserting children into the discussion at all. (hyumjim voice) And I'm NOT supposed to be creeped out by that???

To women, people of color, trans people and all those who are under the "Minority" umbrella in the USA: You are stronger than whatever is happening in your country. You are stronger than him. Even if he really gets to be president again, no matter how much he tries he cannot erase you. Keep fighting. Keep living. I love you.

HEY GUYS!!

GUYS!!!

FRANCE HAS REACHED THE REQUIRED NUMBER OF SIGNATURES ON THE CITIZEN'S INITIATIVE AGAINST CONVERSION THERAPY IN THE EU!!

ONE COUNTRY DOWN, SIX TO GO!!

We also need still quite a few signatures in order to reach the one million required.

As to date, the six other countries with the most signatures are:

Spain - 38.72%

Finland - 30.31%

Ireland - 24.86%

Netherlands - 24.15%

Germany - 23.54%

Belgium - 23.09%

So yeah, still a long way to go, but we ARE slowly getting closer. Don't stop now! Don't let this stay within the community, either, if you have any friends or family who are open to queer rights, get them to sign, too!