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"The greatest revolution in a country is the one that changes women and their way of life. You can't make the revolution without women. Perhaps women are physically weaker but morally they have a hundred times greater strength.”

Oriana Fallaci (1929-2006)

#80

when we say trans women are male and trans men are female, we are not saying they deserve to be discriminated against or that their dysphoria doesn’t matter. we are saying biology exists and matters in certain contexts.

when we say we won’t date trans women because we’re lesbians, we are not saying trans women don’t deserve to have happy, fulfilling relationships. we are saying that we are not romantically or sexually attracted to them and so that neither of us would have a happy, fulfilling relationship if we dated.

when we say we are gender critical, we are not saying everyone should be gender-conforming. we are saying the opposite, that men and women should be free to dress and act however they like instead of being forced into certain gender roles based on their sex.

when we say female-only safe spaces are important, we are not saying trans-only or mixed safe spaces aren’t also important. we are saying that based on our biology, women have certain shared experiences and face specific oppression that we deserve to be able to discuss among ourselves.

when we say one thing and you hear another, that isn’t our fault. when you’re ready to listen to what we actually believe or to have a genuine discussion, we’ll still be here.

"radical feminism helps patriarchy stay in power" yeah.. you're right being pro abortion, anti porn, anti sw, anti beauty standards helping patriarchy very well.

and sticking to gender stereotypes which patriarchy loves, denying same sex attraction and sending women death and rape threats is probably very anti patriarchy

I recently did a class project on the female body and how to gain confidence as a woman. Basically I told my class that their worth isn’t based on beauty and I also talked about all the cool stuff women’s bodies can do and how it works. I explained things like cellulite and why women have it (because our bodies need it to keep us alive because we’re important. It’s the reason men don’t have it ;) ) and how the vagina is a self cleaning system. I talked about the beauty industry. I talked about how the women in my class are allowed to take up space and be loud. I talked about fordyce spots and how they’re normal and I talked about cutting toxic people out of their life who deserve it. They even listened to me when I talked about shaving and makeup not being a choice, and they all agreed that it’s damaging to your self confidence to be afraid of living naturally with hair and no makeup.

I made a small zine decorated with embroidered uteri and felted vulvas in different shapes and sizes to show that all vulvas are different. I also put in my whole presentation as well as a few paragraphs on why pornography is harmful with all my sources. I left some pages blank so people could write stuff down and after they were done writing in it I read stuff like “I have a vagina and I’m proud” and tbh it was amazing. I’m so glad I was able to help my classmates out and I also did this all while two libfems in my class who hate me because I’m a “terf” watched, and they could do nothing about it.

I poured two months of work, researching and preparing into this project and it paid off exactly how I wanted it to. After class people were coming up to me to say how amazing they felt, how they learnt so much about themselves, how they’re less ashamed of their bodies because of me. Every time I think about my project, I feel so accomplished and I’m so glad I’ve impacted at least one woman’s life for the better.

It's monstrous how much boys and men love tormenting girls and women. The way so many boys and men actually love scaring and upsetting girls and women on purpose because they think it's funny.

I'm thinking specifically about how I have some phobias of bugs, and I specifically have to hide that from men because once they find out they purposely show me the bugs I'm afraid of to torment me because they think it's funny and cute to torment and upset a woman. Like when one of my male co-workers at my old job found out I was arachnophobic after that he made a point of if he found a spider in the store he'd purposely try to shove it in my face because he thought it was funny and cute to scare me and make me upset. I've had multiple instances of grown male co-workers behaving like this but never a grown female co-worker. Sure, I'm sure there's at least a few grown women in the world out there like that, but for the most part this behavior is only seen in small girls but quickly corrected and beat out of her while men are still tormenting women for fun as grown adults.

Or my mother has a pretty bad phobia of frogs, and she told me a story about how when she was a little girl some boys found out, and they specifically made it a point to collect frogs from outside to throw at her. One time they cornered her in the bathroom and threw buckets of frogs at her, she was sobbing and shaking and having a full blown panic attack while they were laughing. It was for no other reason than they thought it was funny to make a girl upset and scared.

And this ties in with how often if a girl or woman asks a boy or man to stop doing something that bothers her or annoys her they double down and start doing the behavior even more just because they want to upset girls and women. Like schoolgirls asking the boy next to her to stop drumming with his pencils because it's distracting her from being able to pay attention to class, how likely is it he'll actually stop vs just doing it even more loudly and frequently just to bother her? If this is a lifelong pattern for girls this makes girls back off and less likely to stand up to boys and men.

If a girl has for years had a pattern of every time she asks the boys in her class to stop drumming with their pencils while she's trying to pay attention or stop saying gross sexual jokes that make her uncomfortable to her during class or stop poking her and every time they just double down and start doing it even more and even louder or harder just to upset her, is she going to keep asking boys to stop doing things that bother her? Is she going to feel comfortable and safe standing up for herself and asserting her boundaries? Or is she going to get quiet and stop speaking up and hope for the love of god they don't notice the annoyance on her face because if they do that's enough just to make them double down and start doing it more to bother her?

I've seen countless examples of men purposely making women so scared or upset or angry that they're in tears for no other reason than fun and entertainment. Boys and men are fucking sadistic demons. And this keeps girls and women in line, keeps girls and women from being able to stand up for ourselves and assert our personal boundaries to boys and men.

I dare anyone to tell me TRAs aren’t dangerous. That isn’t freedom of speech, that’s an incitement of violence. This is a psychopathic cult. Examples of them lacking empathy include: harassing and doxing women who defend our sex-based rights, posting shit like that on Twitter, and turning on someone the moment he or she becomes a detransitioner. TRAs are unstable, dangerous people.

The way male game developers always make female characters walk is ridiculous. They'll be like "look at the graphics and light and ambiance we've worked so hard to make it look realistic" and then the female character starts walking in the most absurd way swaying her hips like she's on a strip club's podium with her back arched. And in the comments women have to explain that it's not how women walk, sir, please stop. Even in cutesy innocent games it comes up. Embarrassing.

radfems: women are adult human females

tras: you mean the fuck hole sex? the baby maker sex? the one who should always be in the kitchen and wearing dresses? the bleeder? god TERFS are so misogynistic. :/