Bisexual Feminist Flag ♀

Desert Sunsets (by drxgonfly)

“I Think…” by Leanne Franson, 1992

Bi women can’t talk about being in relationships with men because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon gay and lesbian people. Bi women who previously identified as something other than bi can’t talk about the process of realizing they were bi because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon lesbians. Bi women can only talk about being in relationships with women if they add 15 caveats about how they hate other bi women now and have discarded their bisexuality. Bi women in relationships with bi men or with lesbians have to swear up and down that they aren’t fetishizing their partners. 

Bi women can’t talk about being happy (either single or in a relationship) because then people will take that as us having no problems in the world. Bi people can’t talk about mundane issues such as media representation or language about bisexuals because that’s too trivial. Bi women can’t talk about their sex lives or wanting to be polyamorous because that’s seen as too dirty and too gross and too predatory. Bi women can’t produce or consume “sappy wuhluhwuh content” because that’s seen as defanging and disrespecting lesbian identity and yet they can’t talk about bisexual social alienation/trauma/invisibility/loneliness because “invisibility is a privilege” and because “those things are just stolen terms from gay and lesbian people”. 

Bi women can’t talk about being unicorn hunted on dating apps because apparently they don’t face that issue and instead perpetuate it and force lesbians to have threesomes with their male partners (apparently). Bi women can’t talk about intracommunity biphobia without being told that we aren’t radical for dating men and that LGBT spaces are safe gay spaces that we’d be invading. 

Bi women can’t call themselves gay even when they’re in gay relationships. Bi women can’t call themselves tops or bottoms even when they’re having regular gay sex. Bi women can’t call themselves queer because that’s a slur but oh wait, it’s okay when other people weaponize that word against us. Bi women can’t call themselves masc or femme because they’d be stealing those terms from lesbians but oh wait they can’t call themselves tomcats, does, or stags because those terms are cringeworthy imitations of butch/femme. Bi women can’t talk about gender expression without being told they’re appropriating “real” gay culture. Bi women can’t talk about femininity without being told they perform it for men and bi women can’t talk about masculinity without being told that being bi makes it impossible for them to be masculine. 

Bi women can’t talk about how unique relationships between bi women and bi men or bi women and bi women or bi men and bi men are. Bi women can’t call their relationships “bisexual” relationships because that’s somehow “anti-materialism”. Bi women can’t talk about loving their male partners because that’s anti-feminist but they can’t talk about hating men as a class or their trauma with respect to men without being told that it means they must actually be “lesbians suffering from comphet”. 

Bi women can’t talk about solidarity with LGBT people without being seen as selfish, nor can they talk about just bi women without being seen as selfish. 

Bi women can’t talk about the material, systemic, and sexual violence we face because apparently it isn’t real, no matter how much empirically validated proof we offer, and if we do talk about it, we’re stealing lesbian specific experiences or erasing lesbian specific experiences or trying to claim gay and lesbian specific experiences. 

Bi women can’t talk about our place in overall LGBT history (because we were apparently invented in 1998) and we can’t talk about bisexual history (because that’s *spins wheel* taking the focus off the REAL radicals in the community). 

Bi women have to be politically perfect all the time and have to allow people to scrutinize their personal lives and interpersonal relationships and sexual histories/traumas but it’s okay for people to not be in solidarity with us or to even offer us an ounce of empathy (and if we ask for it we’re whiny, selfish, and crying about non-issues). Bi women have to hate themselves and each other and hold each other responsible for all the world’s problems 24/7 but can never hold people responsible for biphobia. 

Bi women can’t even talk about any of these things on their own blogs, in their own spaces, on their own time, with other bi women, because that’s just too much.

There really is no winning. 

just so everyone is aware, being bi4bi isn’t necessarily an exclusive attraction (though to some individuals it absolutely can be!) as much as simply a preference, priority, or otherwise a lifestyle that someone who is bisexual/biromantic/etc. is willing to choose or participate in. (for example, i am bi4bi in both sapphic & duaric contexts but also open to bi4les.)

that being said, these are SO PRETTY and i can’t stop staring at them!!! i’d totally use one or two if i didn’t already have a permanent set picked out. maybe for a blog layout here one day!! 🩷💜💙

bi4bi wallpapers!

requested by @thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra

Bi4Bi: Bisexual 4 Bisexual. A bisexual person who exclusively attracted to other bisexuals; A bi person who emphasizes or prioritizes their attraction and relationships with other bisexuals. A celebration of bisexual love. This is not fetishism, or an implication that bisexuala are any more or less valid than any other orientation. Rather, it stems from issues of safety, trauma, oppression, or other personal reasons.

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I miss my bisexuals so much

when i say that to me, bisexuality is less my sexuality and more the lens through which i see the world…

…please know i’m envisioning it like the twilight blue-tint. only purple. and gayer.

80s-inspired bi pride stickers available on my redbubble

i took a break from a bigger project 2 make these and then since i had them… might as well make them available 2 buy lol

🥧💭 PRIDE ICONS OF CANON BISEXUALS !! [for bisexual visibility day]

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Infographic about how many multisexual/mspec ppl are technically bi and can consider themselves as bi also if they want or just use other terms if they want.

Based on the original from this post, which is about how gnc women can still be women and don't have to id as nonbinary just bc they are gnc. I posted this in a reblog to that post, but felt it deserves its own post as well.

To be clear, I get why you may not want to call yourself bisexual even if it technically fits. I'm bisexual, too, but I've felt like that plenty of times in the past several years. Using only other terms for your sexuality is fine as well, or you can call yourself bi and other terms (e.g. bi and pansexual).