"Galaxy" Bi Pride Flag By Laurie Raye

Hesticarn Flags 🌸🌸❤️🌺🌺

Hesticarn, bi hesticarn, lesbian hesticarn, and sapphic hesticarn flags (in that order)

Hesticarn is a mixture of butch, femme, and futch, at an almost even balance, but is always/often incorporating a sparkly, pink, or typically feminine aesthetic

Hesticarns might feel liberation from wearing pink dresses but with sneakers, being a motherly/maternal figure to others but like in a fruity big bro sense, doing traditionally masculine activities but with a girly aesthetic like working out but with pink weights or pink gym clothes, dressing completely masc but with glittery pink lipgloss, and redefining what a mix of butch and femme means to them. It’s giving Barbie Butch. Think pink suits and ties rather than pink dresses. Or pink dresses but with hairy legs and “sitting/behaving masculine”. It’s however a sapphic transforms butch and femme identities while always/often incorporating girly/pink aesthetic in some form.

The name is derived from Hestia, the Greek Goddess of the Hearth, and Carnations, a flower (which is also the flower on the sapphic hesticarn flag!)

Why is the in-general hesticarn flag (for bisexuals, lesbians, all sapphics) almost identical to the bisexual hesticarn flag? 1. The crescent moon on the bi hesticarn flag will tell them apart and 2. It’s okay for different identity flags to look similar, the genderfluid flag would basically be the asexual flag if you swap the pink and blue with the grey, 3. Bi women are pushed out of butch and femme spaces so much I wanted to create a butch/femme identity flag that was centred on bi sapphics, even though it does represents all sapphics!

Flags open to all sapphics! Bisexuals, bi+ wlw, lesbians, unlabelled sapphics, nblw, etc!

Happy bisexual visibility month 💙💜💖

As a nonbinary bisexual in a long term relationship with another nonbinary bisexual this is important and I’m v tired of the biphobia and transphobia coming from the “bisexual people are only attracted to (cis) men and women” take I’m sure we’ve all seen too often

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I see this flag and immediately feel warm and cozy :3

Bi women can’t talk about being in relationships with men because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon gay and lesbian people. Bi women who previously identified as something other than bi can’t talk about the process of realizing they were bi because that’s seen as forcing heterosexuality upon lesbians. Bi women can only talk about being in relationships with women if they add 15 caveats about how they hate other bi women now and have discarded their bisexuality. Bi women in relationships with bi men or with lesbians have to swear up and down that they aren’t fetishizing their partners. 

Bi women can’t talk about being happy (either single or in a relationship) because then people will take that as us having no problems in the world. Bi people can’t talk about mundane issues such as media representation or language about bisexuals because that’s too trivial. Bi women can’t talk about their sex lives or wanting to be polyamorous because that’s seen as too dirty and too gross and too predatory. Bi women can’t produce or consume “sappy wuhluhwuh content” because that’s seen as defanging and disrespecting lesbian identity and yet they can’t talk about bisexual social alienation/trauma/invisibility/loneliness because “invisibility is a privilege” and because “those things are just stolen terms from gay and lesbian people”. 

Bi women can’t talk about being unicorn hunted on dating apps because apparently they don’t face that issue and instead perpetuate it and force lesbians to have threesomes with their male partners (apparently). Bi women can’t talk about intracommunity biphobia without being told that we aren’t radical for dating men and that LGBT spaces are safe gay spaces that we’d be invading. 

Bi women can’t call themselves gay even when they’re in gay relationships. Bi women can’t call themselves tops or bottoms even when they’re having regular gay sex. Bi women can’t call themselves queer because that’s a slur but oh wait, it’s okay when other people weaponize that word against us. Bi women can’t call themselves masc or femme because they’d be stealing those terms from lesbians but oh wait they can’t call themselves tomcats, does, or stags because those terms are cringeworthy imitations of butch/femme. Bi women can’t talk about gender expression without being told they’re appropriating “real” gay culture. Bi women can’t talk about femininity without being told they perform it for men and bi women can’t talk about masculinity without being told that being bi makes it impossible for them to be masculine. 

Bi women can’t talk about how unique relationships between bi women and bi men or bi women and bi women or bi men and bi men are. Bi women can’t call their relationships “bisexual” relationships because that’s somehow “anti-materialism”. Bi women can’t talk about loving their male partners because that’s anti-feminist but they can’t talk about hating men as a class or their trauma with respect to men without being told that it means they must actually be “lesbians suffering from comphet”. 

Bi women can’t talk about solidarity with LGBT people without being seen as selfish, nor can they talk about just bi women without being seen as selfish. 

Bi women can’t talk about the material, systemic, and sexual violence we face because apparently it isn’t real, no matter how much empirically validated proof we offer, and if we do talk about it, we’re stealing lesbian specific experiences or erasing lesbian specific experiences or trying to claim gay and lesbian specific experiences. 

Bi women can’t talk about our place in overall LGBT history (because we were apparently invented in 1998) and we can’t talk about bisexual history (because that’s *spins wheel* taking the focus off the REAL radicals in the community). 

Bi women have to be politically perfect all the time and have to allow people to scrutinize their personal lives and interpersonal relationships and sexual histories/traumas but it’s okay for people to not be in solidarity with us or to even offer us an ounce of empathy (and if we ask for it we’re whiny, selfish, and crying about non-issues). Bi women have to hate themselves and each other and hold each other responsible for all the world’s problems 24/7 but can never hold people responsible for biphobia. 

Bi women can’t even talk about any of these things on their own blogs, in their own spaces, on their own time, with other bi women, because that’s just too much.

There really is no winning. 

i'm tempted to say "they're dating" but of course the whole point is they're not and that's the tragedy of a century. they are platonic partners, allies in arms, besties for life, love & light in solidarity!

🩷Les4Les🩷 💜Bi4Bi💜

Les4Les:

A lesbian who prefers to date other lesbians rather than other sexualities due to shared experiences. This does not mean they won't date someone of a different sexuality, they just have a preference for dating the same sexuality.

Bi4Bi:

A bisexual who prefers to date other bisexuals rather than other sexualities due to shared experiences. This does not mean they won't date someone of a different sexuality, they just have a preference for dating the same sexuality.

Starry Bi 💙🤍💜 Glimmer Icons

Made with this starry bi flag!

Brainless clogs >:(

I am tired of the “either lesbian or pan” notion about Yang. Like when some ppl stop being monosexist and realize that Yang being sapphic doesn’t immediately mean she’s lesbian, she could be bi, they go “oh, she’s pan then!!1!” Like this crowd finally saw the mutlisexual Yang hype and yet! still deny the idea of Bisexual Yang

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Journal of Bisexuality

Hello bisexuals! I have compiled all of the volumes and articles of Journal of Bisexuality and you can access it for free! Don't worry about paywalls anymore. I will keep updating the drive.