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We need a new term for Stockholm Syndrome because as a concept, in fictional stories especially, it is GREAT.

You get kidnapped/taken hostage and obviously at the start youre scared/angry/etc but then you slowly get to know your keeper over the course of your imprisonment and you start falling in love with them in spite of everything????? A+ concept.

But!!!!! The dude who coined Stockholm Syndrome did it to discredit the testimony of a hostage who was pissed at police for being reckless with her life. The hostage was like "the police nearly fucking killed me. The dudes who took me prisoner weren't as cavalier with my life as the damn cops were!!! Does that say something or what!!!" And the cops were mad that their behaviour was called into question, so they had one of their guys claim that the traumatic experience had messed with her mind and caused her to develop affections for those who took her captive. No!! That's not what happened at all!! It's just that the cops sucked way worse than the captors did!!!!

So like, "Stockholm Syndrome" actually means "i am justifiably angry, because the people who were supposed to be rescuing me were less concerned with safeguarding my life than those who took me captive in the first place, and That's Fucked Up"

Therefore, since Stockholm Sydrome is taken, we need a new term for "I got kidnapped and fell in love with my captor against my better judgement."

Any suggestions?

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I want to be other. I want people to see me and think "is that a guy or a girl". I want to confuse them. Like my gender is a secret, and not one.

Calling myself trans feels right, but...what am I transitioning to?

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Submitted March 22, 2023

every single queer term relating to gender is turned into some binary bullshit and i'm tired. like why do you all hate people who don't fit the binary so much.

when transsexual was the term for trans men and trans women, transgender was coined mainly and mostly to describe people outside the binary.

then the aptobinaries decided they didn't like transsexual anymore and took over transgender. which, at this point, is almost as binary as transsexual used to be.

nonbinary people are constantly divided into transmascs and transfems, into amabs and afabs, into boy nonbinaries and girl nonbinaries.

genderqueerness suddenly needs to include aptobinaries despite it being an old term synonymous with nonbinary. genderqueerness suddenly needs to include aptobinaries in order to not alienate them, but instead alienate those the term was created by and for. despite "gender nonconforming" being right there.

just say you hate us and go. just say you want to centre the gender binary and aptobinary people in everything that was created by and for those of us outside of the binary. you all took over transgender, then nonbinary, then genderqueer, the last identity i have left and all because you think that "everyone is a little bit genderqueer" in the same way ableists say that "everyone is a little bit autistic", because you think "your gender doesn't need to be genderqueer to be genderqueer, you just need to dislike the gender binary", in the same way radfems say "you don't need to be attracted to women to be lesbian, it's enough to dislike men".

stop turning our identities into ideologies and stances. all of this was created by us out of marginalisation and taken over by those with aptobinary privilege over us.

genderqueer and gender nonconforming aren't the same thing. if you're always, fully and exclusively either male or female, this term was not made for you.

nothing has ever felt as much like home as a genderqueer identity and you all wanna centre the binary in it. stop.

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