By Sergey Tutunov

if i think about this too much i will sob my heart out

Jan Sluijters (Dutch 1881-1957), Landscape Near Laren with Cyclists, ca.1911, Oil on canvas, Museum Singer Laren, Netherlands

April 12, 2024. Source: Quds News Network. "Despite the loss of lives, the devastation and the displacement, the children of Gaza make sure to have little room for joy at Eid al-Fitr."

"everybody hates me" factoid actually just a statistical error. The average person doesn't hate you, especially not your friends. You, a person who sits in your room experiencing self loathing every day, are an outlier adn should not have been counted.

sorry i can’t come over, im ill with the human experience

Cornus in Bloom by the Dovecote, Rousham - Francis Hamel , 2022.

British , b. 1963 -

Oil on linen , 36 x 29 ¼ in. 91.5 x 74 cm.

My dad and I once had a disagreement over him using the adage "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

I said, "That's just not true. Sometimes what doesn't kill you leaves you brittle and injured or traumatized."

He stopped and thought about that for a while. He came back later, and said, "It's like wood glue."

He pointed to my bookshelf, which he helped me salvage a while ago. He said, "Do you remember how I explained that, once we used the wood glue on them, the shelves would actually be stronger than they were before they broke?"

I did.

"But before we used the wood glue, those shelves were broken. They couldn't hold up shit. If you had put books on them, they would have collapsed. And that wood glue had to set awhile. If we put anything on them too early, they would have collapsed just the same as if we'd never fixed them at all. You've got to give these things time to set."

It sounded like a pretty good metaphor to me, but one thing I did pick up on was that whatever broke those shelves, that's not the thing that made them stronger. That just broke them. It was being fixed that made them stronger. It was the glue.

So my dad and I agreed, what doesn't kill you doesn't actually make you stronger, but healing does. And if you feel like healing hasn't made you stronger than you were before, you're probably not done healing. You've got to give these things time to set.

Cat sees long time human friend after a long time

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Gwen Raverat (British, 1885-1957)

Sleepers, 1927