Man My Dumbass Read This As 'theres Some Queerbaiting On The Cast Of Armadilo' My Gay Dyslexic Ass Can't

More and more I feel like people who “don’t like small talk” because it’s meaningless are the way they are not because they’re pretentious, but because they simply have no clue how to interact with people successfully and in a way that respects their boundaries and makes them comfortable.  Some people I know have this really bad habit of just being like “Small talk is meaningless so just tell me about your deepest feelings.  Are you happy in life?”  That is a wildly uncomfortable question for most people to answer and the point of small talk is to steer the conversation there gradually and in a way that allows them to deflect if they don’t want to go there.  Like, ideally small talk can go like this:

“What are you up to today?

Nothing, just chilling.

Are you off work then?

Yeah, I always have Saturdays off.

Oh that’s cool.  I wish my job let me do that.  What do you do?

I’m a [insert job here].

Oh that’s cool!  Do you like it?”

Boom, you’ve very quickly led up to a large, meaningful topic, asking them if they’re satisfied with a major part of their life, by both of you elaborating on information they’ve already willingly provided, and in a way that allows them to backpedal or steer elsewhere if they’re getting uncomfortable with the direction by allowing multiple other exit routes (for example if they were uncomfortable with the focus being on themselves, they could say “I’m a [insert job here].  What about you?” and suddenly now the focus is on you.)  And they can also choose to answer in a way that’s still distant and polite for comfort (like “eh, it pays the bills.  What about you?”), or meaningful for a genuine connection (like “it’s very fulfilling, I love XYZ” or “the monotony gets to me, I need mental stimulation”)

Small talk is not meaningless.  People don’t talk about the weather or sports because they’re just so deeply passionate about those topics or don’t have anything meaningful to say.  It’s testing the waters to find common ground to open up a bigger conversation without the risk of wildly barreling past whatever boundaries the person has.  Which I think is honestly why people sometimes get uncomfortable around people who aggressively skip small talk, because they’re violating unspoken social rules in a way neither of them usually can fully verbalize, and the person who “hates small talk” interprets this as failing to make a connection because they’re more intellectual than everyone else, or interested in different things, or just too cerebral for the common man to understand.

If you like Hawai'i because it's fucking beautiful and the waters are perfectly clear.

Then you should support the decolonization of Hawai'i and give it back to the indigenous peoples there because they are why it's so beautiful and the waters are perfectly clear.

And while we're at it support #Land Back because if we give authority to care for the indigenous people here on the main land, we can probably have a place that's that beautiful as well (assuming it's not too far gone yet).

-fae

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lol this rules, some dude down in Alabama is waging a one man war against "wake boats" by drilling holes in them. Locals have dubbed him "no wake Jake" and almost fifty of them have formed a committee urging him to run for sheriff. Oh yeah, and he dresses like this while he's sneaking around sinking boats.

Zoro still smiles and laughs a lot, and the reason why he doesn't do it as uproariously as he used to in the beginning is because he's not as surprised by his happiness anymore send tweet.

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Just a quick doodle that I liked :3c

work with me here I hardly know how this app works still

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Texas school administrator told teachers to include Holocaust books with 'opposing' views when explaining new state law

A school district superintendent in North Texas apologized Thursday night after one of the district's administrators told teachers that if t

"The Holocaust is a privileged genocide" 😑

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I think most non-Jews don't know/understand American synagogues are under siege, having to pay huge amounts for security, both to have armed guards, but also installing bulletproof windows and doors and putting up anti-ramming barriers. It's getting really bad out there and I never see anyone who isn't Jewish talking about it.