yoshitoshi ABe’s an omnipresence in the wired || 安倍吉俊の『an omnipresence in the wired』
I feel like life was very black and white as a kid. There were straightforward rules everywhere; posted signs and adults telling us to do this, don't do that, say this, respond this way in this situation. But the older i get the grayer life gets. Situations are complex and have good and bad mixed. Right and wrong is subjective. No one taught me how to live in between points on a spectrum.
Neurotypical: You should help me put more it's the nice thing to do.
Autistic: Okay, I'll do whatever you need me to do. Just tell me what to do.
Neurotypical: I shouldn't have to tell you what to do, just help.
Autistic: How can I help????
Neurotypical: You're so inconsiderate for not helping even when I don't ask directly for help.
This is a personal experience of mine and I can't describe how frustrating it feels!
I will literally do what you tell me to if you just say it!
I can't understand when you might want my help, so all you have to do is ASK DIRECTLY!
Don't do shit like "oh I wish someone could help me." Because I won't know if that'd a joke or not!
Just say, "Hey can you help me clean this?" Or "Hey do you kind getting the mail for me?"
It's not that hard.
I'm not inconsiderate for not helping you when you didn't ask.
Blue Lagoon Iceland from my recent trip to Reykjavik 🏔️