I'm Questioning If I'm Asexual But I Don't Know Any Ace People To Ask For Advice.

Butches in crop tops

Butches with long hair

Punk butches

Nerdy butches

Poc butches

Big butches

Skinny butches

Cowboy butches

Androgynous butches

Vintage butches

Older butches

Baby butches

If you can't tell I love butch lesbian

What is your favourite type of biscuit?

Non British people probably won't know what these are

Ironically my favs are chocolate lesbians 😭

sometimes i’m so hard on myself but then i remember i’m a human being and i can hold myself accountable while also recognizing that i’m still growing and learning new things everyday :)

I forget that butch was once a traditionally male name but in my mind it will always belong to the lesbians

I've always wondered why i experienced internalised homophobia as a lesbian but not any other identity i identified with, and i realised that other peoples perception of me is entirely different.

i was out with friends the other day and i happened to hold the door open for two girls and smile at them as they walked past, and in my head i was just doing it to be polite but my friends assumed that i was only doing it because of some possible attraction i had to them.

i don't have any other lesbian friends so i cant assume it was just because i am gnc or if it was just because im a lesbian but i realised that everything i do is seen as some extension of my sexuality.

after i realised i was a lesbian i avoided mentioning it or being direct about it because i didn't want it to define me or for other people to be aware of it as if i had something to be ashamed of, but the only reason i felt ashamed is because people only refer to my identity in a negative or mocking context. i noticed that non lesbians hypersexualise me more than they would for a bisexual.

almost every interaction i have with women is seen as motivated by my attraction, as if thats the way i think. it makes me think that non lesbians view my attraction as some kind of perversion and honestly its kind of humiliating.

Need me an 'acts of service' butch who'll order for me at restaurants when I'm too anxious to do it myself

Guys I miss my non existent girlfriend

Stud vs Butch: A Breakdown

Let’s talk about two terms that often get thrown around in queer spaces: stud and butch. They’re sometimes used interchangeably by those unfamiliar with their histories, but these are distinct identities, deeply rooted in culture, race, and gender. Understanding the difference isn’t just about vocabulary; it’s about respecting lineage, honouring communities, and not erasing people’s lived experiences.

✨ So, who is a stud?

The term stud originated in Black queer communities, especially among masculine lesbians. While it's often associated with African-American culture, the identity of a stud isn't limited to the US. Black Caribbean lesbians and beyond have also shaped and claimed this term in ways that reflect our own experiences of queerness, gender, and survival.

A stud is a black masculine-presenting lesbian or non-man, often (but not always) dominant in presentation or relational dynamics. Studs tend to reject femininity, embrace a masculine or androgynous energy, and navigate the world in ways that are inseparable from the realities of being Black and queer. That means you can't understand what it means to be a stud without understanding the racial, cultural, and gendered experience that forms it.

❗Who can’t be a stud?

This part’s important: white people cannot be studs. Ever.

Being a stud is more than looking masculine or having swag. It’s not just a “lesbian role” or an aesthetic. It’s a gendered and racialised identity created by and for Black lesbians, particularly those of us who’ve had to carve out space where queerness and Blackness meet. It’s embedded in our culture. When white people try to claim the term, it becomes cultural theft ... stripping the identity of the very meaning it was created to hold. The same goes for non-Black people of colour trying to co-opt it. This isn’t about exclusion; it’s about respecting where things come from, and recognising that some things are not yours to take.

💭 Okay, but what about butch?

Butch has a different history—one that comes out of mostly white lesbian and working-class queer communities, especially in the US and UK. Butch refers to masculine-presenting lesbians or non-men who don’t align with traditional femininity, often expressing themselves through clothing, mannerisms, and relationship dynamics.

Unlike “stud,” the term “butch” isn’t racially bound, though it’s important to acknowledge that it was popularised and made visible through white queer cultures. That said, plenty of Black and Caribbean lesbians do identify as butch, especially if the term feels more accurate than stud or if it speaks to a different kind of masculinity, one that isn’t tied to the cultural meanings embedded in being a stud.

Butch identity has grown more expansive over time. These days, it can include transmasc folks, gender-nonconforming lesbians, and anyone who aligns with a masculine-of-centre identity in queer spaces. Still, that doesn’t mean it’s a free-for-all ... claiming the label with awareness matters. Know its roots. Know its weight. Don’t just adopt it as a “vibe.”

✨ Why it matters

Calling yourself a stud or a butch isn’t just a fashion choice or a way to signal “top energy.” These are identities born from resistance—from the need to exist loudly and visibly in a world that told us we were too queer, too Black, too hard, too soft, too much.

If you’re white or non-Black and masculine? There are words for you. Masc, soft butch, stone butch, masc-of-centre ... hell, make your own. But you are not a stud, and claiming that word only contributes to the ongoing erasure of Black lesbians who already exist on the fringes of queer visibility. Respect isn’t just about intentions; it’s about impact. Studs and butches aren’t characters or archetypes. They are real people, with real culture, real pain, and real joy behind their labels.

The butchfemme blueprint

OK but hear me out...

Femme Queen/ butch guard

Or

Femme guard/ butch prince

Butch knights ❤️