Please Help Me Escape My Current Living Situation

Please help me escape my current living situation

I've thought about doing this for awhile and was too scared to for fear my husband would see this post but I can't do it anymore. I need help to get myself and my son out of an abusive situation. I'm going to place my story below a cut because it will contain topics that can be triggering.

I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for 11 and for 15 of those years I've been emotionally abused and raped. The very first time he held me down and raped me anally I thought it would never happen again. He'd just lost his job and he lost control. But that wasn't the last time. Over the course of a decade he broke me down emotionally, made me think I was nothing but a sex toy to him. He took my fantasies, many of which I've written about and he twisted them. Tying me up and blindfolding me so I couldn't see or escape what was coming. The spanking/punishments that I would get would go from pleasurable/light hearted to out right torture leaving me bruised, bleeding and sobbing for him to stop. Which he wouldn't until he was satisfied. He'd vaginally insert sex toys, his fingers or his penis, raping me usually unlubricated until I was torn and bleeding. He'd take photos that I never consented to for his own pleasure later. When I mentioned wanting a safe word the answer was no because we didn't need one. He didn't but I did.

He controlled so much of my life inside our home. What I could wear, how I did my hair, I could never wear make up, even during our wedding when I did wear light makeup he told me I looked disgusting and I shouldn't have put any on. I lost touch with my friends and rarely spoke to my family. Hell, I couldn't even pick what we watched on TV because if he wasn't interested I wasn't allowed to be either.

When I told him I wasn't interested in marriage, he told me I wasn't committed to him and that our relationship meant nothing to me if we didn't get married, so to prove my commitment I got married. Within a couple years we had our son and I thought maybe he would change cause he was a dad now. But no, the emotional abuse was brought upon our baby.

There isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't yell at our son about something. He's playing too loud, he's watching too much TV, he didn't clean up fast enough, he didn't move fast enough, he's asking for too much help with homework, he eats too much/not enough and the list goes on. My son is 9 years old and he's never known that dad's aren't like that. That other kids have dad's that don't yell at them when they ask for something to eat.

I can't keep raising my son in this house and I can't keep being abused either. I hate to do this but I need help. He takes my paychecks and I've been saving what I can but the cost of living keeps going up. Shelters in my area are more than full. Below is my PayPal, the only place I can save money that my husband doesn't have access too. If you can spare a dollar or even a reblog I will be eternally grateful. Please help us and thank you.

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Veal and Venison by Patagonian

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I could tell by the way it took so long for you to try and kill me.

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He grasped the hand holding his hair, and forcefully removed it from his person. “You will be my queen,” he told her, dark eyes flashing red for the briefest of moments. “I won’t,” she said with a daring flare in her eyes. His grip on her hand tightened until she felt her wrist bones grind together and had to clench her teeth to suppress a whimper. “Then you will be my whore.”

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Possible non/dub-con in future, not sure yet. Don’t forget to check tags.

ON HOLD due to lack of interest. So sorry! Might pick it up after I finish some other stories first.

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Masterlist

Smut marked with **

Masterlist Part II

Drabble Masterlist

EVENT MASTERLIST

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Not sure who needs to here this.

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What you want to do is on desktop go under Format to line and paragraph spacing and then change the number from whatever it is set at (usually 1.15) to Single. (I'm not sure what this changes going over to Ao3 but this was how I taught it).

And then after that go back again to Format and line and paragraph spacing. But this time hit add space after paragraph.

And now when you paste it over to Ao3 all you have to worry about is adding a scene break.

There is a way to do it on Word but I'm not sure how.

If there is a way to do this on Mobile IDK.

6 years ago

Running Away Masterlist

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Summary: The reader is the sister of someone that served with Billy Russo. He comes knocking on her door after word gets out that he is wanted by the feds. What starts as doing a favor for a friend of her brother quickly turns into something more.

Smut marked with **

Word Count: 36.6k

Part 1 X Part 2 X Part 3 X Part 4 X Part 5 X Part 6 X Part 7 X Part 8 X Part 9 X Part 10 X Part 10.5** X Part 11 X Part 12 X Part 13 X Part 14 X Part 15 X Part 16 X Epilogue

5 years ago

Elizabeth Warren absolutely murdering Michael Bloomberg over his appalling history with women during the Democratic debate

2 years ago
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly
I Was Talking To My Therapist About Some Anxiety Symptoms --- "In My Mind, I Know I'm Going To Be Perfectly

I was talking to my therapist about some anxiety symptoms --- "In my mind, I know I'm going to be perfectly okay, but my body doesn't listen and reacts anyway" --- and she recommended TIPP as strategies to keep in my toolbox of dealing with distress in the moment. I really appreciate having more than one option to try in moments of overwhelm!

Transcription below:

If you're feeling overwhelmed by anxiety or other strong emotions, TIPP is a set of techniques that use the body's natural physical responses to bring you back into balance.

TIPP stands for

temperature

intense exercise

paced breathing

progressive muscle relaxation

Temperature:

The body naturally lowers its heart rate in response to cold. If anxiety is making your heart race, try an ice pack, a cool washcloth, or a walk outside in cool weather, and it should help you calm down.

Intense exercise:

Anxiety is typically a symptom of your body going into fight/flight mode. If your body is coursing with nervous energy, burn it off with 10 minutes of jumping jacks, dancing, climbing stairs, or another cardio activity to complete the stress response cycle.

Paced breathing:

Deep, slow breathing from the belly can also help signal the body to come out of fight/flight mode. Try inhaling for a count of four and exhaling for a count of six until you feel more relaxed. (I like to hold the breath for a count of two between each inhale and exhale.)

Progressive muscle relaxation:

If anxiety makes your body tense up, try this. Start by squeezing the muscles in your toes and feet for five seconds, and then intentionally relax them. Move up to the calves, up your legs, and every region of your body to purposefully let go of extra energy.

When you're feeling overwhelmed, try one or more of these to see what works for you.

6 years ago

Masterlist

Why Should I Care - Billy Russo

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

Part 6

Part 7

Part 8

Part 9

Part 10

Part 11

Part 12

Part 13

Part 14

Part 15

Part 16

Part 17*

Part 18

Part 19

Part 20*

Part 21

Part 22*

Part 23

Part 24

Part 25

Part 26*

Part 27

Part 28

Part 29

Part 30

Billy Russo One Shots

Billy at Tiffany’s

Not Going as Planned (Sequel to Billy at Tiffany’s)

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Part 3

Part 4

Part 5

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Keeping Secrets - Young Remus Lupin

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5 years ago

Things to Consider When Writing About Royalty

How is the throne inherited? How strict are the traditions concerning transfers of power? How is the order of succession determined? Can commoners become royalty?

How are heirs trained?

How much, if at all, are marriages for power/political ties favored over marriages for love? How common are arranged marriages

What are the biggest threats to their position?

How good is there relationship with their subjects? 

What is their preferred method of interacting with their subjects? Do they prefer to interact with them directly or indirectly?

How long has the monarchy been in power? How did it originally gain that power?

What special etiquette is required when dealing with royalty? How strict is it?

How are princes and/or princesses that aren’t first in line for the throne handled? Are they given special responsibilities in the hopes of discouraging resentment?

How do they deal with assassination attempts?

How do they spend their wealth? Why do they prioritize certain aspects of their kingdom’s well being over others?

Would they rather inspire love or fear in their subjects?

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