“When You Do Take The Trouble To Point Out That You Are, In Fact, Bisexual - That No Matter Whether

“I am married and monogamous. Not much of a bisexual you say. Yet my bisexuality influences my perception and my decisions. More than having sexual relations with both genders, bisexuality is a mind frame, a reference point from which to view the world. Being bisexual has more to do with potential than actuality.”

- Amanda Yoshizaki, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

Kaitlin Sobiesiak

“As bisexuals we have to create a safe supportive atmosphere in our lives. We have to sometimes ask for it from people we don’t know, and yes, demand it from people who love and respect us. How can we feel secure or have self-respect if we are closeted from our friends and allies? How else do we change the stereotypes and the media image? How else do we get the respect we deserve if we are hiding from it? What does our community look like? We are the ones who must define it.”

- Loraine Hutchins and Lani Ka’ahumanu, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

@jamilla.strand

“Sadly, there is a certain necessity, a certain self-protection in silence. Statistically, bisexual women are nearly twice as likely to experience domestic violence… The trope of heterosexual men asking for three ones with their bisexual partners is an eye roll, an annoyance, but this kind of thinking, this equating bisexuality with complete sexual openness and desire to please men, possibly so they won’t leave you, can be much more serious.”

- Annie Dobson, The Bi-ble: New Testimonials, Further original narratives and essays about bisexuality

i suffer from 'men are hotter banged up' disease. unfortunately there is no cure.

“In the 1970s, I saw myself first and foremost as a (radical) feminist. I did not have a primary awareness of myself then as a member of an oppressed sexual minority, which I suppose I have now. I believed that it was important to fight for the rights of all women, of whatever sexual preference, and I believe that the WLM would eventually realise this. I thought that feminists would work together to change the world. Even then, however, the writing was on the wall about the unacceptability of bisexuality. Even respected feminists believed bisexuality to be an exercise in moral and political futility. We were perceived as women who were afflicted  with a form of ‘false consciousness’. This meant that our experience was not ‘real’, not experience with which other women, other feminists, could or should identify with, or develop theory or practice from (the theory and practice of consciousness-raising should have suggested otherwise). We were the exceptions to the feminist rule. One day, it was opined, we would either ‘see the light’ and come out (self-identity) as lesbians - or we’d go back to relationships with men and stop oppressing lesbians by trying to have relationships with them in our unreconstructed state. (Opinion leaned to the view that the latter option was by far the most likely outcome, and maybe because of this, bisexual women were shunned as partners by most lesbians, thus making the theory a self-fulfilling prophecy.) Bisexual women, it was felt, could safely be disregarded.”

- Zaidie Parr, Bisexual Horizons: Politics, Histories, Lives