Bi-supremacy - Untitled

To be held like that ....

“Many of us feel threatened when the categories we believe in are challenged, especially if they shape our sense of who we are. Not only do bisexuals contradict a primary set of cultural categories - our culture calls us “decadent” because we refuse to play by the rules, thereby undermining the social “order” - but we challenge many people’s personal sense of what constitutes sexual identity. Whether we threaten by introducing a third category or by undermining the notion of categories altogether, we cause enough discomfort that many people deny our existence.”

- Lisa Orlando, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

“The fear is that if so many of us who are bisexual are also, and have also been, and will also be its (supposed) opposite, then bisexuality cannot exist ‘in its own right.’

To see that bisexuality exists as a real, distinct sexuality is essential for our survival and well-being - but it can also lead into a bisexual orthodoxy about what it means to be a ‘real bisexual’ which is alienating and destructive.”

- Jo Eadie, Bisexual Horizons: Politics, History, Lives

“While my feelings of sexual attraction toward a man may or may not occur concurrently with feelings of attraction for a woman, I recognize that those sexual and emotional feelings don’t belong to different “selves” (a homosexual self and a heterosexual self) but rather to my one, evolving self.”

- Ann Fox, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

What about you????

“Characters rarely identified themselves as bisexual out loud - instead they behaved their bisexuality, usually through an illicit queer hookup (followed by a breakdown because they’re so “confused”). This taught me that bisexuality was something you do, rather than something you are. And since I hadn’t “done it” yet, I figured I was straight.”

- Jen Winston, Greedy: Notes from a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much

i love asking "is this ok?" when i know full well he likes what i'm doing to him so all he can say is a breathy, open mouthed "uh huh" in response