The only thing holding me back from the edge these days is knowing the butch experience of adopting a trans identity is actually almost universal and not as isolating and soul crushing as it feels right now. Every day I wonder if the world will ever accept me as a woman again when I look and sound the way I do. Every day I’m recovering from the confusion and self hatred that prioritizing how others perceive my gender caused. When I think about the shitty reality of how much damage my trans identity did to my body and self image, I have to remind myself that I’m not alone. All around the world, there are other butches like me suffering silently. Some are quietly detransitioning, others are stuck with that trans identity, holding the regret at bay and pretending like its all ok. Acknowledging them and feeling compassion for them is what allows me to have compassion for myself. I have hope for myself because I have hope for all of us.
We all went through adolescence envying boys because of our crushes on straight girls, we all rejected patriarchal beauty standards, we all struggled with the rise of social media, and we all mistook puberty, mental illness, sexual trauma, and internalized lesbophobia for gender dysphoria. We walked the same path right into that doctors office asking for testosterone. Right now its hard to see this first wave of detransitioners speaking out get bullied. But I have hope that in 5 more years, this generation of young butch women will be bonding over the hair loss, the surgery regret, the deep voice, the body dysmorphia, the sexual dysfunction, and the isolation of being a medically masculinized female in today’s world. We wont care that we can’t go back in time anymore, because we’ll know we aren’t alone. The worries of our youth will be left behind, and together we’ll be able to close that chapter and go on living with purpose again.
I wonder if women who identify as men see males as the "basic, default person" in a way. TIFs dysphoria sometimes begins with discomfort toward their breasts because they've been sexualized, or the trauma inherent in puberty and getting their period, or the expectation to wear makeup or objectifying clothing - and then they think, "Well, men don't have breasts or periods. They don't have to wear makeup or clothes like that."
I wonder if it's less about truly "feeling like a male" and more about seeing the male as the standard person who does not have all these additional problems and expectations and identifying with that.
Transwomen should have lost all credibility the moment they uttered "theyfab". They take a break from pretending to be female to acknowlage their maleness and your femaleness to remind you that they have power over you that you will never identify out of.
"Theyfab" means you fell for your own hype and forgot your place. It's a peek behind the curtain of what they really think.
The insulting part of "theyfab" is "female".
joe biden, you stupid fuck. listen to me. Crimes are legal for sitting presidents as long as they’re official actions. Listen: Joe. You have one chance
has anyone else noticed the shocking amount of pro-pedophilia sentiment on this site recently. Because i have noticed it . and sometimes it's under the guise of supporting Everyone and not doing "puritan callout culture" or whatever but i've also seen people say, like, "you have to support weird freaks even the ones with unethical dangerous paraphilias" and act like you're the weird one if you go hey wait a minute. i think pedophilia is bad actually. Like has anyone else noticed this because i feel crazy rn
one time my university invited a motivational speaker and he started by talking about historical figures he found inspirational (like in business/economics) and then asked "what do they have in common?" and a girl in the crowd shouted "they're all men!"
Not sure who she was but I'll never forget her
the "man-hating lesbians" are on your side. the "old hags" are on your side. the "bitter divorcee women" are on your side. the "bitter childless women" are on your side. the "evil heartless witches" are on your side. the "evil abortionist women" are on your side. the "terfs and swerfs" are on your side. men will always rather you think otherwise.
Male referring to himself as a misogynistic slur. Makes sense I guess - typical incel behavior.
It's so upsetting to see post after post about girls and women being unhappy with their appearances, mostly after facing judgement.
I'd like to remind you that your physical beauty, your appearance, is the least interesting, most boring thing about you.
How is your appearance going to help you get good grades? It won't, your knowledge will.
How is your appearance going to save the life of the victim of drowning? It won't, your knowledge will.
How is your appearance going to keep the conversation going? It won't. Your knowledge, interests, and personality will.
Saying you don't like yourself because your ugly is like saying you hate your birthday present because it got wrapped in ugly wrapping paper. It's on the inside that counts, that actually matters.
It's more than okay to be "ugly" or what society deems unattractive. Beauty is subjective anyway. You'll never win if you tried.
Honestly when I hear people say “not receiving gender affirming surgeries will make me feel suicidal” I hear the same thing as if someone said “if I don’t get a nose job I’ll feel suicidal”
It’s a physical insecurity that wouldn’t exist in a vacuum. I’m sorry that you were influenced to feel this way, but surgery will not fix something that is rooted in self-hatred. If you change it with surgery, you will find another insecurity to fixate on within a week.
Also, can we talk about how rebranding gender affirming surgery as some life-saving procedure is just promoting and glamorising a very misogynistic and corrupt industry.
Call me Lark! Detrans lesbian w/ a DSD (chimerism), and 21 years old. Gender-critical. Diagnosed OCD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Wildlife enjoyer and proud masc lesbian.
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