In Response To Ace-Astarion:

In response to Ace-Astarion:

I think Astarion is likely a very sexual person, actually. There is admittance that he finds you attractive ("you're a vision!"), that he found your experiences together meaningful ("that's the problem"), and that he thinks sex is fun and enjoyable.

Saying "I don't want you to see me in terms of sex" doesn't mean "I don't like sex." It means: I am more than sex. I am more than what Cazador made me, which is the whole point of his story. He is elated when he finds someone who "wants" him for who he is, not who he was made to be.

It is, of course, possible that Astarion is on the asexuality spectrum. He may only want sex with people he cares for, but he is most definitely not sex-repulsed or sex-avoidant. He initiates while in the most vulnerable of situations (confessing his love, choosing his future), so it is clear that it is something he wants.

Considering his sexual trauma and disassociation during strictly sexual experiences (the drow twins), it is most likely that he only enjoys sex with those he loves, but we must be mindful that trauma does not create sexuality/orientation.

People can headcanon whatever - obviously - and it is an RPG fantasy, so like, if your Astarion is ace then that's great. But I don't think he was written that way, and I don't think it's cool to pressure the fandom into thinking he is.