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Preventing exceptions with 24/7 and no toilet rules

Keeping your partner in diapers 24/7 and banning the use of the toilet sounds simple and clean-cut in theory but the reality is day-to-day life throws up lots of exceptions and inconveniences which make sticking to this hard.

Sticking to it as closely as possible is critical though as one exception leads to another and then extremely quickly it all falls apart. So here are some common challenges you might get and how to deal with them.

I need a #2 but I’ve just changed into a fresh diaper

Unfortunately your partner should have gone in their last diaper and if they need to go now then they have to just use their clean one. Wasting clean diapers shouldn’t be encouraged so hold off changing them for at least 2 hours. 

I’m going for a run / playing sport

Very active sports and running is challenging while diapered but not impossible. We’d recommend allowing them to wear a thin breathable diaper or a pull-up for the duration. Once finished, they should be straight back into a proper diaper, don’t allow this to be a way for them to get extended time out of diapers. 

We’re going out and changing will be inconvenient

Being out of the house or on a day trip is not an excuse for them to be out of diapers. Pack a diaper bag and if you think changing will be hard dress them in a thick diaper for the day. Also encourage them to use their diaper for a #2 before you leave. Help give them confidence by picking out clothes which hide their diaper well and telling them how you can’t even tell (even if that’s a slight lie).

We’re going to be at the beach/pool all day

If they’re going to be primarily in the water then dress them in a swim diaper. If it will be sun bathing with an occasional swim, then dress them in a disposal diaper with refastenable tapes which will allow it to be taken off easily for them to change into a swim diaper and back again afterwards. 

I don’t have time to check / change you as much today

Easy solution = thick diapers + booster if required. These will hold them for 6+ hours without you or them having to do a change. Also allow them to change themselves by asking for permission over a message first if you can’t change them yourself.

They’re not feeling well

When your partner is ill, then diapers should still be insisted upon. Use thick diapers and plastic pants to avoid leaks and change them / let them change more often to avoid rashes. 

Someone might notice

If your going for a meal or drinks with friends or any other activity where they’ll be self-conscious about being noticed, still insist on a diaper but do the following to help. Let them wear a thiner medical diaper, have them wear a plain onesie and help them pick out clothes which hide the diaper well. Finally make sure to tell them that you can’t tell and give reassurance. Over time as their confidence builds switch to thicker diapers.

What if it smells?

You might be out of the house, on vacation or travelling when they have the need to go #2. It would be easier for everyone just to let them use a toilet but you must avoid this.  Instead tell them that they have to use their diaper but it’s ok and that’s what they’re for. Make arrangements for them to be able to change afterwards but this doesn’t need to be immediately. Using internal deodorant tablets like Devrom can reduce the smell significantly so we recommend using these more aggressively around vacations, day trips or travel where messy diapers in public is a more likely situation.

Extending time around exceptions

You might allow diaper free exceptions for work or around family but the danger is this extends for long periods either side. Make sure that after returning from work you’re there to diaper them or if you’re not free, leave a diaper out with instructions for them to change into it straight away. Or if say you’re at a family event and staying overnight, still change them into a diaper for bedtime. If you’re traveling back from a family event and the travel time is more than an hour stop at the first opportunity and have him get diapered. 

I’m out of diapers

It sounds obvious but accidentally running out of diapers can cause a big gap in their wearing as you really don’t want to have to switch to store diapers. Make sure to keep track of your diaper stock and I’d recommend always having a 1 month buffer of diapers available. The easiest time to run out is when away from home or on vacation. Make sure to plan how many you’ll need and then add a good buffer of extra diapers.