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Diaper Discipline when you struggle with the AB part of your partner’s desires

Two things I’ll highlight straight away are:

1. Most people who like to wear or be forced to wear diapers have a desire to incorporate other adult baby elements. The base level varies by person but I’ve noticed that most people trend towards being more AB over time. 

2. Lots of partners of ABDL’s struggle with the AB part more than the diaper part. Exactly why is hard to know but I feel most commonly it’s to do with it making it feel too close to being a real baby. They struggle to separate Adult Baby from Baby in their minds.

So how do you reconcile this difference if your ABDL partner wants to incorporate more babyish elements and you as their partner struggle most with those elements.

Before I give some options I want to first get you to remember one of the key elements of successful diaper discipline, it has to be more than they want and it sometimes shouldn’t be fun for them.

So if they want a bit of babying and you don’t like that part how can you give them more than they want to fulfil the control element they crave?

Babying can go from themed diapers to having a full nursery room in your home. At a minimum even if you don’t like babying elements I think you do have to embrace ABDL diapers, ABDL onesies and some sort of diaper changing area. I would then highly recommend you experiment (with an open mind) with pacifiers and bottles before progressing onto more babyish activities.

However if their babyish diapers, onesies and the changing mat at the end of your bed are your limit what can you do…

I feel the answer is to compensate for not fulfilling this element of their desire with stricter diaper rules and also adding in other elements of control.

So I’d seriously consider returning them to diapers full time with the diaper discipline focus them being treated as both bladder and bowel incontinent.

Keep exceptions to a minimum and add humiliation elements without exposing them or others. Tease them about being messy, don’t let them change straight away and force them to use their diapers using laxatives and suppositories.

Also to further play to the control aspect, experiment by combining diapers with chastity, bondage or spankings.

Chastity goes great with diapers and can also be good for male partners in preventing post-orgasm lows.

Bondage makes for great punishments especially when combined with laxatives. You can also use a low level on bondage on a daily basis by using a locking diaper cover or securing your partner to their work desk at home.

Spanking is something a lot of people enjoy and can be used on a maintenance basis (they’ve done nothing specific wrong) or as a punishment for an action.

Finally checking and changing them doesn’t have to be a babyish activity. You can adopt the persona of them being incontinent and you’re caring for them, or if you have a more dom streak this is a way you’re directly controlling them. But them losing the ability to change themselves is a very strong tool you should use.