Diaper Discipline For Your Partner When You’re Not Ready For 24/7

Diaper Training Program

Intro:

During this program your little will go from being gently exposed to diapers to wearing them 24/7 and becoming dependent on always being in a diaper. By the end of the program your little will prefer being diapered over using regular adult undies as they will realize they will require a diaper to prevent embarrassing situations and enjoy the benefits that will come with being diapered all the time.

This program will work if using a caregiver or if self care is going to be used. You should also decide if your little will eventually use their diaper for both #1 and #2's or just #1's. If you are opting for #1's only your little will continue to use the toilet as needed for #2's.

Make sure both the caregiver and little have the same desired outcomes and know what to expect from the training program. Once diaper dependence is established it is almost impossible to regain 100% control of ones body functions again, diapers are going to become a necessary daily item for your little as the progam appraches completion.

I followed the program for 4 weeks solo and found myself bearly able to hold my pee after almost a month. I would find myself accidently start to dribble for several weeks after stopping and several times ended up with a spot on my pants. I wore a thin diaper for several weeks as I basically worked and strengthening my bladder again. One day I may return to the program and try for completion. For now I perfer bursts of wearing as desired.

Within a short time of completing the diaper training program and sticking with the new lifestyle for a while your little is likely to find that they may never be able to ever go without wearing a diapers again. Embarrassing accidents could happen at anytime when you train yourself to completely become dependent on diapers. A supply of quality diapers may have to be kept on hand at all times. If your caregiver goals and your little's goals aline after considering the potential permanent outcomes of the training program then it is safe to continue and begin the training program and continue to your desired level of dependence desired or go all the way to full dependence if you desire.

Each phase of the program has a recommended length of time recommended before moving to the next phase. If by the recommended phase periods your little has not quite met their goals it will be necessary to double the time period in each phase. Doing so will only increase the chance of continued success in the desired outcomes.

Once your little moves to the next phase they are not alloud to return to a previous phase. You little should be guided to embracing their new selves.

Sometimes it is nice to include a reward for your little such as a self masterbation session after the first diaper use and then at the successful completion of each training phase. Since they will be using a diaper daily by the end of this program your little should have something to look forward to and encourage them to stick with the program.

Phase 1: Exposure: 1 Week

This is the first step in exposing your little to the diaper training program. This is the first and most gentle step.

During this time your goal is to introduce your little to the feeling of a diaper, but not so much as to make them miserable and turn them away from the training.

During this phase it is recommended that you require you little to put on their new diaper at bedtime and wear it only until they wake up. A good time period to use is 10pm until your little wakes up. This will usually give a full 8-10 hours of wearing a diaper. Your little can still be alloud to use the potty as desired as long as they put the diaper right back on after doing so.

At this point in the program if you little does not use their diaper it is perfectly fine. The only purpose of this phase is to exposure you little to the new feeling of having something between their legs at night.

At first your little may have trouble falling asleep while wearing their diaper, but if consistantly repeated night by the last few days of the week your little should be able to sleep through the night. Your littles body will get used to the new feeling as they sleep. If by the end of the week your little is still not able to sleep through the night the duration of phase one can be extended another full week.

Once your little is sleeping through the night it is time to move onto phase 2. Remember though; once your little moves to the next phase under no circumstance can you go back a step in the program. Doing so will only slow down if not prevent the desired outcome you are hoping for.

Phase 2: Extra Time: 1 week

Your little is now ready to move to the next phase at this point in the program. Phase 2 is about extending the time spent in their new diapers and getting used to the feeling, look and sound of their new diapers.

During phase 2a it is recomended that your little consistantly wear their diaper from 6pm until the following morning. During this second week it is still ok if your little is not using their diaper, but that will soon change.

Also during this first week of phase 2a it is important that you not allow your little to wear anything at home to hide their diaper. Consistantly being able to see what they are now wearing will slowly normalize your little to the soon to be new them and help them build confidence with their new look.

Phase 2b: Starting to use: 1 Week

During this week you will continue with the steps above from phase 2a while adding one additional requirement. In order to be able to remove the diaper it must be used. This means that if your little goes the full night without using their diaper they are to remain diapered into the next morning until it has be used for at least a wetting.

Phase 2b's goal is to get your little semi comfortable with wetting in their diaper and becoming familiar with the feeling of wet diaper.

If the phase is completed correctly after the week of phase 2b your little will be ready to move to the next step. However, if necessary the duration can be extended an extra week. To help with encouraging use of their diaper you can always have your little drink a couple glasses of water before going to bed. By morning they will have no choice, but to use their diaper. This phase will also exposure your level to the protection level of their diaper. By the end of this phase your little will be able to trust their diaper for any wetting need and you will begin to remove the fear of leaks for your little.

Phase 3a: 1 week: All day wearing with exceptions.

Once you have made it to this part of the program your little should be becoming significantly more comfortable with the soon to be new them.

During this 1 week period it is required that your little wear a diaper from the moment they wake up in the morning until the next morning.

At this point your little will become used to using their diaper and be familiar with the wet feeling of a used diaper. During this phase of the program the care giver is required to start providing changes for their little. You should also order at least three types of diapers for your little to test what they like to wear.

The only time a diaper is not required at this time is when going to work, a doctors apointment or a family gathering. When running errands you little needs to be consistantly diapered.

In this phase you are showing your little that usually noone will notice anything about what your little is wearing. Even if someone knows they are wearing a diaper they will be a completely stranger making no impact on their personal lives.

Phase 3b: 1 week: Time for work

During this part of the program you are slowly pushing your little boundaries to continue showing them everything is fine. Your little is now required to continue everything from phase 3a, but now they are going to be wearing to work. To help in this phase your little may feel better wearing a onesie. This will help conceal their diaper while also holding it in place if used to help prevent leaks.

By the end of this week your little should be returning home wet and needing to be changed. If not coming home wet extend the period for an additional week until the desired results start to happen.

For doctors apointments and family events you may want to provide an alternative to their perferred diaper such as a pull up or thinner diaper as confidence continues to build.

Phase 4a: Becoming comfortable 1 week.

At this step your little has been wearing at least daily for over a month and at least wetting their diaper for a couple of weeks now. They should be more comfortable with their new look and comfortable with depending on their diaper to protect them from leaks. You will now destroy a remaining pair of underwear since they are almost no longer needed at all except for a doctors apointment.

During this time your little will be wearing a diaper for family events. The only time your little is not diapered will be at a doctors apointment. By the end of this week your little should be comfortable with their new self.

Phase 4b: 1 Week

At this time you will destory one of the two remaining pairs of underwear leaveing only one pair for a possible doctors apointment. By now you little should be consistantly using their diaper as need for wetting and may start to find themselves having difficulty holding back a wetting.

Everything from phase 4a will continue to apply to your little. If you and your little have decided to use their diaper for both #1 and #2's you will now start to require them to use their diaper for number 2's while quickly providing a change afterwords to promote trust and prevent skin irritations.

To facilitate this step you may want to start giving your little a laxative or two with breakfast. Quickly your little will continue to grow their trust in their diapers since they will be using them for any restroom need now. Start keeping a portable diaper bag when you travel or run errands for the inevitable accidents.

Phase 5a: Final stretch: Full Time

During this final phase your little has now arrived at the point that diaper are to be worn at all times; for everything. Now it is time to destroy the final pair of adult underwear as they will no longer be worn. By now your little may even not notice often if they are even wearing a diaper and may start to not realize they are wetting their diapers. As each following week progresses your little will become completely comfortable with being dependent on their diapers, trusting their caregiver for needed quick changes and oblivious to their diapered status unless needing to be changed.

During Phase 5a it is a good time to have your little help select their preferred diaper that they will continue to use. It is also a good time to have your little try on their clothes over their diaper and anything that will no longer fit correctly or thats makes your little uncomfortable by having to much risk of being discovered be removed from the wardrobe. New pants should cover the diaper well, but not be so tight that a swollen buldge or the diaper outlines not be visable when a change is needed. You little will not be worried about being discovered or even really care if they are.

Phase 5b: From Here On Out

This is the final phase of the diaper training program. Starting this week your little will be diapered full time and be comfortable wearing their diapers for everything. No adult underwear will remain in the home for them to use, only diapers now. From this point forward your little will be completely dependent on using their diapers for anything.

Each week from this point you will notice your little embracing their new self. You little will be consistantly using their diapers for everything and becoming comfortable wearing anywhere they go at all times. They should not notice their diapers by now unless it is significantly dirty and needing to be changed.

As the weeks continue on you should find your little no longer being worried about hidding their diapers as much and starting to dress for comfort. Your little should have lost the fear of being discovered by anyone and even if they are discovered realize that nothing bad is going to happen to them.

This phase of the program will last indefinitely since it will be almost impossible to regain 100% body control again. Your little will now be completely comfortable at anytime wearing a diaper and have no issues with using them as intended as the weeks continue.

Things for your little should continue to improve week after week as they continue to wear their diapers 24/7. You should always have a stock of diapers available now since your little may be approaching incontinence. Your little should notice the benefits of being diapered by now: not having to dash to a restroom, not using dirty public restrooms and enjoy the protection a diaper offers.

From here on your little will be comfortable with their new self most of the time and they will continue to improve confidence as time goes on. You should notice a big change in your littles life as they will have accepted their now dependence on diapers as a leak would be more embarrassing than being discovered diapered. When your little has completely embraced their new self you can make minor changes to dress requirements and institute new rules since you little will have no choice but to use their diapers now as needed and will even forget they are wearing a diaper, sometimes even if they need to be changed. The caregiver is now completely responsible for taking care of the littles needs.

By this point your little has been diapered daily for a few months and wearing 24/7 for several weeks. By this time your little will have completed the full diaper training program and be comfortable at all times with themselves and no longer be embarrassed to wear diaper anytime.

Since your little is now almost or completely incontinent your little will realize diapers are now always required at all times. If discovered by anyone: strangers, family or even a doctor they can legitimately say that their diapers are completely required.

You will know that your little has completely accepted their new life when you request a diaper check and regardless of where you are they lift up their shirt to be checked and not care if someone takes a quick glance. Frequest diaper checks will become common and will sometimes have to occure when out in public to prevent significant skin irritations.

Remeber to keep supporting your little and making them feel comfortable and loved constantly as that will only promote longterm if not permanent adherence to being diapered at all times.

RULES FOR BABY

YOU ARE NOW ONLY 24 MONTHS OLD. YOU WILL DO AS ALL 24- MONTH-OLDS DO, INCLUDING USING DIAPERS, DRINKING FROM BOTTLES, EATING IN A HIGH CHAIR, AND HAVING A BABYSITTER.

1: YOU WILL NOT SPEAK LIKE A BIG BOY/GIRL

2: NO BAD WORDS

3: NEVER TOUCH YOUR DIAPERS

4: IF YOU NEED A CHANGE YOU MUST FIND AN APPROPRIATE WAY TO TELL AN ADULT USING BABY TALK

5: IF YOU DO NOT TELL AN ADULT THAT YOU HAVE SOILED OR WET YOUR DIAPER, YOU MUST WAIT UNTIL SOMEONE DOES A DIAPER CHECK

6: NEVER REMOVE YOUR CLOTHES OR CHECK YOUR DIAPERS; THAT IS DADDY’S RESPONSIBILITY

7: NEVER TOUCH YOUR NAUGHTY BITS; YOU MAY ONLY MASTURBATE BY FINGERING YOUR PUSSY

8. YOU MAY NOT CUM WITHOUT DADDY’S PERMISSION

9: NEVER FUSS OR TALK BACK TO GROWN UPS

10: WEAR WHAT YOU ARE PUT IN WITHOUT ANY COMPLAINING

11: DO NOT ATTEMPT TO HIDE ANYTHING DADDY GIVES YOU OR MAKES YOU WEAR - IN FRONT OF OTHERS OR IN PUBLIC

12: YOU WILL USE YOUR DIAPERS WHENEVER AND WHEREVER YOU NEED THEM; YOU WILL NOT HOLD YOUR PEE OR POOP TO AVOID EMBARRASSMENT

13: YOU ARE NOT TO USE THE TOILET; IF YOU ARE NOT WEARING A DIAPER YOU MUST USE THE PUP PAD

14: NEVER ENTER THE BATHROOM WITH OUT DADDY (OR YOUR BABYSITTER)

15: YOU WILL NOT FEED YOURSELF UNLESS INSTRUCTED TO DO SO; WHEN YOU DO FEED YOURSELF YOU WILL USE YOUR HANDS

16: WHEN YOUR PACI IS PUT IN IT DOES NOT COME OUT UNLESS AN ADULT TAKES IT OUT

17: YOU WILL ONLY PLAY WITH THE BABY TOYS THAT MOMMY AND DADDY GIVE TO YOU (INCLUDING CELL PHONES, AND OTHER BIG BOY/GIRL THINGS)

18: YOU WILL BE POLITE AND RESPECTFUL TO ALL ADULTS AND DO WHAT THEY TELL YOU

19: ANYONE OVER YOUR AGE (24 MONTHS) IS AN ADULT

20: YOU WILL NOT FIGHT WITH YOUR SIBLINGS

21: YOU WILL ADDRESS DADDY AS DADDY AND ALL OTHER ADULTS BY THEIR PROPER TITLE

22. YOU WILL REFER TO YOURSELF BY THE CORRECT NAME OR PRONOUN GIVEN BY YOUR BIG

23. YOU WILL NOT INTERRUPT OR SPEAK OUT OF TURN

24. YOU WILL NOT RESIST BEING DIAPERED OR CHANGED

25: YOU WILL NOT ARGUE WITH BED TIMES OR NAPS

26: BED TIME IS AT 8:00 EVERY NIGHT

27. YOU MUST HOLD AN ADULT’S HAND WHEN YOU CROSS THE STREET

28: SCHOOL WORK COMES BEFORE PLAYTIME; YOU WILL FINISH ALL YOUR WORK IN A TIMELY MANNER

29. YOU MUST TELL YOUR BIG IF YOU NEED TO STOP OR SLOW DOWN; YOU WILL USE THE AGREED UPON SIGNALS AND SAFE WORDS WITHOUT HESITATION IF YOU NEED TO

30. YOU MAY NOT WANDER OFF, YOU WILL HOLD AN ADULT’S HAND AT ALL TIMES IN PUBLIC

31. YOU MAY NOT BE IN A ROOM ALONE WITHOUT BEING IN A CRIB, A HIGHCHAIR, PLAYPEN OR BEING OTHERWISE SECURED

32. YOU WILL NOT LIE ABOUT OR BE ASHAMED OF YOUR DIAPERS; YOU WILL BE PROUD OF YOUR LITTLENESS AND OWN IT

33: ANY SUPERVISING ADULT HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE MORE RULES AS THE SITUATION DICTATES

FAILURE TO FOLLOW ANY OF THESE RULES WILL RESULT IN AN IMMEDIATE SPANKING; YOUR PUNISHMENT WILL INCREASE WITH EACH INFRACTION

PUNISHMENTS FOR BAD BEHAVIOR MAY INCLUDE: corner time chair time spankings enemas and suppositories chastity devices double diapers loss of big boy privileges butt plug tickle torture

Ideas for rewards: ice cream toys/plushies gain of big boy priveleges being allowed to eat adult food tv time being allowed to cum getting to suck Daddy’s paci later bedtime stickers and gold stars

Note: I cannot take full credit for this list.  Some of the text and ideas for this list have been taken and adapted from the story “Twisted Fate” and a number of other sources.  My thanks to the authors for all their ideas and many hours of fun at the computer screen -Champ

My

Evening training program

1. Sex shaved

2. fancysteel locked.

3. thick diapered.

4. plastic pants locked.

5. keys in kitchen safe for at least 5hours.

6. 1.5l. water.

7. minimum 3000 steps outside walk.

8. hood.

9. posture collar (1h min.)

10. spider gag (1h min.)

11. nipple clips.

11. mouth dildo training.

12. 1h exposed challenge.

May i add something ?

Potty Training

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You should have to get recertified in potty training every 2 years to keep up with advancements in the field

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Women pretty much only want to date a guy who is potty trained

Always talking about getting coffee like it's nothing?

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I went through potty training almost 30 years ago. You really expect me to remember any of that?

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Normal underwear is the black belt of potty training

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Some people claim to be potty trained. But I don’t think it’s something that you can ever truly fully attain. I believe it’s an ongoing process, a endless struggle for perfection. A lifelong journey.

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I studied potty training under Bob and Sara Feldman in the 90's, but I dropped out when I realized they just taught the typical practices. Seemed like they didn't really have anything interesting or innovative to say in the space

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I dropped out of formal potty training to focus on more hands-on pooping

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My buddy was potty trained by his parents. So I asked if his parents would be down to teach me, and he said no!!!

Wow… Their techniques must be a closely guarded family secret.

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I’m living proof that you can get potty trained or lose your virginity in any order. Probably to be honest - I'm getting pretty close I think. I’ve got some irons in the fire for both

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Public restrooms don’t mean anything as a service unless they also offer public potty training lessons. You expect me to just know what to do in there?

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Diapers are so expensive because capitalism seeks to punish those who aren’t potty trained

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Date: I’m a sapiosexual. I’m sexually attracted to intelligence

Me: I tighten my collar and lean in oh yeah, is that so? Well, I actually just so happen to be potty trained. That’s right… these are big boy pants 😏👖

Date: waiter, check please

Me: Ope 😳 might have spoke too soon. I think I just went potty

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When I drink a coffee and then leave the house too soon, that's a choreographed potty dance

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When a child is doing the potty dance, it's like. Cope much?

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I always take some molly with my laxatives. I'm trying to get lost in the potty dance

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The Daddy's Compendium To Interacting With His ABDL Boy

An ongoing WIP project by Young'N'Rebellious!

I’ve divided the following into 4 categories - Ideas (To be split into Fun Ideas and Punishment Ideas), Activities, Things To Say (To be split into Positive/Reassuring Things and Not So Positive/Teasing Things), and Advice & General ABDL Info/Knowledge.

Feel free to comment anything you feel needs to be added or is missing! Hope this helps somebody as much as it has my own Daddy! I will update this Compendium as I add more stuff and make new revisions! :) Credit to friends, followers, life experiences, myself & personal ABDL experiences, and most notably amazing sources like ABDL Dad’s very well written blogs and like-wise materials!

IDEAS: * Stand outside the bathroom whenever your little one goes potty if he’s not padded at that time, then ask him if he made it in time and check to make sure he did before praising or scolding him accordingly! * Act like your boy is too big for diapers until he gives you a -reason- to put him back in Diapers, Pull-Ups, or Training Pants! * Often ask your boy if he has to go potty, or if he “already went.” Whether he’s diapered or not (more ESPECIALLY if he’s not…) Even better if you can get away with it in public, and -always- ask before or when going anywhere. * If he has to go, ask him how bad and if its an emergency. * Ask him whether he wants to try and be a big boy or to just use his diaper or “have an accident”, give him the choice to try and be a big boy, then go along with it, whether he decides to succeed or to fail at it. * Before you let your ABDL boy rush out the door, have him stop and then check his clothes carefully. Fix the belt on his jeans. Adjust his diaper so that it shows just slightly above the waist and then pull his shirt down carefully over it. Give him a kiss on the cheek and tell him how wonderful he is and how adorable he looks. * If your little guy can’t wear diapers in the day, have him carry a Pull-Ups in his back pack. He might complain that someone might see it or find it. Assure him no one will ever notice. He may never even look at it, but knowing that it’s close at hand will give him a sense of security. * Instead of regular underwear, surprise your little with a pair of training pants! * Slip a pacifier into your boy’s pocket on the way out the door, imagine the blush when he reaches into his pocket and finds it! * If your boy wears a watch, take some diaper tape and attach it around the band. Call him later in the day and ask what time it is. If anyone knows that it’s no ordinary tape it will be him – you’ll hear the smile right through the phone line. * Most important of all, when your boy gets home give him a super long hug. Then say “let’s get you changed”. Don’t turn it into a big production… just “let’s get you changed” is enough – it says that Sunday wasn’t some special day all its own and that even though there’s a whole world of things to do he’s always his daddy’s little boy no matter where they are or what they’re doing! * Punish your boy for having a potty mouth, not just for having potty pants (if even…) * Pretend potty-train your boy even if you know he’s gonna use his diaper and have Onpurpsidents anyways. * Change your boy’s diaper when it leaks whether he wants it changed or not, and if he puts up too much of a fuss put him on time out! * Find ways to subtly make your boy feel little in public, it always makes their cheeks turn so red and adorable! * Set a Bedtime even when he wants to talk or play. * Try to get him to do something “little” (like ride a carousel for example.) Or have him do 2 random sporadic things a day that a cub would do impulsively and reward the behavior. * Punish your boy for sticking his tongue out. * Make your boy sit on Time Out in the corner and think about what he did in his wet or messy diaper or clothing. (with consent) * Bounce your boy on your knee * Give you boy discrete Diaper checks in public * Whisper loving things into your boy’s ears * * * * * * * *

ACTIVITIES: * Read a story to your little! * Feed you boy a bottle of milk (Preferably warm, maybe sweetened too!) * Take him to a Park to play * Teach him how to do something new * Let him help with something (Cooking, Laundry, etc) * Snuggling! * Take your boy to the mall * Watch Childhood Movies and Cartoons with him. * Go see a Movie with him. * Play games with him. * Put a puzzle together with each other (Not one with too many pieces though, that’s too hard and the smaller piece may be choking hazards! ;P) * Color pictures together * Catch bugs together * Go Fishing together * Pretend Potty Training (Play along and encourage them, whether they decide to succeed or fail.) * Give your boy a bubble bath * Build a blanket fort together * Go Hiking in the woods * Take a camping trip and let your boy enjoy nature as a little, free of worries, and pants! * * * * * * * * * * *

THINGS TO SAY: * Call your boy names he likes that make him feel little, blush, or embarrass him. * Remind him how little he is! * Often remind him how little you -think- he is * Tell him how much he means to you! * Remind your little what he needs your help doing! * Randomly ask your boy if he has to go potty. * Ask your boy if he can hold it or if its an emergency * Randomly ask your boy if he had an accident, even if you know he didn’t. * “Let’s get you changed.” * “Be a big boy and hold it, or not, daddy wont tell anybody and will get you cleaned up/changed.” * “I swear to god if you poop your pants…” * “Did you poop your pants?” * “Come here, are you wet again already?” * “You purposely didn’t make it didn’t you?” * “Its okay, accidents happen! Let’s go get you cleaned up/Changed.” * “You’re not going to bed without a Diaper on!” * * * * * * * * * * * * * *

ADVICE & GENERAL ABDL INFO/KNOWLEDGE: * Kiss him on the forehead * Tickle him! * Blow raspberries on their tummy! * Tease your ABDL boy but not too much or too harshly. * Smile at your boy a lot * Give him reassurance * Pat and touch their diaper a lot * Establish your own set of rules and consequences for him. * Don’t make cracks about body hair, it ruins the immersion and fantasy! * Don’t let or make your boy dress himself, that’s Daddy’s job! * Try to let him choose his outfit, I know Daddy needs his fun too sometimes but freedom to be himself and comfortable is an important priority. * Let your boy sit in your lap or on your leg/knee. * Punish your boy when he’s naughty or bratty. Time Outs are a great and reliable alternative to Spankings. Little Boys HATE Time Outs. ;) * Be stern but don’t overdo it, show you still care about them and are loving! * Baby talk your boy but don’t overdo it, just make them feel loved and cared for. * Light touching and eye contact is important to intimacy. * Give your little guy a safe, trusting, and caring space in which to express his little side. * Make sure your boy knows what he did if he poops or pees his pants, it makes them feel so little! * Most ABDL have had a rocky background and are full of insecurities * Make sure your boy leaves padded so that he doesn’t have an accident in public! (Not a noticeable one anyways… accidents still happen.) * Hold onto him, don’t expect him to hold onto you, he’s the young boy, he’s the insecure one who need’s your loving embrace and reassurance! * Check on him during naps and maybe give his diaper seat a reassuring rub. * If you wake up at night for any reason, check on your boy and rub his diaper a little and check it before going back to bed. * Change your boy as frequently as needed, maybe more if he enjoys Diaper changes a lot! * Check your boy’s diaper constantly (At least twice an hour), whether he needs it or not, it makes him feel secure and cared for! It also Keeps him reminded of what a little boy he is for not being able (or choosing not to) to keep his diaper dry or clean. * -Always- get your little dressed/changed for bed and tuck him in! Make sure his plushie is in his arms and his paci is in his mouth! Don’t forget to check under the bed and in the closet for monsters! Check his diaper one last time, just for the heck of it, and if he’s already soggy, tease him a bit so he falls asleep feeling little. :) *It goes without saying that little boys always want to act like big boys even though they need you to help them feel little! Your little boy might Smoke, Drink, Vape, or be a recreational drug user. You are NOT the police, don’t act like it! Decide together what adult habits and vices you are okay with and which ones your little is allowed to have during “Little time”. People often can’t let these vices go no matter how regressed they become so keep that in mind, don’t make your little feel ashamed or self conscious and ruin his immersion/fantasy because of these vices. * A lot of littles like remaining wet or messy for some time, so there doesn’t need to be a rush to change them unless it goes against your personal preference, smells exceptionally ripe, or they ask! * Some littles even enjoy leaking, and wear their dark spots proudly as badges! * It’s not just the diaper that connects him to you. There’s something incredibly powerful and special about being in his diapers, and it is an explicit and needed connection in his relationship to you. * Little boys like to try to be big boys and not tell you when they have to go potty, and they might end up having an accident. When they do, do not scold them but tell them you are proud of them for trying to be a big boy and then change their clothes and clean them up and if possible, put them in a clean Diaper! * Make diaper changes significant; don’t be a robot! Changing a diaper becomes like riding a bike at some point, but that doesn’t mean a Daddy should abstain from talking to their little, teasing them, or letting them help by holding the wipes (careful with giving them the powder though!) * Make eye contact and smile during diaper changes, this makes your boy feel reassured and safe, and reminds him you care and want to get him all cleaned up. * Sometimes little boys have accidents in their big boy pants around the house. If the carpet or furniture gets wet, don’t be angry with your boy! (Unless he did it on purpose!) Remind him that he was a good boy for trying to hold it like a big boy. After you change him, just wipe up or dab the wet spot with a clean damp towel and turn a fan on in the room. The wet spot from his accident will air dry overnight and the moving air from the fan will prevent the area from smelling like a urinal/bathroom. * Do not display unsettledness over furniture or floors, you don’t want your little to feel like you’re prioritizing a couch or strip of fabric before him and his emotional/core needs… * Diapers were not designed to be soaked. No matter WHAT a daddy does he should never get angry at his son for a wet couch, carpet, or clothes. A boy should know that it’s safe and right to use his diapers in what ever way he needs to, and creating any shame around leaks will will make it tougher for the little guy to feel that he belongs in his diapers or might make him nervous to use them.YOU should have asked him if he had to pee and if so how much. And YOU should have known how wet he already was, It’s not his fault so bare no anger. * When cleaning ups leaks, place paper towels over the wet spots before smiling warmly and taking your little to change and THEN wipe or dab up the wet spot all the way and let it air dry! You don’t want your little to feel as though you’re more worried about a couch or rug than them, that can easily make a little feel less important and self conscious. * Sometimes, a wet spot on his bum while in public might be a little embarrassing, but daddy should both provide reassurance and have back-up plans in place – a sweater wrapped around the boy’s waist if it’s serious, a reassuring pat on the shoulder and diapered bum for those “maybe people will notice or maybe not” moments, and a spare pair of shorts or jeans in the diaper bag if it’s a longer day out. * Whenever you take your baby boy anywhere, always bring a bag or backpack with 2 spare sets of clothes and at least 2 fresh diapers, a spare pair of shorts or jeans, as well as wipes, clean hand towels, and powder! You should be ready to discreetly change your little boy anywhere at any time. Even if you don’t use the travel bag, he gains reassurance and feels more little just from you having it around! * Moderation is key, drowning a little in affection all the time can tend to become a chore for both of you after a while, but everyone has their personal limit! * Make sure your boy has his Paci or Stuffy during diaper changes! Or at the very least ask them where they are. * Your boy has a literal list of Core Needs that need to be met. Its both of your job to find out what they are and how to meet them! *If more needs are going unmet than are being met it can affect them negatively emotionally, causing depression, anxiety, or even turning the relationship toxic. * Part-Time Daddies with family, friends, and jobs have it rough! Most ABDL boys long for a full time, living together companion who can be there day and night to respond to their mood shifts and needs as they go in and out of phases and different emotions. Not someone for whom they are their “secret life”, but someone for whom they ARE their life, an equal partner, without shame, secrecy or the closet. Someone with whom they can set them self free with and truly be them self with 24/7/365. Someone who brings out their favorite things about them self and isn’t ashamed of those things. * Not every day will be a walk in the park. If every day was the same or predictable, that would be the same as flat-lining. Hiccups are a sign life; Disagreements happen, fights are a thing, and growing pains are common. Never forget that beyond all these roles are two human beings trying to grow closer. Always keep adventuring and be open to experimenting & experiencing. -Always- keep communicating. The goal should be to integrate the daddy/little dynamic into your life together. Trust in yourselves to find a balance that works for both of you! * Remember that being in a relationship with a Little is as valid and meaningful as any other type of relationship. The Daddy not only has to be the keeper of ALL of his boy’s needs, but also treat him with the unconditional love, respect, and trust as you would -any- relationship. * Remember the ABDL community is a small one, and your Little Boy may want to have other Little friends, as well as other older friends. Remember not every relationship MUST be monogamous to be healthy. Talk honestly with your Little Boy to learn each other’s boundaries regarding interacting with other Littles or Adults. Work together to decide what is right for YOUR relationship, be flexible, never judgmental, and always love your little unconditionally. Remember wherever he might go play and no matter what he will -always- love you the most and come back to be with you! * If your living situation is such that you don’t have your Little Boy living WITH you, remember that even out on his own doing every day adult things, that he still needs to know you are his Daddy and you love him and are there for him! Make a plan with your Little Boy on days you aren’t together to be in touch by voice or text or IM in the morning, at mid day, and at night. Make a schedule that works for you both. NEVER go to sleep for the night without having talked with him, and sleep with your ringers on. ALWAYS be reachable for each other! * * *

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