Healingange - N'oublier Pas

Most anti phone advice is so inane and regurgitated to me but one thing I’ve been thinking about for days is “social media is okay, but the real danger comes in when you think your phone should be your go to during your limited pockets of leisure” like that’s literally the truest thing ever

“Brother, I’m not depressed and haven’t lost spirit. Life everywhere is life, life is in ourselves and not in the external. There will be people near me, and to be a human being among human beings, and remain one forever, no matter what misfortunes befall, not to become depressed, and not to falter—this is what life is, herein lies its task. I have come to recognize this. This idea has entered into my flesh and blood.”

— Fyodor Dostoevsky, in a letter to his brother detailing his experience of nearly getting executed

Hi Kelsey!

So I'm an adult but I don't feel like one. I saw your post about how you managed to grow and learn so many things in the span of some months and I want to do that as well. My problem is that I get so scared at just the thought of doing the things I have to and I feel so uncomfortable when I'm about to do something new and I'm afraid I'm gonna mess it up.

I know this is normal but it's keeping me back and I'd like some help although I wouldn't want someone next to me all the time doing those things instead of me because that wouldn't help me become independent.

Thank you for your time!

Start by making a list of what needs to be done to get you more independent. The list will likely be quite long. Don’t be intimidated. Looking at it should feel somewhat of a relief bc you are mature enough to see where you are lacking and pinpoint what changes need to be made. That’s a good thing! You’ll also see that you are closer than you think to being more grown up and it’s just a sheet of paper away from being your reality. Yay! Start working diligently on that list. If you are participating in nun mode then that would be a fantastic time to do it and would be similar to how I went about it as well, only I wasn’t intentionally in nun mode back then. Even if you don’t participate, just make sure that you are indeed working hard on blowing through that list. Most of it will require way less than you think it will. Even if you mess up (there won’t be much to mess up, btw) there is nothing that can’t be fixed later. Trust me.

A big part of feeling grown up is taking charge of your responsibilities, accepting accountability for your actions and failures, no longer making juvenile excuses, prioritizing the important things, making sacrifices when you have to, reaching a point where you can give back to those who helped you make it this far, and taking care of yourself. You can do it. I believe in youuuu ♡

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Whats something interesting you learned this year?

That you should live each moment of your life as if it were eternally there, fixed in memory, in another dimension. Not as if it were fleeting. I say this because time is not a concept, time is what we are. Even butterflies are made of time. Time is the universe. But humanity has divided time into objects, concepts, and categories. We have invented clocks, calendars, pendulums, etc all so that we can grasp our own existence. The month, the hour, the minute, the second, it’s all so comforting because it is our way of participating in the universe. But the future does not happen, the past has not happened. Everything is here. Right now. And the body knows it.