I'm an AMAB Trans girl and I'm wondering how to avoid voice dysphoria when I begin practicing? My voice (when I was in choir) was low in the base section if it helps.
Harper says:Hey there!First, I’ll signpost you to our dysphoria tips page, for general dealing with dysphoria tips, and our transfem voice page, and (a bit of a long shot here) a search I did about voice dysphoria on our blog.At first, it’ll be strange and you’ll probably sound a bit funny at the top of your range, so it’ll take you some time to get your footing, (I’m a casual learner and I’m still not really there). I think that’s probably the main thing you should keep in mind - either in terms of dealing with voice dysphoria, or in terms of just trying to embrace that shakiness and sometimes silliness as a bit of fun with it.With this in mind, if you haven’t started practicing raising the tone of your voice and you’re worried that it might induce dysphoria - give it a go first, it might not be as bad as you think!Also don’t forget about the other part of vocal training: intonation - learning the traditionally “feminine” inflections etc., of speech. This can be the best way of actually sounding “feminine” no matter how high or low your voice is. There are plenty of trans women and cis women with lovely deep voices (the model Dara hasn’t made any effort to heighten her voice and its lovely and deep and feminine) that sound womanly / feminine / all that jazz. (There’s a very popular post I think about a lot that comes to mind, deep voices in girls can be very well loved by some people!)Try to keep in mind that there’s no “correct” level, or “correct” voice to strive for. The voice you have right now is a woman’s voice! And also try to keep in mind that the more you practice, the easier things will become, it’s all about growing.Finally, I’d recommend representation. Listening to trans women talk is one of my great comforts in life. I don’t have a wide variety of sources but I’ll link here a brief list of the people I listen to/know about. If any other followers or mods have any other ideas that’d be grand!Shon Faye - Shon this Way (YouTube link)Paris Lees - Interview with James O’Brien (YT link)Merritt Kopas - Woodland Secrets (Podcast)Morgan M. Page - One from the Vaults (trans history podcast)Laura Jane Grace - from the band Against Me! (YT interview and song)
You’ve brought up the issue before, this issue of not feeling like you’re in control. Do you remember? When we spoke about your father. You talked about how he chose to do nothing when he was battling his cancer. You told him he could have fought the company that caused it. He could have told people about it. He could have sought better care than what he was getting. Instead, he did nothing. Maybe your father felt the same way as you do now. After all, like you said, what’s the point?
It’s different.
What’s different is you’ve found options, Elliot. That’s the power you have. That’s the control you own. You don’t have to just take what life gives you.
a big thanks to @divinelygrotesque for finding these links
Lower
Boom Your Voice - youtube video
How to deepen your voice naturally – reddit thread
How to talk with a deeper voice - wikihow
How to deepen your voice (pre-t) – reddit thread
Voice masculinization - article
Vocal androgyny in speech and singing - article
This Phone App Helps Transgender Users Change The Pitch And Tone Of Their Voices - buzzfeed article
Higher
Voice Feminization - article
Pitch, range, resonance, depth - blogspot article
How to develop a female voice - article (cisnormative language)
Feminine voice techniques - article
MR.ROBOT SEASON 4 (2019)
Hello, friend. God, that’s always been lame, hasn’t it? Sorry I never came up with a better name for you. Then again, I don’t even have a name. Just a guy trying to play God without permission. This whole time, I thought changing the world was something you did, an act you performed, something you fought for. I don’t know if that’s true anymore. What if changing the world was just about being here, by showing up no matter how many times we get told we don’t belong, by staying true even when we’re shamed into being false, by believing in ourselves even when we’re told we’re too different? And if we all held on to that, if we refuse to budge and fall in line, if we stood our ground for long enough, just maybe… The world can’t help but change around us. Even though we’ll be gone, it’s like Mr. Robot said. We’ll always be a part of Elliot Alderson. And we’ll be the best part, because we’re the part that always showed up. We’re the part that stayed. We’re the part that changed him. And who wouldn’t be proud of that?
Getting real fucking tired of people telling me that I have to be chill & that I can’t get angry when family members deadname/misgender me. I get that it takes time for people to get used to new names/pronouns, but I’ve been out as trans for almost a year now. You’ve had time. And now, when family members STILL get it wrong, it just feels like they don’t even care enough to try to use my correct name/pronouns. Ugh.
“This Is Why You’re Always So Tired”
Mr. Robot Side Character Week | Day 1: Favorite Side Character » Leon
That autistic / ADHD feel when you want to do… something.
yorha unit no.0
I’m worried about you. I wish I could say something that could snap you out of this. … Remember when we used to do our wishing game? We’d close our eyes, and we’d wish for something. Whatever we wanted. We both wished we could get bigger bedrooms. That was a big one. You would always wish for more protractors, which was weird. I would wish for a faster computer. Probably a faster modem, too. You would wish for better clothes. I didn’t really care about that. We both wished we could drive. I just wanted to drive away. We wanted to go on road trips. And eat lots of Sour Patch Kids that we would buy from gas stations.