Ignore My Typos I Was Angry Typing

Most Radfems and the like don’t respect DNIs- which I honestly think kind of sucks in its own way. You don’t owe me or anyone your time or attention and I’m not owed access to your blog. A DNI is a polite request to respect a boundary and you- the person reading this- your right to your own space and your own boundaries matters. Never let anyone make you believe the lines that you place don’t matter.

Sometimes I respond to posts on my for you out of habit though and don’t check blogs beforehand. If I break your DNI, I’m sorry especially if I do so in a way that triggers you. Please curate your online experiences as needed.

by the way if men seriously “can’t help it” and “can’t stop himself” from sex offending in literally any scenario, he should be put down like an uncontrollable animal

Mind, I’m bi, but mono-sexuality isn’t this mystical impossible to understand thing unless you insist your experiences of the world are universal. It’s actually really easy to believe someone likes one thing and dislikes another even if you enjoy both things.

This is something i’ve been kinda stressing about lately as a lesbian woman. dunno if you could give your opinion?

i’m quite short. 5’3. Not ultra short, but shorter than average where I’m from (not american).

I’ve noticed I tend to find women of similar height and even slightly shorter attractive. It’s not that I haven’t ever found tall women attractive, I do, but I do seem to be more drawn toward the shorter ones.

Is this creepy? I don’t like it when the woman’s looks are juvenile looking. But I just seem to like the idea of my partner being either my size or maybe a bit smaller than me. Not like 4’10 or anything, but just a tad smaller. But now i’m worrying, because while I don’t think it’s the same as those 6’5 men who wanna date 5’0 women, maybe other women will see me as the same, especially radfems?:c

Again, it’s not like my future partner or my attraction in general has a height limit, I just, like some tend to prefer curly or straight hair, or like some lesbians hype up taller women, seem to like short women. In general though, big size differences have never appealed to me, neither in media or irl, so maybe it has something to do with it? Since i’m not overly tall myself, perhaps my preference just falls into line.

Sorry i’m rambling. Please be honest!

I'll be 100% honest anon, you are not saying anything that I would even remotely consider creepy or objectifying.

No one is obligated to a specific preference - men or womyn. I personally prefer a womyn who is my height or maybe just two inches taller. I also prefer fuller womyn, whether that is fat or muscle. This would only be an issue if right after you said that was your preference, you started rambling about how taller womyn are actually pieces of shit and that if a womyn has wavy hair then she's ugly lmao. That's only ever been the problem with men saying they don't like to date big womyn. They follow it up shitting on said big womyn instead of leaving it at, "I just prefer thin womyn."

You are not obligated to be attracted to anyone. You're just another gal with preferences.

That wasn’t the original argument. Op didn’t say, ‘JK Rowling does a lot for women but her posts are bad’ it says ‘Rowling isn’t a feminist just Gender Critical.’ That’s why her actual feminist actions are relevant in this conversation in the same way it’d be relevant to bring up The Carnegie Foundation if we were talking about his views and influence on education (but obviously not if we were talking about all the horrible shit he did for workers rights.)

j.k. rowling is probably the biggest example of why i say that TERFs and GC’s aren’t the same group of people and they have a different orientation towards enforcing patriarchy. because rowling isn’t even pretending to be a “feminist.” she never posts about feminist politics. she’s a straight woman doing what they do best i fear (derogatory).

"Men in dresses are seen as bad, but women in pants aren't!"

is not the statement that "men can't be feminine but women can be masculine in society" that you think it is.

Let me introduce: women with facial hair. Full beards. Mustaches. Bald women. Bodybuilder women. Women with visible body hair. These aren't "more acceptable" than men in dresses.

Pants don't have a gendered association anymore, while dresses do. There is something to be said for that, but it certainly ISN'T "masculine women are acceptable now."

You ever notice the difference between how ‘radicalized’ males are treated vs females? I mean it’s a huge case of ‘we all know why’ but you see posts about radicalized males in non-Radfem spaces and about half of them are like ‘they don’t have any friends or support systems :(. The poor babies, they were taught they could only enact their feelings through violence displays.’ There’s this urge to act like grown human males don’t have a sense of autonomy and when they act in their own class interests, it’s a neutral thing.

But females? They’re the group that’s capable of making decisions which means when they do or say evil shit, it’s recognized as a human act of evil (where are the million thought pieces on the way girls are groomed into Tradwife gender role bullshit compared to the amount for actual fucking neo-Nazi males) mind, I have no fondness for either group- though it’s always worth noting which group is more often than not committing actual violence- but it’s so wild how grown ass males are treated like little mindless babies who’s desire for a fuck mommy should outweigh everyone else’s wants by a good number of the populace.

(I haven’t even talked about the homophobia in this fucking thing-)

It GETS me that Whipping Girl is THE book people recommend me to understand Trans feminism and Trans Misogyny. In one breath it’ll bring up how the female body is treated as taboo to the point where the clitoris is viewed as a fucking myth and the next it’ll argue that no oppression happens on the basis of sex. It claims men oppress women because they’re just oh so scared to embrace femininity and if they were allowed to they would embrace women with open arms. It makes homophobic ‘I only see people’s inner essence in their eyes not their genitalia UwU anyone who cares about genitalia during sex is just shallow and phobic’ arguments. I would recommend it to Radfems because every crap tra argument you’ve had comes from this fucking book, but I don’t think it’d change anyone who isn’t already jumping on the concept that males are the biggest victims of patriarchy.