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… What do people even expect the answer to be when someone rejects them and they ask, ‘why?’ Because the ‘why’s’ going to hurt their feelings no matter what, it doesn’t feel good to not get what you want and all. It always happens too, people rarely go, ‘Will you go out with me?’ ‘Oh, no thank you’ ‘understandable have a nice day’ it’s usually ‘well why won’t you date me?’ What do they want from that? To be told they’re not attractive to the person? That they don’t share a lot of interests? There’s no answer that gets people into that, ‘understandable, have a nice day’ position… Part of me thinks it’s just to justify their anger over the situation. ‘I’m not mad that I was told no- I’m totally fine with being told no- but it’s kind of fucked up to not want to be in a relationship for <Any given reason> isn’t love supposed to be beyond that sort of thing?’

I love tone policing the anger of marginalized groups for the comfort of their oppressors. What if the upper class stopped wanting to help the poor (something they wanted to do in the first place, for sure) because we keep making Guillotine memes and threatening them :( what if white people don’t like it when they’re called cracker and have to think about how they benefit from prison and slave labor :(( how can you blame someone for wanting gay people dead if they’re doing it because we keep making ‘are the straights okay?’ Jokes and they heard someone call them a breeder a few times. It’s honestly their fault if people want them dead because they were soooooo meaaaaaaaaaaaaaan :((((((

Alright this is gonna be tough for alot of ya'll to hear but leftist and progressive spaces need to be more welcoming to men especially cis het white men. The more we speak bad about men the more men will go down the alt right pipeline. And obviously that's a bad thing. If we want men to be on our side we should create a space where they can also feel included because if we don't more men will go down the alt right and alpha male pipeline

by insisting humans are sexually dimorphic, the evil terfs apparently reinforce inherently racist western white beauty standards... unlike the good and righteous cosmetic surgery industry which heroically charges people to pursue those exact standards (a reasonable, freestanding desire uninfluenced by any systemic bias) at the risk of their lives and health

I want a wife by Judy Brady really is a summary of why the patriarchy continues to exist. If your capable of never thinking of what the other person might want, if you’re able to dehumanize them enough to never consider that they exist in their own right… Who wouldn’t want a sex mommy who does everything for you and is always pleasant. That’s fundamentally why I don’t think males can escape the patriarchy merely by embracing their own femininity. If the choice is between ‘sometimes people make fun of you if you act a certain way… But you get the (often unhappy but never unpleasant) sex mommy I mentioned earlier’ or ‘You can cry or wear a purse, be as feminine as you want but female people have rights and most of them won’t want to be your sex mommy and will might even require you to help them while they work.’ The only reason to pick the latter is if you actually see female people as human and her wants and needs as equal value to your own (or if you’re not attracted to females, that can build a bridge of empathy but well. Sometimes it’s just a continued expectation of labor except without the sex. Sometimes they still believe in male supremacy but see us as lacking value altogether.) So much of regressive politics around female people are built around this deal it’s kind of ridiculous when people act like it doesn’t exist.

Dear god, I thought shitty modern art would stop at "banana taped to a wall" but now it's escalated to "keep three piglets caged in an art gallery and make them slowly starve to death in front of audiences".

they've been doing that sort of thing for a while, there was one maybe ten years ago where someone displayed a bunch of individual goldfish in powered blenders that the audience could choose to turn on or not

the thing about this sort of stuff though is that the audience response and the audience response TO the audience response is also part of the art, so "me beating your ass in an art gallery for liquifying a fish in front of me" is now a commentary on the the place of individual choice in a larger society.

also someone broke in and stole those piglets, which is an even funnier response, because now this art piece is a commentary on general human decency and there's nothing the artist can do about it

It’s a confusing term decision. Unlike ‘female/male’ or even ‘person with a vagina/person with a penis’, ‘birthing person’ describes an action in the present tense. Think about if I said, “running person”, that would mean the person, at this moment is running.

TERFs act like trans women shouldn't get offended when they call them men "because they are men" and then lose their shit when you call them birthing persons

These kinds of things are always so blatant about what they think womanhood should be- not all of them- but listen to a lot of them for long enough and they’ll say ‘there is a right and wrong way to be a man or woman. It’s something you can be better or worse at based on beauty standards and it’s something possible to fail at.’ It’s so obviously conservative.

Grown women who mock 10-year-old girls on tiktok for using too much makeup and skincare are so ironic and painful to watch.

Acting like these girls didn’t get their ideas from you. They were listening when you were telling them how you should start your retinol treatment as young as you can. They were listening when you told them 30 step routine is a game changer. They were looking at you, at women on the billboards, magazine covers and in the TV shows with perfect skin, perfect eyeshadows, perfect hair and realised they should do the same, they should start as young as they can or it would be too late.

These girls are present when you mock other women for their age. Young women ages 20-30 get bullied for having normal faces. “Oh my god i thought you were 50” at a woman who is clearly in her thirties.

These “helpful tips” how to not get wrinkles which include don’t lift your eyebrows, don’t emote in general, use anti-wrinkle straws, don’t forget to get botox on time.

Red light therapy, sleeping with your mouth sealed, in one position on your back so either side of your face won’t get squished and swollen.

But these little girls are funny, yeah, let’s mock them. Why don’t you mock the promoters of these ideas? Why don’t you mock billion dollar industries? 10-year-olds at Sephora are funny, I wonder if you find the absence of women with real faces on screens as funny