Things Confident People Do, Part 1

But what if… things work out, nothing bad happens, your hard work pays off, you get through this and prove yourself

Fifty shades of pink by Immortal0phelia

Mister Donut Charms

Do yourself a favour and start believing you deserve everything good in life and that nothing is out of reach for you.

Becoming Her: You're Already There!

And how do I know this? Because for years, I was my own biggest bully. Healing that part of me is something I'm learning to do one day at a time.

Last night, I had a really good journaling sess for the first time in a while. It hit me: I already am everything I desire to be. I already am my higher self, even if this current "reality" — the 3D — isn’t showing it yet. And so are you!

You might say this way of thinking is "delulu" or "faking it till you make it," which is maaaybe a little true. But your mind literally shapes your perspective.

Example: I could walk up to you right now and compliment your hairstyle. To me, it's one of the coolest things I've seen today — but if you’re not happy with it, you might ignore or brush off my compliment.

You made “my hair sucks” part of your reality, your "truth" — even though no one has bashed your hair.

No one can shape your world/truth unless you let them.

You're in full control of how you react, the career you choose, the pants you wear. You're also in full control of any limitations or beliefs you’ve picked up — whether from yourself or from others.

If someone says you look better in red, that doesn't make it a fact. It doesn't mean every other color suddenly looks bad on you. That’s their perception of you — their world. If you feel like you look better in blue, then you do. Because it’s your world, and you said so.

You say your dream self is kindhearted, soft, confident, healthy — mentally and physically. Okay, now stop imagining a gap between that version and the you now. There’s no gap anymore.

From here on out, no matter what the 3D shows, you are who you just described. Each day and every action — you become softer. You set your first boundary. You feel more at peace because you journaled or meditated this week. And you might think, "This is only the beginning. I’m not there yet."

Thing is, you are.

You’re doing what your higher self would do. You’re shifting.

No matter what your current beliefs are, you have all the power to rewrite them. You made your old beliefs "true," so you can make new ones true too.

And yes, it's absolutely going to feel like lying to yourself at first. But if you've believed in one thing for years, of course it may take just as many to believe in another.

No one's perception of you is you. YOU know who you are.

You shape your reality.

And I wholeheartedly believe that you and I are already everything we need to be — we're just now learning to see it.

xo, Kay 🪽

everything you need to make your own personal beauty binder 🎀

disclaimer: this post is heavily inspired by @tomb-of-ligeia and @daphne-dauphinoise, and early 2010s beauty youtubers. it’s always kind to credit your inspo <3

inspired by the lookbooks and makeup charts used by makeup artists designers at high fashion runways shows and childhood bratz coloring and activity books. the law of attraction is at use heavily with this binder (writing down goals and wishlists)!

you should be keeping diy recipes you find in here.

*you don’t need a physical binder. some people function better with digital mediums. i prefer anything physical and concrete. but you can do all this in something like a notion, or your notes app, etc.

why? 🎀

a cute girly hobby (esp for type A, anal retentive, or analytical personalities/extremely creative, hands on people) to keep track of your routines, motivate you to keep yourself maintained, and figure out what works best for you. it’s nothing too serious, just a girly pastime for people that maybe buy too many products, slip up on routines, or don’t what looks best on your features. have fun!

what to record in your binder? 🎀

an intro sheet 10 different topics divided by tabbed sections: your personal features, makeup, body, fashion, skincare, hair, fragrance, nails, treatments/procedures, salons/spas/referrals/contacts 🎀

intro sheet 🎀

here, you should keep your goals, desired look, and how you want to perceive yourself.

your personal features

a chart of your color season. mine is cool winter. you can use color season for whatever, i choose to apply it to my makeup.

your natural body shape. this will help you choose the best clothes to flatter your silhouette.

a close up, unfiltered clear photo of your bare face. note your skin type, color, undertone, and any other things that stand out to you.

note what you wanna enhance and what you wanna improve. this will help throughout your binder.

makeup

put on a light layer of every lipstick/lip gloss/etc. you have and make kiss shaped swatches in your binder. note the shade, brand, and finish. then the mood/occasion in which you’d wear it.

swatch all your lip liners, again leaving the details of the product.

swatch your foundation shades. note the finish, name and brand.

make a sheet dedicated to all your “holy grail”, essential products.

swatch your eyeshadow palettes. i have all my shimmer pigments swatches and it’s the prettiest thing to look at.

do you have any go to makeup looks? your casual look, going out look, no makeup makeup look, etc.? do these looks and take high quality pics. make personalized face charts by printing them out and noting the steps and products you used.

take c*nty pics of your lashes after trying on all your mascaras/falsies. note the effects and when you would be most likely to wear them.

print out any pics of interesting makeup looks and products you wanna try.

body

take a stick figure-esque picture of yourself and print it out. any outfit you want to buy, print and clip it out first and see if it’s something you’d wear and actually like.

are you experiencing any skin issues on your body and trying any products? keep track of the issue and how the products are doing.

if you don’t already have one, brainstorm workout routines and general wellness/fitness goals.

what are your fav body products? what products did you buy, and hate? TRACK THEM!

any detoxes/diets you’re doing should be recorded in this section.

record “beauty enhancing” foods and drinks here. mine include matcha, lemon water and acv shots.

fashion

outfit planning! take pics of pieces you already have and clip them out. (i’m doing this currently and keeping them all in a little pocket in my binder).

make a moodboard of your personal style(s). how do you want your closet to look? try to see what details, colors, additions are consistent throughout. when shopping, these are what you should keep track of.

print out your signature clothing color palette if you want to have one.

dedicate a page to accessories you have/want, and how you’d style them.

*this can be expensive but the fashion girls will prob love this* go to the fabric store and buy little swatches that you like. take note of what the fabric is and why you like it.

dedicate a page to all your signature details. all the little specific things that scream YOU and NO ONE else! that means do not write pink, girly, etc. here. that is not exclusive to you, hun.

skincare

take a current filter free photo (make it glam! tie your hair up in a ballerina bun and put on some cute earrings) of the state of your skin. if your skin is perfect, i’m jealous and how does it feel to be god’s fav? if not what problems are you experiencing?

log your current skincare routines and how they’re working.

make a page for your skin type, how it feels when you wake up and how it feels and looks by the end of the day and research tips to deal with your personal skin type.

skincare wishlist! list any products you wanna try and what they are for. sample them from ulta or sephora if it’s possible.

dedicate a page to the skincare ingredients your skin loves the MOST! mine are retinol, bha, and vitamin c.

i have a page for all the extra cute little skincare devices i want. on it there’s a stainless steel gua sha, an ice pack, facial steamer, and pink foreo.

hair

what’s your hair type, density, porosity and curl pattern?

write down any hair goals you have. mine is frizz free tailbone length caramel brown hair with honey blonde highlights by the end of this year.

what’s your signature hairstyle? do you have a signature? brainstorm here.

clip out hairstyle inspo from pinterest and insta and try to recreate all the looks!

what are your fav hair products? i keep track of the best curling creams and leave in conditioners for my hair personally.

take note of any trending products you wanna try.

fragrance

make a moodboard of how you wanna smell. after this, research notes and how they work together.

now track your fav perfumes, your most complimented, etc.

note what fragrances go with what occasion and how they make you feel.

make your perfume wishlist! my fav part!

nails

swatch all your polishes. label them and their finish.

what’s your signature/go to nail look?

do you have any pics of your fav mani + pedis? print them out and write the details you loved the most.

write down your at home mani and pedi routine and it’s frequency.

write your fav colors and styles to wear on your nails. mine are glittery pink, pale pink, white, cream, french tip and pink frenchie. a hyper girly twist on the classics.

treatments/procedures

take note of any surgeries or procedures you want done and what they do.

anything you leave the house to have done regularly, keep track here.

don’t limit yourself! forget your budget! what are some high maintenance treatments you wanna experience? manifest it.

references

write down the sources of which you find great info for beauty and fashion

keep addresses of your fav salons and spas.

keep business contacts of your fav estheticians, stylists, nail techs, etc.

4theitgirls masterlist

workout posts

🎀 30 day workout plan

🎀 “how much exercise should i be doing?”

🎀 ab & core workouts

🎀 all about mobility

🎀 all about yin yoga

🎀 all standing weekly workout routine

🎀 barre workouts

🎀 beginner guide to pilates

🎀 beginner pilates routines

🎀 cardio and hiit pilates routines

🎀 cardio routines

🎀 christmas-themed workouts

🎀 december 2024 workout plan

🎀 february 2025 workout plan

🎀 fitness tips from adriana lima

🎀 full body workout routines

🎀 how to build your own workout routine

🎀 january 2025 workout plan

🎀 lower ab workout routines

🎀 lower body workout routines

🎀 march 2025 workout plan

🎀 mat workouts

🎀 mat workouts pt. 2

🎀 mat workouts pt. 3

🎀 non-cardio non-pilates beginner workouts

🎀 non-yoga stretch routines

🎀 november 2024 workout plan

🎀 pilates routines

🎀 quick standing workout routines

🎀 short workouts, add-ons, and finishers

🎀 standing workout routines

🎀 stretches to get your splits

🎀 tone and flexibility workout routines

🎀 upper body workout routines

🎀 weekly workout routine (equipment included)

🎀 weekly workout routine (no equipment)

🎀 workout plan for beginners

🎀 workouts and stretches for your period

🎀 workouts and yoga for women’s health

🎀 workouts and stretches for posture

🎀 workouts and stretches you can do in bed

🎀 workout youtube channels

🎀 workout youtube channels pt. 2

🎀 yoga routines

study posts

📖 study like blair waldorf

📖 study like elle woods

📖 study methods

📖 study like paris geller

📖 ways to romanticize school

📖 ways to stay organized in school

📖 youtube channels for study motivation

bookish posts

🍵 november 2024 book journal

🍵 december 2024 book journal

🍵 january 2025 book journal

🍵 february 2025 book journal

🍵 youtube channels for the book girlies

miscellaneous posts

🍸 2025 goals and plans of execution

🍸 2025 quarterly overview

🍸 a guide to blair waldorf

🍸 youtube channels to replace mindless scrolling

🍸 christmas gift ideas

🍸 cycle synching

🍸 how to build a routine

🍸 it girl spring cleaning

🍸 it girl youtube channels

🍸 it girl youtube channels pt. 2

🍸 meditations and tips for anxiety

🍸 productive ways to fill your notebooks

🍸 productivity apps for self improvement

I wanna recreate this in purple one day

Me coded ❤︎۶ৎ