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true beauty starts within you!

Remember that your body is a temple ladies! Whatever you put in goes out. This isn’t to say you can’t eat junk food, but we have to be more attentive to what we’re eating as it does impact us more than we think! This is also the same with all the drinking and the za. PUT IT DOWN and go eat some nourishing meals 🧘🏽‍♀️

fostering and living out confidence⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁🍬

CONFIDENCE ANALOGY ;

think of unshakable confidence as a fragrance, there are three layers to fragrance, the base note, mid note and the top note. thats what makes the fragrance stick and creates the scent we love so so much. confidence is similar in that way, its not just a mask or a front, at least not authentic confidence.

SOOO after thinking of this analogy im going to structure todays post like that, just to keep things simple and easy to apply. anyways, lets talk about confidence…💬🎀

BASE NOTE ;

the base of self confidence is self love. period. you can think of a billion other ways to say this but the base will never change. the base of ur self confidence is how much you love yourself. so how do we get a strong base? a strong foundation of self love thats gonna make sure that our self confidence remains intact?

start treating yourself like someone that u care about. treat urself like you would a friend, would you criticize them harshly for every mistake? would you tear them down when they’re struggling? no, you’d encourage them, remind them of their worth, and help them grow. now it’s time to do that for yourself. cuz why are u treating others better than u treat urself?

a really important aspect of self love is FORGIVENESS. forgiving yourself and having compassion for yourself cuz we hold ourselves to such a higher standard then we do others, especially if you're a perfectionist. and that can become really toxic, really quickly.

MID NOTE ;

the mid note of self confidence is trust in yourself. it’s the belief that you can handle whatever life throws your way. it’s knowing that even if you stumble, you’ll figure out how to get back up. its knowing that YOU'LL HAVE UR BACK even if others dont. we can build up our self trust by...

♡ doing what we say we'll do

♡ following thru on promises made to ourselves

♡ practicing self discipline

♡ trust ur gut feeling

♡ say no when u dont want to do something

some words that u can add to ur vocabulary to be more confident and advocate for urself properly is "absolutely not" or simply NO. theres so much power in the word NO so make sure to use it more…💬🎀

♡ honor your feelings and honor your wants + needs

self confidence is the mid note of confidence because without self trust, ur confidence wavers because you’re constantly second guessing your abilities and choices and thats not sustainable at all. you have to know and TRUST that ur that girl. bcuz u are.

TOP NOTE ;

the top note of confidence is how u express yourself. its the top note because thats what radiates outward and its how the world notices u first. self expression is how you own ur individuality, how you voice ur own opinions. how u express urself AUTHENTICALLY. in essence, self-expression is about living boldly and unapologetically as you. because isnt it so freeing to just be who you are? now what are some ways we can cultivate our self expression?

♡ having creative outlets

♡ exploring ur interests

♡ having ur own personal style, signature, brand etc

♡ journalling

GET COMFY IN UR OWN SKIN ; 

i feel like the most confident people are dancers. i feel this way cuz of the way my own confidence SKYROCKETED after i started dancing. i feel like dancing gives u a sense of control over ur own body and its just amazing.

whenever i feel like i need a little boost of confidence or i wanna feel sexy and good in my own skin i DANCE. and i promise that it helps so so much. i dance around in my room in my panties all the time and it’s like therapy. 

embarrassment does NOT exist, stop making urself feel awkward or embarrassed for making mistakes sometimes, learn to laugh and not take everything so seriously.

ALTER EGO CONCEPT ;

an alter ego is a persona you create—someone you embody when you need to channel certain traits, strengths, or energies that you might not fully feel in your everyday self…💬🎀 

using an alter ego is super helpful when it comes to confidence because it helps u to detach from ur insecurities. you temporarily set aside your fears and limitations and adopt the mindset and behaviors of your alter ego.

using alter egos can even help u to access different strengths that u never knew u had because ur removing the limitations that u place on urself. lets talk about how to create an alter ego.

HOW TO CREATE AN ALTER EGO ;

first start off by identifying the traits that u want to have, then give ur alter ego a name and an identity. u can even go as far as to visualize ur alter ego, anchor them with symbols, and practicing embodying them. some examples of people who used the alter ego concept include beyonce with sasha fierce, and kobe bryants black mamba.

* ੈ✩‧₊˚ The B.A.P Handbook 🔱🌸🐆 by Kayln Johnson , Tracy Lewis,Karla Lightfoot ೃ࿔*:･

The Acronym (B.A.P) A ㅤㅤ𝓑͟lack american 𝓟rincess a set of black women archetypes built off the Mindest that emphasizes Respect,Consideration,Humility and the way one carries herself from a young age and upbringing from privilege of young black women while remaining humble and generous of their Blessings

The Acronym most notable known from the Halle Berry & Natalie Desselle 1997 Comedy B.A.P.S it combines are set of three Archetypes of “Bapitude”

The Betty

A BAP of birthright she carries herself with an unshakeable belif that she is meant to be and have the best of the best with amazing achievements,manners and Amazing Style who is a perfectionist in everything she does and maintain classy,humble and Flawless !

The Boho

A Quirky,free spirited, Funky BAP by Birthright shes born into a high social and economic environment that embraces tradition but she moves to the beat of her own drum with and unorthodox lifestyle she’s an openminded free thinker who prioritizes her happiness and expression herself despite societies standards and a social conscious presence

The Butterfly

The Butterfly is not a BAP by birthright but one who is from modest beginnings through her lifes as adapted and cultivated her BAPITUDE through the guidance and mindset of a betty and a boho and her metamorphosis truly makes her blossom by her resilience

The Bogus

The Bogus is not a bap by birthright or a bap truly all her bapitude is all in her head because she lacks the true understanding of what it means to be a bap and defines herself and her worth solely based on appearance and material possessions with no true substance to her while romanticizing negative stereotypes about herself

- 𝓐 Thanks for tuning in my pretties i hope ive helped you learn something new with this blog post also credit to @ebonyarchival on tiktok for the inspiration to post this and @anitalenia for the banner up top bye bye!!! 🫶🏼

eating in regards to each phase you’re in can be extremely beneficial to how you feel, how your symptoms are and how your body functions.

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"Class is not about the clothes you wear or the car you drive. It's about the way you carry yourself and treat others with respect and kindness."

- The Black Feminine Society 💋

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At Home Workouts To Do When Your Leveling Up (Part 2)

(None of these photos are mine)

“Let’s do those things that we’re scared of doing. Let’s do the really important things—and not give a ✌to what people think.” - Vita Sidorkina

1. 10 MINUTE AB WORKOUT | Alexis Ren

2. 30 Minute Full Body Workout | Move With Nicole

3. 10 Minute Everyday Full Body Workout | Lidia Mera

4. INTENSE (beware) 35MIN Workout | afit

5. 15MIN Fully Body Pilates Burn Workout | Madeleine Abeid

6. 10MIN SLIM FULLY BODY WORKOUT | Shirlyn Kim

"Just get up in the morning every day, do you, be you, and just do what you want. Honestly, just be at ease, be free.” Lais Ribeiro

Remember to take time for yourself and to stay pretty 💗

Xoxo, Arielleslipgloss 💋🎀