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fostering and living out confidence⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁🍬

CONFIDENCE ANALOGY ;

think of unshakable confidence as a fragrance, there are three layers to fragrance, the base note, mid note and the top note. thats what makes the fragrance stick and creates the scent we love so so much. confidence is similar in that way, its not just a mask or a front, at least not authentic confidence.

SOOO after thinking of this analogy im going to structure todays post like that, just to keep things simple and easy to apply. anyways, lets talk about confidence…💬🎀

BASE NOTE ;

the base of self confidence is self love. period. you can think of a billion other ways to say this but the base will never change. the base of ur self confidence is how much you love yourself. so how do we get a strong base? a strong foundation of self love thats gonna make sure that our self confidence remains intact?

start treating yourself like someone that u care about. treat urself like you would a friend, would you criticize them harshly for every mistake? would you tear them down when they’re struggling? no, you’d encourage them, remind them of their worth, and help them grow. now it’s time to do that for yourself. cuz why are u treating others better than u treat urself?

a really important aspect of self love is FORGIVENESS. forgiving yourself and having compassion for yourself cuz we hold ourselves to such a higher standard then we do others, especially if you're a perfectionist. and that can become really toxic, really quickly.

MID NOTE ;

the mid note of self confidence is trust in yourself. it’s the belief that you can handle whatever life throws your way. it’s knowing that even if you stumble, you’ll figure out how to get back up. its knowing that YOU'LL HAVE UR BACK even if others dont. we can build up our self trust by...

♡ doing what we say we'll do

♡ following thru on promises made to ourselves

♡ practicing self discipline

♡ trust ur gut feeling

♡ say no when u dont want to do something

some words that u can add to ur vocabulary to be more confident and advocate for urself properly is "absolutely not" or simply NO. theres so much power in the word NO so make sure to use it more…💬🎀

♡ honor your feelings and honor your wants + needs

self confidence is the mid note of confidence because without self trust, ur confidence wavers because you’re constantly second guessing your abilities and choices and thats not sustainable at all. you have to know and TRUST that ur that girl. bcuz u are.

TOP NOTE ;

the top note of confidence is how u express yourself. its the top note because thats what radiates outward and its how the world notices u first. self expression is how you own ur individuality, how you voice ur own opinions. how u express urself AUTHENTICALLY. in essence, self-expression is about living boldly and unapologetically as you. because isnt it so freeing to just be who you are? now what are some ways we can cultivate our self expression?

♡ having creative outlets

♡ exploring ur interests

♡ having ur own personal style, signature, brand etc

♡ journalling

GET COMFY IN UR OWN SKIN ; 

i feel like the most confident people are dancers. i feel this way cuz of the way my own confidence SKYROCKETED after i started dancing. i feel like dancing gives u a sense of control over ur own body and its just amazing.

whenever i feel like i need a little boost of confidence or i wanna feel sexy and good in my own skin i DANCE. and i promise that it helps so so much. i dance around in my room in my panties all the time and it’s like therapy. 

embarrassment does NOT exist, stop making urself feel awkward or embarrassed for making mistakes sometimes, learn to laugh and not take everything so seriously.

ALTER EGO CONCEPT ;

an alter ego is a persona you create—someone you embody when you need to channel certain traits, strengths, or energies that you might not fully feel in your everyday self…💬🎀 

using an alter ego is super helpful when it comes to confidence because it helps u to detach from ur insecurities. you temporarily set aside your fears and limitations and adopt the mindset and behaviors of your alter ego.

using alter egos can even help u to access different strengths that u never knew u had because ur removing the limitations that u place on urself. lets talk about how to create an alter ego.

HOW TO CREATE AN ALTER EGO ;

first start off by identifying the traits that u want to have, then give ur alter ego a name and an identity. u can even go as far as to visualize ur alter ego, anchor them with symbols, and practicing embodying them. some examples of people who used the alter ego concept include beyonce with sasha fierce, and kobe bryants black mamba.

polished princess doll tips

🍨 doing your skincare every morning and every night! you don’t have to wear makeup 24/7 if you don’t want to but your face should ALWAYS be clean, moisturized, and protected with spf!!

🍨 keeping your facial hair well groomed!! so if you like waxing, threading, tinting for your eyebrows!! also tweezing and shaving any peach fuzz around your lip!! (i used to slack so bad with my eyebrows but recently i’ve been shaving them for the soft straight brow style!!

🍨 if you can’t get your nails and toes done all the time make sure they’re filed, well shaped, cut, and moisturized!! foot and hand masks are so easy and not super expensive!

🍨 always smell good!! even if it’s just body spray and not perfume make sure you have SOMETHING on!! and not just one or two spritz- DROWN yourself in it! the air and room should smell like a pretty bakery or sweet floral garden when you’re around!

🍨 moisturize your entire body! after every shower and before you leave your house!! and i LOVE scented lotions, they make my perfume waft and last so much longer!!

🧸 scent tip: rubbing the stick vaseline on your pressure points where you spray your perfume for longevity!!🧸

🍨 always have on some form of jewelry!! stud earring, hoop earrings, a necklace, a bracelet, anything you want!! but jewelry is always such a dainty and pretty accessory and just makes you look girly and put together

🍨 make sure your lips are soft and glossy!! chapped lips are NOT polished, pretty, or doll like!! i reapply my lip gloss any time, any place!!

🍨 no more sloppy clothes outside!! no stains, nothing ill fitting. You don’t always have to be dressed up, but if you’re dressed down it doesn’t have to be sloppy!! you can wear a t shirt, but make it cute- so cute colors like pink, cute designs on it like hello kitty, etc!!

born 2 be spoiled n’pampered like the princess I am ♡

₊⊹⁀➴ princess-like beauty affs ⟡﹒⪩⪨ 👛

🌸 I’m literally the most prettiest person on the planet. people stare at me in awe because of how jaw droppingly delicious I look

🎀 my skin is always smooth, clear, and glowy asf. people literally mistake me for a mirror because of my pretty radiant skin

🌸 I am naturally the most attractive in the room, I don’t even have to try but I mog everyone even without makeup on

🎀I love how I can get lost in my face in the mirror bc im that pretty and cute, im so easy to stare at, im undeniably perfect

🌸 I have long luscious lashes and the most beautiful facial structure that makes me look like a living daydream, every part of me is captivating, uniquely sexy nd perfect

🎀 pretty privilege is a real thing and im having a blast, ppl cant say no to my pretty face and charm which allows me to attract any person i want, im spoiled like a princess

🌸 im extremely photogenic and look amazing in every single photo, like every photo naturally makes me look 100x more attractive

🎀 everyone is smitten over my beauty and everyone compares my face to that of a heavensent angel

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Investment Pieces Every Woman Should Own 💐🤍

Hey cuties! Here are some investment pieces that every woman should own. These are things that probably cost a bit more but in the long run the quality and reliability will last you forever. Now I don’t have all of these yet but I am in the process of saving up for good quality versions of all these products. These are things that you can have for a life time.

Simple Black heels

Perfect for any outfit, from job interviews to dates.

Get a nice pair of leather heels that fit well. Once fully broken in they will become the perfect shoes for any more formal occasions.

Simple 2-3inch heel fits pretty much any occasion.

A good quality blow dryer.

Very necessary for keeping your hair well kept and presentable.

I imagine a diffuser would be the best if you have curly hair (I don’t have curly hair so feel free to correct me and leave suggestions for reliable hair tools for all hair types)

Something that works quickly and gives you a reliable style without too much heat damage.

A genuine wool coat.

Let’s face it regular puffers are warm but can ruin your outfit completely.

So buy a high quality wool coat that fits you well that can go with any winter outfits. You obviously can still have the puffer but it’s always nice to have pieces that add to your outfit.

A perfume scent that you love

Having a signature sent is just so iconic.

I learned this from the biggest icon in my life my 100 year old great grandma who still uses her Chanel 5 everyday just as she has for 80 years. (Such a baddie for real)

I am currently in the process of trying to find a perfume that I love and want to wear for the rest of my life.

Red lipstick

I feel like people hate on red lipstick purely because they haven’t find the right red shade for them.

Red is one of those colors that if you get the wrong undertone it looks clownish and not chic.

I recommend spending some time finding the right undertone and red. And then hoping it never gets discontinued.

While you don’t need it all the time it can be such a perfect touch to have red lips

Simple jewelry that doesn’t tarnish.

I am one of those people that wears the same necklace and earrings everyday. The reason I do this is because I invested in pieces that wouldn’t tarnish and now I have instant outfit upgrades that are comfortable without leaving my skin green.

I do add other jewelry on top but I think having simple jewelry that you can add more fun pieces to as the outfit calls for it is so necessary.

When I was thinking of this list I was also thinking of things that you might pass down to your daughters. You wouldn’t pass down your SHEIN dress but you probably would pass down a good quality dress. Obviously these are expensive I have like 2 things from this list but I am currently using this list as a way of motivating me to use my money wisely. I have a system set up so I use these as a reward for good spending habits and putting away money.

Xoxo 💋